greeneyedgal924 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 So I'm having a hard time deciding whether or not to meet up with this guy. He seems really nice and down to earth and we have some common interests. I met him online about two weeks ago. We chatted back and forth a little bit before exchanging numbers, except now I can't escape his constant text messaging! I hate to be mean and part of me feels like this is just me being detached like I usually am in the beginning of the "getting to know you" stage... but I think he's just coming on way too strong. I mean, we haven't even met yet, but he's referring to himself as my "future boyfriend". I would hate to pass up the opportunity to get to know someone who may be really good for me, and while I do like the guy I'm dating to be attentive, I fear he may be *too* attentive. Either that or he's just lonely... We exchanged numbers last Sunday and as of today I've gotten pictures of his coffee, the movie he was watching, his pets (cute though!), him at the gym, him laying on the couch, him in his kitchen, his legs, him in another room in his house and some Chuck Norris meme. On Tuesday (two days after we exchanged numbers) morning I got a text that said "Hey beautiful. Just wanted to say hey before you started work." at 6:30 AM. To me, this is something someone in an established relationship should send... not someone I've never met. When I didn't respond to his text, more followed. Nothing crazy like "are you getting my texts??" but things like how badly he wanted coffee and how he hoped I had a good day, what he was doing/had planned etc. I don't completely ignore him (because I'm not like that) but I also try to space my responses out so they don't encourage him... but it seems like anytime I do respond he jumps on my response, replying right away and sending like, 4 messages back to back. And he sends the dreadful "So are you into me??" texts too... I told him before that I didn't know and couldn't really give him an answer because I didn't know him all that well yet. And then he would say he understood and then ask me out to different events he had planned months from now. I can't even think about what I'm doing this weekend let alone what I'm doing in July. So the fact that he is planning things to do so far in advance without even meeting me is turning me off. How do you tell someone they're coming on too strong without being mean and making them feel stupid? That's the last thing I want to do to this guy who is probably a genuinely nice guy that's just lonely...
Assasda Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Desperate, clingy, and needy are not attractive. He doesn't get it. If you feel this way already over texts, I can only imagine what'll happen in person. Good luck. Ditto. You have a right to those feelings
Author greeneyedgal924 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Yeah I guess writing it down and reading it really seems to put it there in black and white. I'll see if he can cool his heels a bit before I even consider meeting him.
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