Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 (edited) My ex and I have been on and off for 3 years now. He is 28 I am 24. Every time we see each other, its as if we never stopped thinking about one another. He says he loves me and always has feelings for me, and will for a long time. I moved home and now live 5 minutes from him. I always think about him and miss him and want us to try one more time .I decided to reach out to him. We met up twice went to dinner during the 2 weeks straight talking about us and our relationship and having a fresh start. We decided to make up and I ended up staying over his place. That week everything is going so good even calling each other nicknames just like old times. I asked to get together again and possibly go out for a movie day. He said he was unavailable that day but available tomorrow. I explained I couldn't, but then freed my schedule and told him I will. He texts me the next morning “no its okay you already said you couldn't go so I got another date. Good morning. I asked if he was serious and he said “y” "you said you couldn't go” I said to him “I didn't know we are keeping our options open? Good to know. He responds “”well now you know. “I was like....... He was being so rude, I was appalled by his attitude I said I was going and done trying, and was not going to talk to him. He said him letting me back into his life is a mistake he keeps making. I called he didn't pick up, I told him I'm not communicating threw texting, we can talk face to face. He said he has nothing to say,we said our goodbyes. I ask why what's this for then?for sex? Why do we do*this?. He is then saying things like your not the only one I can have sex with ? You think your the prettiest girl I talked to? Get over yourself. I asked him why do you let me back in if you don’t want to be with me? and asked why he was being rude for no reason… No response. we haven’t spoke almost a week. I blocked him on social media to find out he made a fake account to view me. why games? and i want to contact him… any suggestions to why? Or what should i do? Its a never ending cycle and we both are not letting go he Will come back or I Will and its the same thing over and over... Edited March 16, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Poppyolive Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Did you break up with him? Hurt him? I think hes playing games, using you and getting you back... For whatever crazy reason....I think we have a crazy level 10 ******* on our hands. You need yo completely shut him out....completely... Let him run hia crazy course but don't involve yourself. Sorry his a nutjob and you got burnt..... Take care of your heart....treat yourself....hugs
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Did you break up with him? Hurt him? I think hes playing games, using you and getting you back... For whatever crazy reason....I think we have a crazy level 10 ******* on our hands. You need yo completely shut him out....completely... Let him run hia crazy course but don't involve yourself. Sorry his a nutjob and you got burnt..... Take care of your heart....treat yourself....hugs Thanks for your reply. I've apologized on my part for whatever wrong I did. More then once. Xo
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Today is just one of those days where i am finding it hard to control my emotions. I texted him today after a week of NC and told him I know about the fake profile he made and how I will block it aswell. He hasn't responded. I just hate the games! Why be curious to know what I'm doing if you don't want me or seem to not care about me. . We hit it off the past to weeks so good, and it all is ruined for nothing!
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Today is just one of those days where i am finding it hard to control my emotions. I texted him today after a week of NC and told him I know about the fake profile he made and how I will block it aswell. He hasn't responded. I just hate the games! Why be curious to know what I'm doing if you don't want me or seem to not care about me. . We hit it off the past to weeks so good, and it all is ruined for nothing! Make all of your stuff private then regardless of him creating fake profiles he can't see any of your stuff. DELETE HIS NUMBER and have it blocked!! If you can't block it change your number.
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Not impressed. Stupid reason to contact him for. C'mon lady, you have to do better than this. One week, and you cave?! really..... 2
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Make all of your stuff private then regardless of him creating fake profiles he can't see any of your stuff. DELETE HIS NUMBER and have it blocked!! If you can't block it change your number. Thank you for your input. If I can't get myself under control I'll nave no choice but too.
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Not impressed. Stupid reason to contact him for. C'mon lady, you have to do better than this. One week, and you cave?! really..... I know I'm not impressed either. I've done so much better in the past with NC but I'm getting annoyed angry hurt by the games. Why tell me you love me act like we can make this work and then say hurtful things and do hurtful things out of nowhere!?
