xilver Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 This is the situation. I met this lady at the gym and she is a single mom and she asked if I was only interested in friends. She mentioned that she was exiting a bad relationship. I am in no rush to have a committed relationship and she seemed cool so I told her we could be friends. I need to have more girlfriends and especially ones who are active. She asked for my number and we have texted, ran had coffee and just had fun talking all the way up to now. It’s been 6 months. In that time she has become single and moved within walking distance to where I live. Things are good. The problem is that we have a great time and there is chemistry there. When I touch her hand I feel it. When I look in her eyes it is there. I can tell the difference when there is no chemistry. I notice that she tells me she is insecure about the skin around her eyes but all I find is that I end up staring into her eyes and wanting to kiss her. Things like that let me know it is there but she asked again if I only want to be friends. She said a married guy told her that guys and girls cant be friends. She didn’t want to believe him so she told him that I am her friend. He told her to show me some revealing pictures and then see if I still want to just be her friend. So she showed them to me but I already liked her before I saw those pictures. All it did was make me horny. I want to become intimate with her but don’t want to risk losing her as a friend. She was standing in the parking lot at the end of the night last time I saw her. I think she wanted me to kiss her or hold her because she was standing next to me and acting really cold. Like she was practically chattering her teeth and giggling a little too. I didn’t think it was that cold and she had a jacket on. I wanted to and almost did get close to her but I kept thinking about the friends talk. Confused what to do next.
TheNewMe2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 The one thing I have learned is if you have feelings for someone and you think it is something special - go for it. You can always find more friends, you won't be devastated as long when you lose a friend. But, it's much harder to live with 'what if's'. Can I tell you if she wanted you to kiss her or not? No, I'm the last one that reads signals (here - just read my posts). I can tell you though, if you feel a chemistry and feel something for someone - go for it. Nothing good in life comes without a risk. Your risk is losing the friend. So the real question to as yourself is - can you live with the 'what if' or losing a friend...over the long-term? Don't let the right one get away. Most likely you won't lose her as a friend. Ask her out...take it super slow and if it works, great. If not...go back to acting just like a friend. 1
Versacehottie Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) yes, go for it!! The friends talk was 6 months ago. People's feelings most definitely evolve in that time. As well as her behavior is flirty+. Like new2014 said, you can find new friends but in any case don't think an effort will ruin your friendship anyway. Make it awkward for a tiny bit if not reciprocated but that's it. Edited March 18, 2014 by Versacehottie
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