avoforastig Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I've been out with a woman a few times recently. She is very physically attractive, maybe the most physically attractive woman I've ever dated. However, she really seems to lack confidence and has mediocre conversational skills. Its really quite unusual. I've given her a couple chances to improve, but she seems very anxious and a bit uncomfortable making eye contact specifically. She seems very open to answering questions about herself and making physical contact also, which further thickens the plot. What do you do with a person you can't read or seems to have bad social skills?
WrinkledForehead Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Say, "nice knowing you! I'm off to have an intellectual conversation." Although you could likely leave off the latter sentence.
Gaeta Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Ask about her interests and converse about that, no?
Phantom888 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 It's hard to connect with someone who is socially awkward. When I divorced a few years ago, I was dating some models who were gorgeous physically, but never read a book. I mean, they talked about shallow stuff, and I had really difficulties conversing with them. The sex was amazing, but after that I felt lonely because I crave intellectual interaction with the woman I'm ****ing. So those relationships never last long. 2
WrinkledForehead Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 It's hard to connect with someone who is socially awkward. When I divorced a few years ago, I was dating some models who were gorgeous physically, but never read a book. I mean, they talked about shallow stuff, and I had really difficulties conversing with them. The sex was amazing, but after that I felt lonely because I crave intellectual interaction with the woman I'm ****ing. So those relationships never last long. I like you, phantom. We agree on most things. I've dated people like this, too. It's really hard for me as I'm a huge communicator. I talk a mile a minute and I need someone who can keep up and stimulate me! 2
isisisweeping Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 People are talking about intellectual conversations, but the OP never said she lacked intelligence. (That would be a deal killer for me, too.) He only said socially awkward/lacking conversational skills. That could very well improve as she gets more comfortable around you. I'm a little socially awkward, really, but once I'm comfortable with someone you would scarce realize it. That can take a bit, though. How much time have you actually spent with her? 3
Author avoforastig Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 People are talking about intellectual conversations, but the OP never said she lacked intelligence. (That would be a deal killer for me, too.) He only said socially awkward/lacking conversational skills. That could very well improve as she gets more comfortable around you. I'm a little socially awkward, really, but once I'm comfortable with someone you would scarce realize it. That can take a bit, though. How much time have you actually spent with her? Its been two long dates, about 6 hours each. She is so attractive its hard for me to resist my hormonal urges, but the conversations just seem flat. I've been trying the multi-date thing but not sure how long I can keep things casual before "exclusivity" comes into play. Ive never multidated until recently.
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