Author bohica Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 (edited) Everyone is saying stay away from her in one form or another but when is it ok to pursue someone? I really have no idea of her situation and if I wait too long then someplace else may get her attention. I am not waiting for her to be single or am I pursuing her as a few suggested. Other then hearing her say directly to me that she doesn't like her boyfriend I have no idea what her situation is. They may have broken up. Who knows. Although I've been attracted to her for sometime I actually have been staying very clear of her. I only just began a little small casual talk. I never wanted to be that guy that hits on her in the gym or give her too much attention. I have other things I am there for. Additionally, she is friends with other guys in this very small gym who talk to her. I stay away, I keep quiet. Once in a while I'll say hello or give a smile and in one of those unexplainable ways I feel a little vibe between us. I am 40yrs old. I have no real game with women and I am not a player. I am very relaxed. I am not the approachable type. I've been attracted to this girl for a year and haven't said a word. I like the idea of getting together with a group though.... Edited March 22, 2014 by bohica
VeronicaRoss Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Always see how they are treating the person they are with and understand that will be true for you. Especially the ones that pull you into a 'save me from them' drama. Do you really want to be with a woman who signals her interest as "I hate my boyfriend?" If you were the boyfriend on the other side of that conversation, how would you feel? Angry, suspicious and betrayed, right? Couples shouldn't be broadcasting their weaknesses. It's really disrespectful to the people they're with. It's also always been the first fishing test from virtually every married man that has hit on me. Dodge this bullet. Unless you want to be pulled into a major drama and end up the loser even if you are the winner.
Author bohica Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Always see how they are treating the person they are with and understand that will be true for you. Especially the ones that pull you into a 'save me from them' drama. Do you really want to be with a woman who signals her interest as "I hate my boyfriend?" If you were the boyfriend on the other side of that conversation, how would you feel? Angry, suspicious and betrayed, right? Couples shouldn't be broadcasting their weaknesses. It's really disrespectful to the people they're with. It's also always been the first fishing test from virtually every married man that has hit on me. Dodge this bullet. Unless you want to be pulled into a major drama and end up the loser even if you are the winner. You make a ton of sense with this. I can't argue with it at all. In response though I will say that it is likely she was speaking out of character. Odds are not the case but there is still a chance she herself even regretted saying it. For what I've heard this person is actually a very nice, very sweet, down to earth girl.
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