I've crushed on this girl for years, how would you proceed?

[Emissary]

The long story made shorter-ish, I work in the mall at Timmy's, I am the Lord of Coffee and the mall bows before me for my sustenance. I've been there for years and naturally I've come to know quite a few people, some closer than others. There have been many crushes that came and went, but there is one that has lingered for a couple of years now.

 

By most people's account, she's rather ugly. Yet for some reason, I think her quite beautiful, and everytime I see her, I'm ecstatic. She is quite single, and I would love nothing more than to take her out, at least just once.

 

I did make a move on her of sorts, but it failed for most intents and purposes. I went for a more feeble approach by scouting her workplace(also in the mall) out and dropping in when she was alone and pretty much doing nothing at all just to chat a bit. After a few times doing this, I got up the courage and gave her my number, saying I'd like to know her better. She said she would text me, but she never did, but she became quite a bit more friendly to me after that.

 

So here we are 6 months later, I see her maybe a few times a week, we still mesh great together, the vibe I get whenever we lock eyes and smile is unlike anything I've ever felt before, especially I consider the vibes I get from the ones I outright failed to win over. Today it wasn't very busy, so we got to talk a little more lengthily than usual. As we bid each other farewell, it kind of turned to when we would see each other next, she said she would see me on Thursday, but I told her that was my day off sadly.

 

The logical side of me plainly says that I already made my move and further efforts will be fruitless. Yet I have half a mind to go to that mall on Thursday to seek her out and ask her out. I have some suspicions that she's never had a boyfriend, and is rather green when it comes to playing the game. Perhaps this impeded my previous attempt. I try not to turn to wishful thinking, but I can't help myself here.

[Assasda]

You seem very needy, and very weak,

 

First of all, You dont "Take" a girl on a date, you bother "Go" on a date together. She's not a possession.

 

If you feel inclinded to go up to the mall on thursday you should. Tell her that youre going to the movies on "BLANK" day and you'd like her to accompany you.

 

Dont be jealous and insecure

[topaMAXX]

The long story made shorter-ish, I work in the mall at Timmy's, I am the Lord of Coffee and the mall bows before me for my sustenance. I've been there for years and naturally I've come to know quite a few people, some closer than others. There have been many crushes that came and went, but there is one that has lingered for a couple of years now.

 

By most people's account, she's rather ugly. Yet for some reason, I think her quite beautiful, and everytime I see her, I'm ecstatic. She is quite single, and I would love nothing more than to take her out, at least just once.

 

I did make a move on her of sorts, but it failed for most intents and purposes. I went for a more feeble approach by scouting her workplace(also in the mall) out and dropping in when she was alone and pretty much doing nothing at all just to chat a bit. After a few times doing this, I got up the courage and gave her my number, saying I'd like to know her better. She said she would text me, but she never did, but she became quite a bit more friendly to me after that.

 

So here we are 6 months later, I see her maybe a few times a week, we still mesh great together, the vibe I get whenever we lock eyes and smile is unlike anything I've ever felt before, especially I consider the vibes I get from the ones I outright failed to win over. Today it wasn't very busy, so we got to talk a little more lengthily than usual. As we bid each other farewell, it kind of turned to when we would see each other next, she said she would see me on Thursday, but I told her that was my day off sadly.

 

The logical side of me plainly says that I already made my move and further efforts will be fruitless. Yet I have half a mind to go to that mall on Thursday to seek her out and ask her out. I have some suspicions that she's never had a boyfriend, and is rather green when it comes to playing the game. Perhaps this impeded my previous attempt. I try not to turn to wishful thinking, but I can't help myself here.

 

That's where you're wrong. I've been turned down 4+ times by girls before and ended up getting them.

 

If you want her, go after her. Just be cool about it.

[melell]

I don't think you seem needy and weak, I am not sure why the above poster got that impression.

 

You are thinking/feeling the way most do when they like someone. You know you gave her the opportunity, she didn't reciprocate, but you still like her so naturally you are still thinking about the possibilities/if potential remains.

 

I don't see anything wrong with you putting yourself out there, actually I think it is quite refreshing that you would consider doing that again, if nothing else just to know for sure whether she is interested or not.

 

Worst case scenario-you get rejected. If you can handle that, go for it.

[preraph]

Next time you see her, ask her out to a specific thing on a specific day. "Hey, you want to go see on Friday?" (or whenever her day off is.) You need to be more assertive. The worst thing that can happen is she can turn you down.