sarahmarie314 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 So I recently moved back to my home town which is very small (everyone knows everyone) and started casually seeing a guy. We have hung out about 5 times, mostly with mutual friends. However, I used to date his brother, but that was only for 3 months when I was 15. I am now 25. The new guy was aware of the fact that I dated his brother briefly and didn't seem to mind. However, last weekend we went to a bar together and his brother and wife were there. The new guy knew that they were there before we got there, but I did not until we were in the parking lot. I said I didn't think it would be awkward since it was so long ago. I immediately said hi to his brother, made small talk about not running into each other for over 5 years, congratulated him on getting married, and tried to shake his wife's hand. His wife refused to shake my hand and then they (brother/wife) told the new guy how disrespectful it was of him to bring me there knowing that they would be there. They then even asked us to leave. Do I continue to try to keep seeing the new guy? or just let it go? Does anyone think he will want to keep seeing me? I know dating brothers is kind of awkward, but I guess I was thinking since it was 10 years ago and nothing serious that it wouldn't be a big deal. Especially since his brother is married. Any and all advice is welcome. Thanks
stillafool Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I think I would have passed on dating the brother. I don't like to mix and then be compared by the two.
GoreSP Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Wow...that is...WOW! What does the new guy think of their behaviour?
Raena Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 You only dated for 3 months in high school and 10 years later he's upset about it? Something seems completely off about that. Sounds like you should probably stop hanging out with the brother as this isn't going to end well for you. That kind of animosity all these years later seems a bit bizarre though.
anne1707 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I agree with Raena. How serious was it with you and the brother and is there any reason for such animosity?
HappyLove Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 You are WRONG! Of all the millions of men in the world you had to date an ex's brother? Leave that family alone. Look at the trouble it's causing already! Kinda skanky on your part. I could see if this was a random guy you never knew who turned out to be an ex's brother but you knew full well. Don't do this trash to families it's not right. Plus who KNOWS how you behaved during the relationship or breakup. The original brother must be thinking you have one heck of a nerve!
anne1707 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 You are WRONG! Of all the millions of men in the world you had to date an ex's brother? Leave that family alone. Look at the trouble it's causing already! Kinda skanky on your part. I could see if this was a random guy you never knew who turned out to be an ex's brother but you knew full well. Don't do this trash to families it's not right. Plus who KNOWS how you behaved during the relationship or breakup. The original brother must be thinking you have one heck of a nerve! How about letting the OP tell her story before you act as judge and jury with all the name-calling 1
gaius Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 You only dated for 3 months in high school and 10 years later he's upset about it? Something seems completely off about that. Sounds like you should probably stop hanging out with the brother as this isn't going to end well for you. That kind of animosity all these years later seems a bit bizarre though. It doesn't really matter if she went on one date that lasted 5 minutes 50 years ago. If she did that means she falls into the territory of the first brother. The fact the second didn't obtain permission beforehand is a supreme form of disrespect in the man world. It generally not a great idea to openly date the father/mother/brother/sister/son/daughter of a previous partner. Have sex with them in secret if you need to but there's a few billion other potential partners out there to openly date. Pick one of them instead. 1
anne1707 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I actually think if anybody is at fault, it is the brother the OP is now dating. There is something very off about how he set up the double date without telling the OP or his brother and SIL. Some strange game playing on his part?
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