right mindset and you win the game

[sly_fly1]

i found some articals of others experiences on the internet and i have seen from personal experience that if someone is emotionally abusing you, sometimes the best weapon is changing your whole mindset. see these people you loved know you so well, they can get under your skin in seconds. with your ex partner it often seems to be a power struggle i find, who texts who first, who caves in first, once one caves the other has the power, back and forth, who has sex with someone else first, before the other does,gotta stay on top of the other and so on. its all power play, but i found that just changing your mind set and not giving a damb seems to be the most powerful weapon. i tried this a few times and got amazing results.

 

i kinda stepped back and realized what was it that made me so mad that my exs did when they ignored me. it wasnt the fact that they were only ignoring me.but from the dumpees point of view, what made me most mad is that it seemed like they did not care at all ! through everything and thick and thin they seemed like they didnt care, but the funny thing is most of it was in my head. because i hadnt talked to most of them. yeah they told me to screw off they dont care, that did the most damage.

 

so i tried it back one day with an ex, i waited a few months. when she texted me, and what became a very upsetting event in my life became halarious and predictable. i predicted her every move. when she texted she started off just basic hey, hows it going, i would keep the conversation just like two acquaintances were talking. then when she would stop replying, so would i, then she would drop some break crumbs like i miss ya or ive been thinking of you, i would reply with cocky "who wouldnt" remarks.

 

finally she would snap and drop more and more, just trying to get me chasing her, i found it very entertaining as me and my friends began to gamble and make bets on the next text she would send, i was making money!

 

anyways, she eventually caved and got her friend to try and ask me out for her, i gladly rejected her and she fell into depression and stopped coming to school,

 

of course this happend about 8 years ago, but just thought id share my little story

 

does anyone else agree that changing your mindset and not caring at all can really be the best defence against the emotional abuser.

 

because it seems like asoon as the table is turned to your side, instant power. all the pain and sadness goes away. do you agree?

[Lacey.]

i found some articals of others experiences on the internet and i have seen from personal experience that if someone is emotionally abusing you, sometimes the best weapon is changing your whole mindset. see these people you loved know you so well, they can get under your skin in seconds. with your ex partner it often seems to be a power struggle i find, who texts who first, who caves in first, once one caves the other has the power, back and forth, who has sex with someone else first, before the other does,gotta stay on top of the other and so on. its all power play, but i found that just changing your mind set and not giving a damb seems to be the most powerful weapon. i tried this a few times and got amazing results.

 

i kinda stepped back and realized what was it that made me so mad that my exs did when they ignored me. it wasnt the fact that they were only ignoring me.but from the dumpees point of view, what made me most mad is that it seemed like they did not care at all ! through everything and thick and thin they seemed like they didnt care, but the funny thing is most of it was in my head. because i hadnt talked to most of them. yeah they told me to screw off they dont care, that did the most damage.

 

so i tried it back one day with an ex, i waited a few months. when she texted me, and what became a very upsetting event in my life became halarious and predictable. i predicted her every move. when she texted she started off just basic hey, hows it going, i would keep the conversation just like two acquaintances were talking. then when she would stop replying, so would i, then she would drop some break crumbs like i miss ya or ive been thinking of you, i would reply with cocky "who wouldnt" remarks.

 

finally she would snap and drop more and more, just trying to get me chasing her, i found it very entertaining as me and my friends began to gamble and make bets on the next text she would send, i was making money!

 

anyways, she eventually caved and got her friend to try and ask me out for her, i gladly rejected her and she fell into depression and stopped coming to school,

 

of course this happend about 8 years ago, but just thought id share my little story

 

does anyone else agree that changing your mindset and not caring at all can really be the best defence against the emotional abuser.

 

because it seems like asoon as the table is turned to your side, instant power. all the pain and sadness goes away. do you agree?

Completely agree its all in the mind. My ex and I would go through this power struggle for 3 years and has admitted that sometimes I would be on top sometimes he would be on top and its just a back and forth game.

 

But I've realized from experience (may not be for everyone) that once the person who cared the most STOPS. It will be devastating to the one who didn't. They never thought that day would come, and they work 10 X harder to get you back.