yorkie Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 7 months at the end of this moneth ex gf left me moved in with new bloke and i have to hear about everything from my kids i have to have very LC ie only text's with my ex yes its getting better some days and im moving on but bloody hell its hard! i still find it hard any advice much appreciated!
sooshi Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Are you kids old enough to know that hearing about everything is hurting you? Would you be able to have a talk to them that you need some time to heal? 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I wouldn't like to be in your position that I do know. The children don't know they are hurting you with information. Maybe change the subject when they start? Hi anyhow from a fellow Yorker 1
Author yorkie Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 my kids have been brilliant tbh, they are 11 and 8, and they dont tell me much but obviously things slip out. 13 years i was with that woman and i have the kids that live with me and i feel like wow 7 months and im still not over her. the kids like her new fella and she has moved in with him. where did it all go wrong. this is a bad day. 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 my kids have been brilliant tbh, they are 11 and 8, and they dont tell me much but obviously things slip out. 13 years i was with that woman and i have the kids that live with me and i feel like wow 7 months and im still not over her. the kids like her new fella and she has moved in with him. where did it all go wrong. this is a bad day. 7 months isn't a long amount of time to heal from Your relationship. As much as you'll probably hate it it's a good thing they like her new boyfriend. It would be horrible for them to visit her if they didn't. Just remember at the end of the day you are their daddy and they love you... They like him Xx 2
Author yorkie Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 wow mummyjonno thanks for the kind words! that means an awful lot x
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 wow mummyjonno thanks for the kind words! that means an awful lot x Not kind sweetheart it's simply true I know you are struggling, and you are in a tricky position. You can't go no contact and move on like the rest of us can. Just remember that kids heal pain, and they love the bones off you. No one can replace their daddy even if as a boyfriend, fiancé, husband things have changed. Keep your chin up
Author yorkie Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 i am moving on it is hard though, im just jealous i cant go NC albeit text, she texts me stuff in the daft oclock about the kids and when she wants them! i feel so alone right now! but again thanks for your kind words and again from a fellow yorker lol wow mad! lol x
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 i am moving on it is hard though, im just jealous i cant go NC albeit text, she texts me stuff in the daft oclock about the kids and when she wants them! i feel so alone right now! but again thanks for your kind words and again from a fellow yorker lol wow mad! lol x I've never seen anyone on here whose from the uk never the less York!! Turn your phone off...or if you have an iphone turn on do not disturb. If the kids are with you there's no need to talk that late lol
Author yorkie Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 I have just put my phone on silent and i get the odd text normally once a week late at night like im supposed to answer that. Well feel free to pm me if you need to vent at all. And thanks for the advice. Much appreciated sound advice. Just having a bad day today dont even know why. She even moved close by which means i will bump into them you know how big york is and they are on my door step.
ponchsox Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I want kids but only in a loving marriage. I see too many broken homes where the kid suffers and the single parent is miserable.
gaius Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Just give her full custody and boom, problem solved. New guy can play daddy.
Author yorkie Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 ponchsox i wouldnt say im miserable i love my kids and im glad they are living with me but its harder to move on sometimes.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I want kids but only in a loving marriage. I see too many broken homes where the kid suffers and the single parent is miserable. A loving marriage doesn't mean you won't end up single after you've had your children... I have first hand experience in that one. Nothing is guaranteed anymore 1
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