teddygirl Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I fell for someone instantly, love at first sight, we didn't do anything about it as I was married it took us almost a year to confirm how much we liked each other, because of my situation we never actually took it further and through our frustration we ended up going through moments of ignoring each other to sending each other emails of our attraction. In the end he found someone else and made a point of parading her in front of me, I stopped going into bars where he drank and have kept a low profile. The problem is I bump into him in the supermarket and in places I just happen to be it's like fate laughing at me, he won't speak to me at all now and will walk down the opposite isle if he has to walk past me, I feel like he hates me, yet I've seen him looking when he thinks I don't see him. I'm confused on his general attitude towards me, is he finding it hart to say a polite hello:-(
GorillaTheater Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I'd like to think that he came to his senses and realized that he has too much self-respect to get involved with a married woman. But it's probably more likely that he's just a dick. You've discussed this with your husband, right? 1
Author teddygirl Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 I haven't spoken to anyone about this, but I had been straight with this other guy that nothing would happen, it never went any further than a handful of messages saying if things were different etc. What confuses me is why he can't bring himself to say hello or that he has to avoid me as he knows it would only be a hello, goodbye on passing.
veritas lux mea Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I haven't spoken to anyone about this, but I had been straight with this other guy that nothing would happen, it never went any further than a handful of messages saying if things were different etc. What confuses me is why he can't bring himself to say hello or that he has to avoid me as he knows it would only be a hello, goodbye on passing. My guess is he knows a "friendship" with you is playing with fire. Better to cut you off completely. What are you doing to be someone who won't fall for and obsess over guys you aren't married to? 2
Author teddygirl Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Thanks Guys, I guess I needed to get it off my chest and needed someone else's opinion, I should stop worrying about why he won't acknowledge me, it doesn't matter anymore, and maybe I should try and walk in the opposite direction. 3
gettingstronger Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Yes Teddygirl, its for the best- have you thought about your marriage and if there is something there that needs work- if you found yourself attracted to someone else maybe you needed some extra attention and you can get that from your husband- you wouldn't even need to say much just reach out to him and I bet he would reciprocate-now is the time to "affair proof" your marriage with a little extra time and attention- 4
sidney2718 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I haven't spoken to anyone about this, but I had been straight with this other guy that nothing would happen, it never went any further than a handful of messages saying if things were different etc. What confuses me is why he can't bring himself to say hello or that he has to avoid me as he knows it would only be a hello, goodbye on passing. No, he wouldn't know that it would be only a "hello". And deep down inside you don't intend it to be just a "hello". What I think you want is recognition from him that he still has some feelings for you. He is smarter than you are. Your relationship with him was going nowhere and a new one will go nowhere. Be grateful. He could have easily played you into bed and if he did, you'd be his toy until the fog lifted or your husband found out. Be thankful he ignored you. 3
endlessabyss Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Thanks Guys, I guess I needed to get it off my chest and needed someone else's opinion, I should stop worrying about why he won't acknowledge me, it doesn't matter anymore, and maybe I should try and walk in the opposite direction. You're definitely right on the bolded. You should try and walk the opposite direction, you're married. Start acting like it.
thummper Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I haven't spoken to anyone about this, but I had been straight with this other guy that nothing would happen, it never went any further than a handful of messages saying if things were different etc. What confuses me is why he can't bring himself to say hello or that he has to avoid me as he knows it would only be a hello, goodbye on passing.[/quote] Of course he dropped you. You made it clear that you weren't interested in taking a "friendship" to the next level. He realized he was never going to get in your pants, so why continue to pursue you? Forget this clown and, for heaven sakes, spend your time concentrating on your hubby....you know, the guy you vowed to always be faithful to?! That's faithful MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY. He should be the one on your mind. 1
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