soLoveIS Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 I had a strong connection (fell deeply in love) with a man who was not ready for a relationship, I knew it was best for me to save my heart and walk away. We remained friends...1 1/2 month after I walked away (no contact) and after he dated lots of other women, he came back telling me he cared about me, his only words to me, obviously wanting me back. I was to afraid of being hurt by him again. I met a great New Guy at the same time EX-Date came back. But Ex-Date's lack of communicating his feelings made so confused. I really did not know what he wanted, to have a FWB or if he really loved me? I told him we can only be Friends and If and when I meet someone new I will stop seeing him, the Ex-Date. So What I did with this Strong Connection??? I had to seriously think and weigh things out. I had these 2 guys asking to be with me at the same time. I thought, I need a Man to Sacrifice and Fight for my Love which is what the New Guy, my now Boyfriend seemed to do. I am still keeping my Eyes on Watch with New Boyfriend because he has other women friends around. If he loves me enough other women should not be an issue in our relationship. It is good to see early in the relationship and find out now. But because he was more honest and communicates his love for me more than Ex-Date, I decided to be with, at that time the New Guy. I think if the Ex-Date would have communicated his feelings towards me and tell me he would not cheat, I would have gone back to Ex-Date and given him a second chance. Also I think his Ego at that time with his Male Friends was so pressure that he listen to them and let his friends decide to not be with me. He kept coming around me (before I met New Guy) for several months, but never told me how he felt about us. So I took it as we are just friends He recently asked me to go out with him but turned him down because I am a 1 man woman. I could hear the disappointment in his voice. I truly believe he wanted to tell me his feelings if I did accept his invitation, but "it was to Late" I know I hurt Ex-Date, But believe me I hurt much much more when we were dating.. waiting for some sign of Love or Commitment, I ended up just giving up on him and walking away because of this LACK of affection and no communication (was hanging with him for 1year and 1/2). The sad thing is, it took loosing me for Ex-Date to finally realize he had strong feelings towards me and really wanted me back. Yes he tried, but because he did not say anything... it gave me mix signals. I feel bad because he is now feeling the emptiness I felt when I left him. I don't wish that on anyone. My heart was so broken when I left Ex-Date. But I made the decision; If I give my love to someone it will be with someone who will love back. Love for New Boyfriend is Growing and I am appreciating him the more we spend time together. Yes it is like any other relationships with ups, downs, and learning. We appear to be working throu things "because he and I communicate as much as we can and he is not afraid to show and tell me his feelings about us" To me time will tell where this new relationship will go.
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