unagedtiger Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 So this girl and I have been dating for a few months. This weekend, her cousins from out of town came to stay with her. When they usually visit, they usually end up doing their own thing. So we hung out. Yesterday and this morning, I told her to let me know if they are doing anything together, to see if I can see her today. Turns out she either forgot or didn't choose to tell me they were doing something. As a result, I ended up waiting a few hours for nothing until I called to find out they were doing something. I'm quite angry because she doesn't seem to value my time. I could have been doing other things instead of waiting. Should I get angry or just tell her to tell me ahead of plans in the future? This is the first time this happened since we've dated.
Stay Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 If something bothers you bring it up. Just bring it up in a non-provoking manner. She should've been considerate enough to tell you but at the same time you shouldn't wait around for her. Do what you need to do and don't wait around, if she calls you last minute to meet up tell her you're busy and you'll hang out later or something and she really has no valid reason to be mad that you're busy when she wants to hang out last minute. 1
Author unagedtiger Posted March 15, 2014 Author Posted March 15, 2014 there's still possibility we might meet later in the day. Shall I just ignore her for the day? or still try to meet up and say why I'm upset?
markmartinisfast Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 there's still possibility we might meet later in the day. Shall I just ignore her for the day? or still try to meet up and say why I'm upset? do you really live in florida? you sound like someone i know
Author unagedtiger Posted March 15, 2014 Author Posted March 15, 2014 do you really live in florida? you sound like someone i know I feel like I know you too. I live near Tampa.
Radu Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 If she did it for the first time, how can it be a trend, she might just have forgotten. If it happens again, mention it.
HappyLove Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Sorry but you look like the foolish one. Why did you wait hours instead of just sending a quick text or call? Don't be mad and spoil her time with her cousin. They are probably just so excited to hang out and yapping up a storm that she didn't realize hours flew by. Get over it, you even said this was the first time it's happened. 1
Author unagedtiger Posted March 15, 2014 Author Posted March 15, 2014 what is it? date or gf you confusing and be honest. but first time no need to make it bigger It's gf. I'll lightly mention it next time we meet.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 It's gf. I'll lightly mention it next time we meet. If it's not a regular occurrence I wouldn't mention it at all. It'll liking start a fight that is pointless.
Grumpybutfun Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Either make concrete plans or do your own thing...being passive aggressive because she misunderstood you or was confused about your plan making is useless in a relationship. Honestly, if a woman said something flaky like this to me and then got mad when I didn't call her with my every move when my family was in town would make met think she is a control freak and lived her life revolving around me which would be a turn off. Asked my daughter who is twenty three and she said the same thing. Make concrete plans or do your own thing. Don't bring this up unless it is to confirm that you will make sure to make concrete plans in the future as you missed her company. Figure out why you don't know how to communicate what you want, and work on that instead of getting pissed off with her for not reading your mind and catering to your wishes and dreams....concrete plans, always. Grumps 2
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Yeah stupid iphone that made no sense! It'll likely start a fight that would be pointless..:
devilish innocent Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 She might not have realized that you were expecting her to be available that day. I would mention it so that she knows for next time. It's not worth being mad at her for it however.
mandidee Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 So this girl and I have been dating for a few months. This weekend, her cousins from out of town came to stay with her. When they usually visit, they usually end up doing their own thing. So we hung out. Yesterday and this morning, I told her to let me know if they are doing anything together, to see if I can see her today. Turns out she either forgot or didn't choose to tell me they were doing something. As a result, I ended up waiting a few hours for nothing until I called to find out they were doing something. I'm quite angry because she doesn't seem to value my time. I could have been doing other things instead of waiting. Should I get angry or just tell her to tell me ahead of plans in the future? This is the first time this happened since we've dated. People need space and time to be themselves as a couple and as a person. Do your thing, if you have time when she hits you up then yay, if not u can then plan for another time to be together. It will only cause issues if you expect to be informed of her every move.
OhThatGirl Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Her family is in town. Chill out. Give her some space and time. She may have not had plans clearly outlined or they kept changing (this happens when I have people in town visiting).. Her priority is with her family now, as it should be. Maybe mention it but to actually be upset about it? Uh, no. And how long are they in town? Didn't you also mention in another thread you thought she was going to have so much fun with her family she was going to realize you weren't fun and leave you? You gotta get a grip. You're going to come across as incredibly insecure and clingy and needy. Just let her have fun with her cousins, be there if she wants to make plans, and resume your dating when her cousins leave. 2
Els Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 If you hadn't had any plans with her, how did she 'make you wait'? You chose to wait on your own accord, since neither of you had planned to meet up for the day. IMO you should have just gone and done your own thing instead of 'waiting'. Obviously, if she had told you, "I think we can meet up today, I'll let you know in the morning", then you have every right to be upset. But in this case, nope, sorry, your wasted day was your doing.
Author unagedtiger Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Cousins visit every 2 months and stay for two weeks at a time. Im upset because she assured to not leave me hanging. Well at least ill see her next monday.
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