iDrumKing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Since the begging of this week I've been able to keep cool, calm, and collected. Thought periods of my ex GF became shorter and shorter. Just last week I was crying in the middle of my room mourning because I was starting to forget what she looked like and the things we did because some part of my wanted to continue that life. That wasn't an option or a choice I'd pick if it was. I've only been on LS for a couple of weeks and I check it everyday to see what new problems arise for newly BUs. People begging NC but end up breaking it. You have to have the willpower to control what you feel and think about... You have the ability. I.E. Last night at the gym I was on a treadmill. I kicked my heart rate up to about 170 BPM running for 3 miles. When I got done, for fun I wanted to see if I could control my heart rate and slow it down quickly. So I grabbed the sensor bars and start to breathe calmly. I relaxed my mind. No kidding I got it down to 85ish BPM in about 15-20. Now some of your might say well of course it's gonna slow down voluntarily, yes but I forced it to do it faster. Same concept can be applied to getting out a BU. Moral of the story, you control what you do physically and mentally. Nobody has that control but you. Some of you say that you can't stop thinking about the good ol' days. Well, of course you can't. When you think about something, your MAKING A CHOICE to think about it. Easier said than done? Not really. If it starts to creep up on you, then make a choice to think about or do something else. Just some advice, and something that clicked with me today that I wanted to share. 3
Natasha94 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Well good for your. I know I only blame myself for feeling like I have to suffer because of the facts instead of controlling them. After all that time, I understand that if you want to be happy, you need to stop enduring. Thank you for sharing
somedude81 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 It's so much easier to be no contact when your ex has blocked your number and email address.....
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