kidcanada Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I know people are quick to say its over on sites like this because hope makes me people crazy but i would really like for someone to give me unbiased help on the situation. Basically my girl and me have been together for 5 years ( with on and off moments). Like most long term relationships we were best friends and literally did everything together. I was a bit of a jerk when we were younger I would flirt with other girls and text them typical childish bull**** that i own now and have totally changed. This past summer we broke up because she was becoming someone that I didn't know anymore and we both fell into "fling" relationships that last a couple weeks before we realized we never stopped talking and really wanted to be together. During this time however, I had made a choice to move across the country. I didnt think things at the time were going to workout and i took a job offer literally 3000km away. She was devastated and wanted to come, begged me but i told her that i wanted to get settled and for her to really consider what she would be giving up. Instead of moving she came to visit and after not seeing one another for a couple months it was the most incredible week we didnt stop touching each other at all. She eventually moved out to be with me but as I suspected she became cold and distant because she never wanted to leave her friends and family. I insisted she go home for a little and when she is ready to come back she is always welcome. Longer story short she never came back and called me one night to not really end things with me but told me she cant be where I am but also cant handle not having me around all the time and she needed to let it go. I agreed and we both walked away devastated. I told her i had to shut her out or it would be impossible for me to move on so I went no contact for 4 weeks literally didnt respond to any calls or text which would come from time to time and sometimes all at once like she was having a breakdown. This all happened in January and its now march and I have moved home since my contract is up. She knows Im home and has contacted me however, i have found out she has been seeing someone. From what i am told she really likes this guy but she continues to message me and almost be mad with me that I didnt tell her I would be home..Why would I? I was trying to move on and didnt want to get involved especially after I found out she has been with someone. The messages lately have all been apologies and her saying how angry and sad she is but I continue to tell her I respect her choice and I dont think its fair we talk since she is with this other dude. LAst point, i got home and my old ipad was in my room i went onto facebook and it was still logged in to her account I saw that she has been searching for me multiple times since she found out i was home and even my friends. I am writing on here because I need some serious advice on what my next move should be to win this girl back. Its obvious we love one another and we can pretend like were over things all we want but it just seems to me like we can fix things. I know she is with someone else and that is weird after such a long time together but honestly she is a very emotional person and If i think i know her like I do this guy is literally her crutch to not drive herself crazy thinking about me. Even though she has been with him she was trying to get ahold of me on numerous occasions but i obviously was No Contact given that i was so far away. Please will someone tell me what the smart thing to do is...do i reach out or continue to wait and see if she ends things with buddy. Remember that two months ago she was standing in an airport with me begging me to get on the plane and I told her I just couldnt do it I wasnt going to let her see that I would give up this great job and place just to go back home. After my contract was up I realized I wanted to be home because family and love are so much more important than anything.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I know people are quick to say its over on sites like this because hope makes me people crazy but i would really like for someone to give me unbiased help on the situation. Basically my girl and me have been together for 5 years ( with on and off moments). Like most long term relationships we were best friends and literally did everything together. I was a bit of a jerk when we were younger I would flirt with other girls and text them typical childish bull**** that i own now and have totally changed. This past summer we broke up because she was becoming someone that I didn't know anymore and we both fell into "fling" relationships that last a couple weeks before we realized we never stopped talking and really wanted to be together. During this time however, I had made a choice to move across the country. I didnt think things at the time were going to workout and i took a job offer literally 3000km away. She was devastated and wanted to come, begged me but i told her that i wanted to get settled and for her to really consider what she would be giving up. Instead of moving she came to visit and after not seeing one another for a couple months it was the most incredible week we didnt stop touching each other at all. She eventually moved out to be with me but as I suspected she became cold and distant because she never wanted to leave her friends and family. I insisted she go home for a little and when she is ready to come back she is always welcome. Longer story short she never came back and called me one night to not really end things with me but told me she cant be where I am but also cant handle not having me around all the time and she needed to let it go. I agreed and we both walked away devastated. I told her i had to shut her out or it would be impossible for me to move on so I went no contact for 4 weeks literally didnt respond to any calls or text which would come from time to time and sometimes all at once like she was having a breakdown. This all happened in January and its now march and I have moved home since my contract is up. She knows Im home and has contacted me however, i have found out she has been seeing someone. From what i am told she really likes this guy but she continues to message me and almost be mad with me that I didnt tell her I would be home..Why would I? I was trying to move on and didnt want to get involved especially after I found out she has been with someone. The messages lately have all been apologies and her saying how angry and sad she is but I continue to tell her I respect her choice and I dont think its fair we talk since she is with this other dude. LAst point, i got home and my old ipad was in my room i went onto facebook and it was still logged in to her account I saw that she has been searching for me multiple times since she found out i was home and even my friends. I am writing on here because I need some serious advice on what my next move should be to win this girl back. Its obvious we love one another and we can pretend like were over things all we want but it just seems to me like we can fix things. I know she is with someone else and that is weird after such a long time together but honestly she is a very emotional person and If i think i know her like I do this guy is literally her crutch to not drive herself crazy thinking about me. Even though she has been with him she was trying to get ahold of me on numerous occasions but i obviously was No Contact given that i was so far away. Please will someone tell me what the smart thing to do is...do i reach out or continue to wait and see if she ends things with buddy. Remember that two months ago she was standing in an airport with me begging me to get on the plane and I told her I just couldnt do it I wasnt going to let her see that I would give up this great job and place just to go back home. After my contract was up I realized I wanted to be home because family and love are so much more important than anything. I think it's fairly simple even though it looks so complex. If she loved you - she wouldn't be with someone else. There is your answer. Go find someone who can say "I love you" and mean it. She's only chasing you because you are telling her no... Probably an idea to change your number if she won't leave you alone. You won't move on until she does.
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