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I always find the term "Phukkim" to be appropriate in situations like this. Open Word.doc. Set paper orientation to 'landscape'. In the biggest letters you can fit across the page, type "F**K HIM!" in upper case bold. print off as many as you need, to be visible anywhere you go, within your living space. Simple. And effective. 1
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 I always find the term "Phukkim" to be appropriate in situations like this. Open Word.doc. Set paper orientation to 'landscape'. In the biggest letters you can fit across the page, type "F**K HIM!" in upper case bold. print off as many as you need, to be visible anywhere you go, within your living space. Simple. And effective. That sounds like a great idea. I just hate how I have to feel this way HE should be, I haven't done anything.
KaliLove Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Yeah..that blows doesn't it? That feeling will pass when you hit the anger stage of the break up. The anger stage is fun.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Yeah..that blows doesn't it? That feeling will pass when you hit the anger stage of the break up. The anger stage is fun. Anger stage was fun in the gym... If only you guys could see how reddy purple my face was!!! Wooohooo!! Op - I'm going to assume you don't have kids together, no financial ties ect Get rid of it. You will always be tempted to contact him if you have his number and you now have zero reason to have it. **** him!!! Life is better without him!!! Even if you don't believe that fake it until it's reality! 1
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Yeah..that blows doesn't it? That feeling will pass when you hit the anger stage of the break up. The anger stage is fun. Him and I have been off NUMEROUS times. Only for him and I to go right back to each other. I'm not sure when I will be able to get to that stage. He says things like ''some days i love you some days i hate you' you drive me crazy what am I going to do with you i cant get you cant get you out of my head or my life''. I'm angry but still care. I call him all the names ... but my hearts not changing its 3 yrs of this bull's*** 1
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Anger stage was fun in the gym... If only you guys could see how reddy purple my face was!!! Wooohooo!! Op - I'm going to assume you don't have kids together, no financial ties ect Get rid of it. You will always be tempted to contact him if you have his number and you now have zero reason to have it. **** him!!! Life is better without him!!! Even if you don't believe that fake it until it's reality! The gym is an awesome way to help cope I agree. No he has a 4 year old and he is 28. He wants to have more kids.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 The gym is an awesome way to help cope I agree. No he has a 4 year old and he is 28. He wants to have more kids. Lacey honey he's not worth it, right now you don't believe us entirely. But you have a look at my past threads... Go see how I was. You are stronger than me and I made it through. Throw yourself at that gym to get healthier or even for a distraction and ban him from every part of your life. There is someone out there who deserve you. It isn't him x
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Lacey honey he's not worth it, right now you don't believe us entirely. But you have a look at my past threads... Go see how I was. You are stronger than me and I made it through. Throw yourself at that gym to get healthier or even for a distraction and ban him from every part of your life. There is someone out there who deserve you. It isn't him x Thanks for the support. I'm not thinking clearly today, but I know that what everyone saying is true. Its hard if he comes back around and I won't be able to say no... its hard to let go..
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Thanks for the support. I'm not thinking clearly today, but I know that what everyone saying is true. Its hard if he comes back around and I won't be able to say no... its hard to let go.. That's why you have to ban him from your life. You love the guy, many of us would have run back to our exs had they come around. You aren't the only one. Tell him you don't want anything to do with him, or to see him again and change your number. Do whatever you have to do, this is about you and your new life now and horrible exs aren't included xx
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 That's why you have to ban him from your life. You love the guy, many of us would have run back to our exs had they come around. You aren't the only one. Tell him you don't want anything to do with him, or to see him again and change your number. Do whatever you have to do, this is about you and your new life now and horrible exs aren't included xx I know and for those who were strong enough to say no and stay firm with NC i give them alot of respect beause its hard it feels like your world is just over: (l.. he still hasn't responded. I think if I just get what I need to say off my chest regardless if he gets its or not just for my own sake and closure it would be easier to move on. These games are really hard for me to deal ans that's why I tend to give in...
