Natasha94 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Well it's been more than a year over our breakup. I'm gonna try to make it short. It was so unexpected, he was so into me, I started falling for him, he started taking some distance and stopped asking about me, I decided we need to break up. I then realized that I fell really hard for him. We kept in touch on-and-off. Once in a while, the subject pops out again, he doesn't stop apologizing, he blames himself, he says that he lost me and makes me think that his feelings are still there and says that now he isn't as happy as he was with me. He says he is so lost. I recently found out he is dating someone (he never says that or posts pictures with her, but I'm pretty sure he is dating) I stopped answering his texts, so he started insisting, and opened the subject again, so I told him that he disappointed me, he couldn't face me with the truth, he was lonely or something but he didn't love me and that I'm not there for him every time he's not okay and other days he'd forget about me. (And I'm 100% sure he's with someone) I don't know where I'm in my life right now, I can't meet someone better.. I would just love for someone to explain to me why is he doing that? Why does he insist on talking to me while he is with someone! I'm really trying to move on, I mean I don't love him anymore but I just can't seem to totally forget about him! I just need some advice to help me see straight! And maybe some advice on how to move on better! I mean it's been more than a yeaaaaar
kjackson1 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 You broke up with him because he wasn't giving you what you needed. Now he's with someone else and is still randomly talking to you. Seems like he doesnt want to be with you but likes having you around. You were and are still more emotionally invested then he is. If you want to move on and find someone better who meets your expectations I think you need to cut him out of your life completely so you can fully move on.
Author Natasha94 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 You broke up with him because he wasn't giving you what you needed. Now he's with someone else and is still randomly talking to you. Seems like he doesnt want to be with you but likes having you around. You were and are still more emotionally invested then he is. If you want to move on and find someone better who meets your expectations I think you need to cut him out of your life completely so you can fully move on. That's what I'm trying to do but it doesn't seem to work especially that we go to the same university so I run into him alot even though I try to ignore him being there most of the time! But he's not making this easy on me! I mean why does he want to keep contact with me? Why doesn't he cut all the crap? He knows that I see through him.. I just can't understand.. what is the use? How does this make him feel good about himself?!
sooshi Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 He probably talks to you because he thinks you have feelings for him and he likes the attention, and he might not get it from anywhere else. It sounds like you're more of a convenience for him. Doesn't sound like he truly cares for you though. He sounds needy too and shouldn't even be in a relationship right now.
Author Natasha94 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 He probably talks to you because he thinks you have feelings for him and he likes the attention, and he might not get it from anywhere else. It sounds like you're more of a convenience for him. Doesn't sound like he truly cares for you though. He sounds needy too and shouldn't even be in a relationship right now. Yes he is needy! And I told him that.. he said he is just lost.. And I told him that it's been a year and that i have moved on and that he should let go too and stop bringing on the subject.. and that he cant expect me to still be weeping over it after a year.. but i dont really know if he believes this, i mean sometimes i dont even believe this! I just want to cut all contact but i just dont want to look childish.. it's been a year.. i should have gone no contact in the first place
KaliLove Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 First of all, of course you can meet someone better. He is a needy, clingy mess. You can drive your car into a shopping mall and hit a dozen guys who are better than that. Second, don't beat yourself up. It hasn't actually been a year because you never actually broke up. Not really. The good news is that now you know what to do. NC is rough but it's definitely for the best.
Author Natasha94 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 First of all, of course you can meet someone better. He is a needy, clingy mess. You can drive your car into a shopping mall and hit a dozen guys who are better than that. Second, don't beat yourself up. It hasn't actually been a year because you never actually broke up. Not really. The good news is that now you know what to do. NC is rough but it's definitely for the best. So true! He is a huge mess and a pretty big liar! He doesn't care about the impact his words have on people. He might say something one day and totally forget about it next day.. I'm seriously starting no contact.. he is just not worth it.
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