SugarHibiscus Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Once you cross the line, you can never go back. I never thought I could be unfaithful, but I crossed the line big time. Now I will always consider myself a cheater. (I'm not saying I'm going to cheat again, but I know that I'm capable of doing it. Not something I'm proud of. KWIM?) If I could rewind, I would never have gotten myself into this mess. Seriously, cut ties with him. It's not worth it.
sunburned Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 VR you are so very sure about which you know so little. I wish I had your blind confidence, would probably make my decisions a lot easier. Seriously? "What the heck happened to me?" I'm human, that's what happened. The above was your response to Veronica, who asked what happened to you. Your response was "I'm human." It is human to be sexually attracted to someone other than your spouse/SO. It is rather inhuman to act on it. And I say that as someone who did and regrets it. Don't go there. You've had the foresight to go looking for answers BEFORE you cross the line, that's better than most of us here. Keep your wits about you. It would make your "crime" even worse since you've done research, sought out opinions, read the experiences of others. You're obviously intelligent. Keep it that way. 1
ZMM Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Chasing after a MM, especially one who is married is just asking for trouble Yeah those MM who are married are the worst kind of MM. 3
ZMM Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Welcome to hell. Make yourself comfortable,we're all sitting here around the fire. Very clever!
whichwayisup Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You're right. Maybe that's part of the reason why I'm feeling so confused... If this were a single person (how I wish), it would be the perfect opportunity for me to talk to my partner and get the go ahead to try this with his permission. But it's not situation I envisioned when we spoke about non-monogamy. So I'm being chicken **** about bringing it up. But he isn't single, so it really is pointless to go there. Do they have kids? Can you see yourself marrying your SO, having kids some day? If no, then cut bail on him now. Why hang onto someone who you want to cheat on? Just more for you to think about it. Yah, you're right. I'm being completely selfish. Sorry that my reply was harsh, it's just you need a wake up call before you make a really big mistake. Yeah those MM who are married are the worst kind of MM. That is hilarious! Fingers moved too fast before reading what I wrote I guess! 1
ZMM Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 That is hilarious! Fingers moved too fast before reading what I wrote I guess! It made me laugh out loud.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 - You know it's wrong. - You know it'll open a world of problems. - You know you have the choice and power to prevent this You know what you need to do...(or DON'T do)
HermioneG Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 VR you are so very sure about which you know so little. I wish I had your blind confidence, would probably make my decisions a lot easier. Seriously? "What the heck happened to me?" I'm human, that's what happened. Lots of humans do not choose to harm others. Or themselves. You are choosing to harm yourself, the MM, and his wife. That's what affairs do. VR is wise. You should pay attention, even if you don't like how it makes you feel.
ZMM Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Actually, if I was you, my first step would be to break it off with your SO. I'm not judging you and I won't judge you if you decide not to. Believe me, I have no room to pass judgement. I am just saying, at this point, you can make your life a lot easier by breaking it off with SO. Then, do what you want. I did not follow that approach. But then again, I did not go out and pursue an A. It happened, I don't regret it, it changed my life and here I am. What ever you do, GOOD LUCK! I really mean that.
sweet_pea Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 What makes you think he won't lie about his wife giving him permission to have sex with you? I say don't do it. Let it go. You say you've read all of these threads of pain & heartbreak so that should definitely be a deterrent. Don't pursue it. 2
herself Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Every single petson on here who has been involved WISHES every DAY for the opportunity to go back and never have gotten involved. YOU have the opportunity everyone wishes for. Its NOT too late for you. I hope logic wins over lust cause it is so easy to fall into the trap which is why everyone here us shing glaring high beams ON the trap so that you SEE it & avoid it. Be strong girlie. Tell him, hey lets change the course, your married, Im taken, lets knock this off, I cant do it anymore. Then pat yourself on the back, brush your shoulders off, and your done! No sweat!
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