Beren Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Hey guys, So there is this girl I like. She's is a mutual friend with some of my other friends, so I've met her a few times at parties etc. We started to talk on the internet a bit, just via messages. About 2 weeks ago we met at a party again, I said something about going to see a movie or something like that, the whole thing is a bit blurry. From memory she sounded interested. So next day I sent her a message saying let me know when your free. Few days pass nothing happens, so I sent her a message saying we should do something soon, she said yeah she's busy till next week. So I said something, like "Sweet, have fun over the weekend" or something like that. And that was the last contact we've had. Now I'm probably over thinking this but should I send her a message this week? Or wait till she messages me? If she does. I've made the mistake of sounding too keen before and don't really want to do it again. And don't want to screw things up as at worst I would still like to be friends. And secondly I've never actually mentioned this as being a date... Should I just leave it that and see how it goes? Sorry these questions probably sound pretty mundane. But I keep going over it in my head over and over again and would like some impartial opinions.
HappyLove Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Hey guys, So there is this girl I like. She's is a mutual friend with some of my other friends, so I've met her a few times at parties etc. We started to talk on the internet a bit, just via messages. About 2 weeks ago we met at a party again, I said something about going to see a movie or something like that, the whole thing is a bit blurry. From memory she sounded interested. So next day I sent her a message saying let me know when your free. Few days pass nothing happens, so I sent her a message saying we should do something soon, she said yeah she's busy till next week. So I said something, like "Sweet, have fun over the weekend" or something like that. And that was the last contact we've had. Now I'm probably over thinking this but should I send her a message this week? Or wait till she messages me? If she does. I've made the mistake of sounding too keen before and don't really want to do it again. And don't want to screw things up as at worst I would still like to be friends. And secondly I've never actually mentioned this as being a date... Should I just leave it that and see how it goes? Sorry these questions probably sound pretty mundane. But I keep going over it in my head over and over again and would like some impartial opinions. If you're interested in her then just ask her out. If she's not interested she will make up an excuse and that's your cue to move on.
babycakees Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Ask her out. Make your move. Women like men who are confident and go after what they want. 1
Author Beren Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Ok guys, thanks for the advice. I'll give it a go.
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Now I'm probably over thinking this but should I send her a message this week? Or wait till she messages me? If she does. Never wait for the girl to make the first move. Just ask her out and see how it goes. Good Luck.
Author Beren Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 Thought I'd give you guys an update. Sent her a message this morning and she just ignored it. So that's the end of that. I really thought she was interested a week or 2 ago. Strange. But Ah well, screw it, can't be bothered with this **** anymore anyway. Never been overly interested in people, so that's the way its going to be. Thanks to each of you for taking the time to give me advice. cheers.
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Stop with the stupid messages. Call her up and you'll have your answer in 30 seconds rather than waiting days and days wondering what's going on. It won't help with this one, but for next time. You were vague and indecisive when you approached her. What you should be saying is not "we should go out sometime let me know when you're free", but "lets go see Need for Speed tuesday night, I'll pick you up at 8". She will either say yes, make an excuse, or offer an alternate date. Either way you'll have your answer straight away. 1
Author Beren Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Ah well it's too late now, that ship has long sailed. Thanks for the further advice though. 1
Assasda Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 On to the next one bro. too much fish in the sea, to be trying to catch that squirelly one. 1
Author Beren Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 The whole thing took a turn I never expected. Turns out one of my good friends has been talking to her a lot, one of those can get any girl he wants types, and he told my other friend that he asked me and I said I wasn't interested. Which never happened...... Well I guess it reaffirms my thing of not liking/trusting people.
babycakees Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 The whole thing took a turn I never expected. Turns out one of my good friends has been talking to her a lot, one of those can get any girl he wants types, and he told my other friend that he asked me and I said I wasn't interested. Which never happened...... Well I guess it reaffirms my thing of not liking/trusting people. You need new friends... 1
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