AjisenHi Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Hi, My sister's MM has withdrawn his D proceedings on the very last day of the proceedings and is now going for legal separation. He says he will file for D in four years time when it will be possible for him to get a D without having limited visitation of their young children. I advised her that this would be a good time to start NC after a final text (closure) and to say call when when you have D decree in hand. She says they are still friends as they started off as friends ( short couple of months) and that he is in a bad place right now. She would not say that NC was an option. She has been this way with a significant number of EX bf ( before M) and doesnt see why the friendships cannot go beyond the R. This is despite one Exbf's wife acting jealous and asking her to keep her distance. I tried to tell her that her past actions have not resulted in the R she has always wanted so may be a change in the way she handles this one could put her on the right path. She is so heartsore and weary, I don't know whether to push her at this point but it also seems a good opportunity for of reflection. Any imput much appreciated.
Speakingofwhich Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 It sounds as if you're giving her really good support and good advice but maybe don't push her as she needs to be the one to come to the conclusion that she needs to go NC. It's kind of the same principle one uses when losing weight in that when a person decides to lose weight for themselves it's more successful than when someone else pushes them to do it. However, you sound like a really great sibling to me! 1
Author AjisenHi Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Thanks speakingofwhich! ~bowing~ Sometimes it's a balancing thing. 1
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