FrostBlaze Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 (edited) Hello hello, once again ^^. A question for the ladies of these forums(18 to 30 of age preferably...generation issues xD), sure males can answer too. If a man had VERY little to NO dating experience and zero sexual experience. Oh yeah a unexperienced youngling wouldn't be a issue... let's say 24 years + Male. Would you flip him off or give a dating chance? Your opinion on how you would handle this is much appreciated, and your opinion on how you know most people handle this situation. The question is practically a depiction of myself since i am having no luck whatsoever, the moment they figure me out wich is rather easy, it's a deal-breaker. Unless i find a equally unexperienced woman, but even those look down on this...such as my ex, details. Noone has the time and patience to teach me what i should of known by now that's the general answer, so i should just go single for the rest of my life. PS: Plz post honest answers, even i you think it may offend me in any way, i don't mind. Edited March 19, 2014 by FrostBlaze
mukkrakker Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 The question is practically a depiction of myself Is your "friend" a nice guy? Personable, funny, kind, caring, good looking? (You do know we were all virgins to start with…? This is not new, every person goes through some semblance of this to varying degrees)
gaius Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Women in general take you as you are. Don't really hold your past against you. If you're 500 pounds, lose 300 and they'll take you. One of the great things about them! If you offer what they're looking for despite not having dated before they'll take you as well. Which includes a bit of confidence, a good time and a hard on when they're around. Don't make a huge deal out of it.
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Confused by your choice of words. I'm not that bad looking, a lil out of shape, some women say i'm attractive, i've never had someone tell me i am not directly, they might of thought it xD. I think i look fine when i look in the mirror ^^ so that's that, not photogenic however . I am funny, kind, caring, and i think i know where you are getting at, no i am not a push-over. However my lack of experience shows clearly, as much as i try to FORCE it with my brain to keep it cool, i can't, i am very nervous. I try to be all flirlty and get close/touchy, but they notice right away that i am sortof "stumbling" and not done it before. Also my hands get shaky from nerves, i don't even notice it, one girl just told me once xD. Don't deviate from the initial question.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 However my lack of experience shows clearly, as much as i try to FORCE it with my brain to keep it cool, i can't, i am very nervous. I try to be all flirlty and get close/touchy, but they notice right away that i am sortof "stumbling" and not done it before. Also my hands get shaky from nerves, i don't even notice it, one girl just told me once xD. In complete honesty, if it showed that much (and I am not saying there's anything wrong with that), then I probably wouldn't pursue a relationship with or date him. I don't ask a man about his dating history - period - so if you acted like a normal dude, there's a chance I might never even find out about your limited experience - and if I did, it wouldn't bother me. But I'm not totally sure I could be interested in or attracted to someone who is so clearly nervous/inexperienced. But I am 26, have been in a few relationships, and I am getting married this year. You and I are at vastly different places in our lives. A young 20-something with similarly limited experience to you likely would not find your nerves to be a turn-off (maybe she'd be nervous, too!). So take my response realizing that not every 20-something will feel the same way I do.
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 (edited) I allready met enough to know most of them act the same way. Like i said even inexperienced girls like me turned me down, so, yeah. I guess the lack of responses to this thread, are people avoiding telling me what i allready know ^^. Oh well. Edited March 19, 2014 by FrostBlaze
gaius Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I would have responded again Frost but I had no idea who you were talking to since you didn't quote anyone. Or seem to tailor your reply to anyone in particular. At the end of the day even an inexperienced girl doesn't want a guy who can't even bring himself to touch her without shivering and shaking. You just gotta find a way to bring out confidence in yourself even though you don't have experience. It's the litmus test for having sex without paying for it.
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 (edited) I would have responded again Frost but I had no idea who you were talking to since you didn't quote anyone. Or seem to tailor your reply to anyone in particular. At the end of the day even an inexperienced girl doesn't want a guy who can't even bring himself to touch her without shivering and shaking. You just gotta find a way to bring out confidence in yourself even though you don't have experience. It's the litmus test for having sex without paying for it. There is no workaround for my behavior, this anxiety that i seem to have, sometimes i have to take a chill pill, and still... Guess i have to keep trying and get rejected till i immunize myself >_> as they say. In such a small town i'm a run out of women ). Sure i have the confidence to GO for it, but i don't have confidence in what i am doing, since i have tried and failed. The inexperience haunts me, idk how to kiss even honest truth, my first and only was a epic fail, even if people say it comes natural, sure as hell didn't for me. Ya think i can convince some lady friends of mine to practice with me? haha xD. Wonder how they would react. Edited March 20, 2014 by FrostBlaze
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