readynow Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Hello people, I'm hoping you can help :-) So I've been seeing this new guy for about a month. It's been great and I've been taking things slow - I actually like this guy and want it to work. He seems very into me and he shows it, he takes me out, calls and texts, it's going well. It's his birthday this weekend and he made it clear that he'd like to spend the day with me. Now, for someone who hasn't ever planned a date or paid, I feel very awkward. I'm glad he wants to spend the day with me but I'm just lost as to what to do. I don't want to take him on a random lunch date - seems a bit boring. Have you got any ideas on what I can do to make the day special for him? I don't know if he's my 'boyfriend', I think he thinks he is because of the things he says but we haven't talked about it and I don't want to assume - discussion for another thread! We haven't had sex - I'm not looking to jump in too soon until I know I really want to be with him etc so I'm avoiding all those scenarios He takes me out on romantic dates, holds my hand, kisses me. I'm late 30s, he's late 40s. He's a great guy so I want to do something romantic and special. So ladies, what have you done in this situation? Gents, what could a woman you really liked (a woman you were dating, trying to impress, starting to really fall for) do on your birthday to make you feel special and appreciated? Thanks in advance!
David87 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You don't know if he's you're boyfriend... From your story he is. Taking into consideration the fact that you dated for only a month I would say to get him something symbolic and not make a big deal out of it. Have lunch or diner together, maybe he has something planned out already. Hello people, I'm hoping you can help :-) So I've been seeing this new guy for about a month. It's been great and I've been taking things slow - I actually like this guy and want it to work. He seems very into me and he shows it, he takes me out, calls and texts, it's going well. It's his birthday this weekend and he made it clear that he'd like to spend the day with me. Now, for someone who hasn't ever planned a date or paid, I feel very awkward. I'm glad he wants to spend the day with me but I'm just lost as to what to do. I don't want to take him on a random lunch date - seems a bit boring. Have you got any ideas on what I can do to make the day special for him? I don't know if he's my 'boyfriend', I think he thinks he is because of the things he says but we haven't talked about it and I don't want to assume - discussion for another thread! We haven't had sex - I'm not looking to jump in too soon until I know I really want to be with him etc so I'm avoiding all those scenarios He takes me out on romantic dates, holds my hand, kisses me. I'm late 30s, he's late 40s. He's a great guy so I want to do something romantic and special. So ladies, what have you done in this situation? Gents, what could a woman you really liked (a woman you were dating, trying to impress, starting to really fall for) do on your birthday to make you feel special and appreciated? Thanks in advance!
Gaeta Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 My ex-boyfriend had his birthday 3 weeks after we met. I did not buy anything to him. I used that opportunity to show him my cooking talent I made a nice dinner with wine and baked him a triple chocolate cake he was ecstatic. 2
Grumpybutfun Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 My ex-boyfriend had his birthday 3 weeks after we met. I did not buy anything to him. I used that opportunity to show him my cooking talent I made a nice dinner with wine and baked him a triple chocolate cake he was ecstatic. ^^^^ This would be perfect. A way to my heart is doing, not buying. My stomach would love you and my sweet tooth would remind me of you daily if you baked.:love: G 1
Author readynow Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Hm, thanks guys but he made it seem he wanted to 'do' something like go somewhere, something like a lunch date / daytime thing. Cooking dinner for him is something I intend to do in the coming weeks - I already promised to do that so it wouldn't seem special in my case. I really don't know if he is my boyfriend though. I don't know if he's seeing other people, he doesn't know if I am... My last boyfriend, on his birthday, he took me to lunch but I had bought him a present he really liked. This one seems to just want to do something with me.
clia Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 The easiest thing to do would be to just take him out for lunch or dinner. Planning a date is no different than planning an evening (or day) out with your girlfriends. Decide what you want to do and then make the plan. It's not difficult at all. If you want to take him to eat, pick a cool restaurant that you think he would like, make a reservation, take him there, and treat him. If you want to do something other than a meal, do some research to see what is going on in your city. Any concerts in town? How about a brewery tour? How about wine tasting? Any festivals going on that you could go to? Could you go walk around the zoo or to a park? Etc... If you want to give him a gift, do not spend too much money, and nothing "lovey." You've only been dating him a month and you two aren't exclusive. Something like a book, a t-shirt, some gadget he might like, would be fine. Or just bake him some cupcakes or cookies.
preraph Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Just ask him what he wants to do. It may be too soon to even buy a real present. Maybe instead of a present, bake him some cookies, something like that.
Author readynow Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Thanks for your inputs... One thing though, isn't baking cupcakes and cookies a 'wifey' thing to be doing?
CarrieT Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You can find something juvenile and fun - GoKarts or Miniature Golf and lunch - may be a picnic?... It will be interactive for the both of you (i.e., involve talking and not sitting in a dark theater or something like a movie). Make it a day of fun and lightness. If he is 40-ish, he might enjoy pinball machines and whatnot. Have a picnic ready and after some play, find a park for a picnic with nice sandwiches, the cupcake, and wine.
soccerrprp Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 (edited) I say don't do anything special. Just go on another date, but give him a card or cupcake or buy him lunch/dinner for his birthday. I wouldn't don anything "special." A simple, near-effortless acknowledgement should be enough. Edited March 19, 2014 by soccerrprp 1
Author readynow Posted April 12, 2014 Author Posted April 12, 2014 Sorry I forgot to update - I took him to this museum - boring, I know - but he had been going on and on about how he'd never been and missed the visit several times. So I booked a tour and surprised him - as well as those cupcakes y'all suggested, but I bought those He's my boyftiend now by the way - complete with exclusivity talk and laying out of intentions all initiated by him 2
mercuryshadow Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Hm, thanks guys but he made it seem he wanted to 'do' something like go somewhere, something like a lunch date / daytime thing. Cooking dinner for him is something I intend to do in the coming weeks - I already promised to do that so it wouldn't seem special in my case. I really don't know if he is my boyfriend though. I don't know if he's seeing other people, he doesn't know if I am... My last boyfriend, on his birthday, he took me to lunch but I had bought him a present he really liked. This one seems to just want to do something with me. My FI and I had been dating only a few months when his birthday came, and since we both enjoy craft beers, I found a small beer festival with food and music to take him to. Afterward, we walked around town, got dinner, etc. He cites this as the best birthday he's ever had. Consider what your bf is interested in, and do some research. You might find an event happening that fits the bill perfectly.
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