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I know and for those who were strong enough to say no and stay firm with NC i give them alot of respect beause its hard it feels like your world is just over: (l.. he still hasn't responded. I think if I just get what I need to say off my chest regardless if he gets its or not just for my own sake and closure it would be easier to move on. These games are really hard for me to deal ans that's why I tend to give in... That is one thing you HAVE to learn. You most likely won't get any closure and you telling him how you feel makes zero difference to him. All he will see is a weak woman. I did this... My ex said "oh Clare don't be so dramatic" and laughed at me. Write it down somewhere, keep it and when you feel you are falling apart refer back too it. That's all you can do bar walk away with your dignity and have a fabulous life without him: We know it's hard, it's almost impossible. Coming here and writing Out what was on my mind here helped. The ladies and gents were nothing but honest and kind to me. They Made me realise I wasn't alone and I was tougher than I gave myself credit for Come on girlie you have it in you too
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 That is one thing you HAVE to learn. You most likely won't get any closure and you telling him how you feel makes zero difference to him. All he will see is a weak woman. I did this... My ex said "oh Clare don't be so dramatic" and laughed at me. Write it down somewhere, keep it and when you feel you are falling apart refer back too it. That's all you can do bar walk away with your dignity and have a fabulous life without him: We know it's hard, it's almost impossible. Coming here and writing Out what was on my mind here helped. The ladies and gents were nothing but honest and kind to me. They Made me realise I wasn't alone and I was tougher than I gave myself credit for Come on girlie you have it in you too Your right its true... but I think this is over for good. I couldn't help I did send him a message telling him what I thought about his actions and how he made him self turn out to be. I don't know if I'm blocked or he dosnt respond... he always does.. but tommorow is a new day. And I have to be stronger.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Your right its true... but I think this is over for good. I couldn't help I did send him a message telling him what I thought about his actions and how he made him self turn out to be. I don't know if I'm blocked or he dosnt respond... he always does.. but tommorow is a new day. And I have to be stronger. What you've done can't be taken back, but you are human and who cares what he thinks eh! Tomorrow is a fresh start, a new day and a Monday (yuck) We will get you through this I promise and you'll be smiling on the other end
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 What you've done can't be taken back, but you are human and who cares what he thinks eh! Tomorrow is a fresh start, a new day and a Monday (yuck) We will get you through this I promise and you'll be smiling on the other end Thank you so much for your help! Its so appreciated and every advice I get I will take it and hold on to it. It nice to get help from those who know what they are talking about. I will refuse to care what he thinks at all because it isn't about him... or us working on anything its about me moving on. And if this is what i had to do for it to be the first step to moving on give a piece of my mind and confront him on his game and issues so be it....Maybe it will sink in.. maybe it won't. One day I just hope he gets to feel how I felt. Then hell stop the games xox
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Thank you so much for your help! Its so appreciated and every advice I get I will take it and hold on to it. It nice to get help from those who know what they are talking about. I will refuse to care what he thinks at all because it isn't about him... or us working on anything its about me moving on. And if this is what i had to do for it to be the first step to moving on give a piece of my mind and confront him on his game and issues so be it....Maybe it will sink in.. maybe it won't. One day I just hope he gets to feel how I felt. Then hell stop the games xox See I knew you had it in you ;-) It's nice to think karma will strike one day, and it'll come back and bite them in the ass. I think it does eventually xxx 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 See I knew you had it in you ;-) It's nice to think karma will strike one day, and it'll come back and bite them in the ass. I think it does eventually xxx No, it doesn't. See my thread on that very matter, in my signature. 1
Author Lacey. Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 See I knew you had it in you ;-) It's nice to think karma will strike one day, and it'll come back and bite them in the ass. I think it does eventually xxx Out of everything important I said to he just texts me focusing on the fake profile issue saying I'm not on any of your ****. Seriously ew.
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