thefooloftheyear Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 It isn't creepy, but twice, we looked at dogs similar to two that we'd had (different times) and they were nothing like them. (obviously - they were different dogs altogether.) I have a real soft spot for Spaniels, but love the labrador we had, and the little cocker/beagle/coonhound/whatever mixes that my little ones were/are - they're such fun, and so sweet. *ahem* They're certainly better company than some people that I've met, and/or had to exist with under the same roof. My "colony of cats" gave me something to look forward to every day, after my dog Emily died - she was a piece of my heart. A feral cat I'd made friends with had kittens, and trusted us enough to take them into our garage, once they started to walk and explore. So I helped her to take care of them, keep them safe, and now one of them is purring on my lap, cuddled into me. the others are around. Animals have always been there, when people have sucked - really been awful - so they will always be a part of my life. I dont want to start this debate...but while I agree with most of what you are saying, when someone can't function without a gaggle of animals around them, well,..then it starts to be weird...And its not usually a problem if you are by yourself or with someone who is on the same page, but someone who has a "normal" affection for animals(one who might have a dog or cat, but not 7 or 8 of them) nor become "catatonic" if one of their animals happens to die or get hit by a car-might find it to be a bit much.. I think the OP has a problem on his hands, unless the woman could somehow get a grip.....Coming apart at the seams over this is excessive and abnormal... TFY
MidwestUSA Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I'm going to take back my first reply. 'This dog is the only thing that's going to make her happy'. So, she's not happy now? A catatonic depressive state once a week? I love my four legged kids, but she's got problems. So sorry. 1
Divasu Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Are you upset because you want it to be a joint decision rather than her picking out which dog she wants? If so, then I do see some validity in your opposition. Or, do you believe she is clinically depressed over it, where she needs medical intervention? If no, as long as the new dog doesn't pose a threat to her emotional well being, why can't she cope with the loss of her dog in a way she feels most comfortable with? It think it is both natural and necessary to grieve the loss and it takes longer for others sometimes. Some people are just more attached to their pets and handle the loss differently. It may be weird, but not to her... I mean, she didn't have her prior dog stuffed with cotton and freeze dried did she?
sweetjasmine Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 She just said my dog was cute but she looks and acts nothing like her old dog, so she couldn't love her. That's an awful thing to say. She shouldn't be getting any dog, even one that looks exactly like her old one, until she can solve the underlying issues that made her say that. 3
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 That's an awful thing to say. She shouldn't be getting any dog, even one that looks exactly like her old one, until she can solve the underlying issues that made her say that. Good, thank you. My point exactly. 1
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