reeciecup Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I recently snooped through my bf facebook because I had a gut feeling something wasn't right. I wasn't expecting this but, I read through a stream of messages he had with a women the night before. He indicated to her that he couldn't stand me most of the time and that he was going to breakup with me but then found out I was pregnant..my son is just 2 months old now..and he also said that he messed up and should have stayed single and that the only reason he is with me is because he doesn't want me taking his money and living a good life with it. I don't know who this women is or how he knows her but they talk occasionally and there never has been any indication that more was going on..anyway I broke up with him over this because I feel like if that's how he felt he should have been man enough to tell me plus we were still together and live in the same house..this was just the icing on the cake because previously he's done similar things and more. I think as the mother of his newborn I deserve and demand more respect. When I confronted him he says he only told her that because he feels like that when we argue but that he loves me and likes being around me. But in the convo he made no mention of that, he said nothing good about me..my son is my first priority and it is a shame that his father is that dumb..I feel like hes fake and using me if this is how he really feels...we all say things to friends or family sometimes that may annoy us about our partner but I think this is overboard and it hurts..is this overreacting?
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I recently snooped through my bf facebook because I had a gut feeling something wasn't right. I wasn't expecting this but, I read through a stream of messages he had with a women the night before. He indicated to her that he couldn't stand me most of the time and that he was going to breakup with me but then found out I was pregnant..my son is just 2 months old now..and he also said that he messed up and should have stayed single and that the only reason he is with me is because he doesn't want me taking his money and living a good life with it. I don't know who this women is or how he knows her but they talk occasionally and there never has been any indication that more was going on..anyway I broke up with him over this because I feel like if that's how he felt he should have been man enough to tell me plus we were still together and live in the same house..this was just the icing on the cake because previously he's done similar things and more. I think as the mother of his newborn I deserve and demand more respect. When I confronted him he says he only told her that because he feels like that when we argue but that he loves me and likes being around me. But in the convo he made no mention of that, he said nothing good about me..my son is my first priority and it is a shame that his father is that dumb..I feel like hes fake and using me if this is how he really feels...we all say things to friends or family sometimes that may annoy us about our partner but I think this is overboard and it hurts..is this overreacting? Noooooooo you are so not overreacting!!! If he felt that way he should have been man enough to say it, if he didn't and "it's all an act for her" then it's a seriously red flag!!! Look after you and your son, you guys are the priority now. He needs to get his head from up his ass and grow up!!
babycakees Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You are NOT overreacting. This would have infuriated me. He's confiding in another woman about things he doesn't like about you and your relationship. This is a huge problem. I say you made the right decision. Hopefully you can work out some way to co-parent together. Good luck 1
Phantom888 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 He's not just venting. He was being honest during his online conversation, which was not meant for you to read. This is how he truly feels. Hopefully your child would not have to endure such drama. Just raise him right (separately), and put your differences behind for the child.
gaius Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 That's a common tactic used by guys who are up to no good on some level with other women. They'll bash the woman they're with to give the impression they're not really happy so the new one thinks she's not just some piece of ass on the side, but he really likes her better. At the end of the day if he didn't really want to be with you he would have left. Unless you're supporting him financially or something. 1
Cakess Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I'm sorry you're boyfriend is a jerk. But you were right to demand more from your 'partner'. I still have to learn how to do this for myself Continue with this, and move out soon.
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Good for you for having the courage to break it off with him! I'm sorry to hear of your misfortune but I sincerely think this is the best thing you could have done. How someone speaks of their ex, never mind their current partner, speaks VOLUMES of one's character and this guy has none. Sorry for the brutality of my response but I have zero tolerance for people who act this way. Immature, disrespectful and cowardly are all that I can say about him. I sincerely wish you and your child the very best because you deserve it! I know it can't and won't be easy but you did good Hugs!
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