Disco Lemonade Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Do you think it is fair to ask someone who is having a tough time emotionally that they be more clear with what they want? My ex is going through some tough times, and she recently reconnected with me, but is very undecided/unclear about what she wants from me. I think that she just wants to use me emotionally, but is so hard to tell with her. She will act like she cares about me at times and will even beg to see me, but then she is really cold at others. I was having a tough day the other day and wanted to talk, but she totally ignored me. At this point, I feel like I need clarity about what is going on, but I don't want to pressure her when she is going through enough without that. Is it still fair to ask for my own benefit? I don't want to keep getting contacted in this way out of the blue, because it is tough on me and I don't like the weird feeling that she could want to see me at any given instant. I would rather it just be on or off. I actually broke up with the person I had just started seeing to maybe give this another chance, but it seems idiotic now, because it seems like it was all for naught. The easy answer is to just move on and not respond to her, but she worries me when she gets all emotional like that. I want to just tell her that if she doesn't really want me, then she needs to let me go. Is that fair?
No Limit Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 It's time you draw a line in the sand. Don't react until things have either cleared or she's interested in a serious talk. She doesn't know where her head is right now so it's pointless to go there now. Tell her to contact you once she knows what she wants. If her interests align with yours, alright. But if not, you don't need to be her shoulder to sob into. You're not having any responsibilities for her. And please no "she needs to let me go", she would have never been able to do anything if you had simply blocked her number. Plenty of people think that going full and final NC is hard, but it isn't. You just need to want it too.
Muhib Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 It's better you should ask her Clearly what she wants so it will make your mind relax too. I guess u will find the clear picture then.
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