Emilia Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I know, that's why I'm conflicted. On the one hand, good sex can be taught. On the other hand, a sexless relationship is not good enough - I need both. GAH!! I don't really believe that I suppose. If you don't have that connection, the sex won't be amazing. At least for me. I need to click with the person but then again I don't know what it's like to be with someone on a regular basis without a connection.
Andy_K Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Sex. Most girls aren't funny anyway (Kidding!) But on a serious note, Sense of humour is one part of a personality, it can still be great fun to spend time with someone without their needing to crack jokes or be in hysterics all the time. Sex on the other hand is really important and a mismatch there is a non starter for me.
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I don't really believe that I suppose. If you don't have that connection, the sex won't be amazing. At least for me. I need to click with the person but then again I don't know what it's like to be with someone on a regular basis without a connection. If the sex is horrible, yeah. If they're fumbling around but have the enthusiasm, progress can be made. I know the OP didn't say both, but I guess it is. Like it or not. A further point to Haydn, I type this while wearing my AC/DC singlet, so I guess I'm set. 1
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Sex. Most girls aren't funny anyway (Kidding!) But on a serious note, Sense of humour is one part of a personality, it can still be great fun to spend time with someone without their needing to crack jokes or be in hysterics all the time. Sex on the other hand is really important and a mismatch there is a non starter for me. I'm freakin' hilarious, and never had any complaints 1
AntiSocal Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 To me personality doesn't necessarily= funny because i'm not a humorous person. As long as me and them could communicate well and have fun outside of the bedroom? I would choose sex. No need to joke around. If by not funny you mean no personality and we can't even have fun together? Well i would choose neither. Not dating a girl who i don't have good sex with. Also not dating a girl who i can't have fun with outside of the bedroom.
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Thats too complicated. A sense of humour is essential whilst making the beast with 2 backs. A slip up here or there, should elicit laughter. Love making should not be like rowing a boat. Pickflicker ACDC singlet! Slipping into my Morrissey on tour 2013 jumpsuit as w speak. To me personality doesn't necessarily= funny because i'm not a humorous person. As long as me and them could communicate well and have fun outside of the bedroom? I would choose sex. No need to joke around. If by not funny you mean no personality and we can't even have fun together? Well i would choose neither. Not dating a girl who i don't have good sex with. Also not dating a girl who i can't have fun with outside of the bedroom. 4
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Thats too complicated. A sense of humour is essential whilst making the beast with 2 backs. A slip up here or there, should elicit laughter. Love making should not be like rowing a boat. Pickflicker ACDC singlet! Slipping into my Morrissey on tour 2013 jumpsuit as w speak. Jumpsuit? Oh no! My eyes cannot unsee....! 5
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 With `Last of the international playboys` Emblazoned across the front. Tone it down a bit? Jumpsuit? Oh no! My eyes cannot unsee....! 1
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Good personality 40 % and 60 % sex. So my answer has to be sex. I'm just being honest.
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 David from your ease at picking up the fairer sex, i doubt you have any problems. Good personality 40 % and 60 % sex. So my answer has to be sex. I'm just being honest. 1
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 David from your ease at picking up the fairer sex, i doubt you have any problems. Thanks. Haydn you and Pickflicker .... I don't know but I can sense some sparks there, now i'm not saying that i'm not a little jealous ) but if it weren't for the long distance you guys would make a nice couple . 3
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Thanks. Haydn you and Pickflicker .... I don't know but I can sense some sparks there, now i'm not saying that i'm not a little jealous ) but if it weren't for the long distance you guys would make a nice couple . We'd never agree on the music to play in the house. Too much Morrissey and I'd neck myself. 3
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 We'd never agree on the music to play in the house. Too much Morrissey and I'd neck myself. I think that Haydn would make a compromise on this department Op to be on topic,sex is very important in a relationship. If you guys dont get along in the sac then the whole relationship is compromised.
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I find that very hard to believe, i suspect we have infringed this thread! We'd never agree on the music to play in the house. Too much Morrissey and I'd neck myself. 1
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I find that very hard to believe, i suspect we have infringed this thread! Ok, I'll reign it in. I'm sure my ability to tolerate Morrissey could be positively influenced by how much alcohol was provided. Extra points if it's (Morrissey) on vinyl. /threadjack
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Out shopping for Record player. NBR- No beers required. OP Laugh and see that all the personality traits are who she is in the bedroom so to speak. Everyone is different, all learning with with each person we meet. Ok, I'll reign it in. I'm sure my ability to tolerate Morrissey could be positively influenced by how much alcohol was provided. Extra points if it's (Morrissey) on vinyl. /threadjack 2
Trimmer Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 No "both" answers. OK, then: Neither. (Which, technically, is really the same as "both", isn't it?) 1
readynow Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I'll choose sex any day. If I'm laughing my head off but he sucks in bed, the relationship is going nowhere. I don't need my partner to make me laugh - I have Seinfeld for that.
MissBee Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) Sense of humor. One can get better at sex. Not sure how you get funny or develop a personality that's pleasing to me if you don't already have one. Also, realistically, how would I even get to the sex with this person with the terrible personality? I would have to interact with him before sex comes up and therefore we wouldn't even get to the sex if I hated his personality. Whereas the guy who I liked his personality would have a higher chance of seeing me more and getting into my pants. Edited March 14, 2014 by MissBee
3ifbyair Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Sense of humor won't change, but sex skills can improve. So I'd go with humor, though if the sex didn't get better there'd be a problem.
Silly_Girl Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Good sense of humor. If we can communicate -- and humor is the best, nuanced communication, imo -- then we can fix the sex. On the other hand, if the sex is good but the personality is blah, the other 23 hours of the day are going to be awful. Exactly this. There are ways and means of bringing on a sex life, but if you are with someone dull or mean or overly serious, you'd end up wanting to leave them no matter how much hot sex you were getting.
iris219 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 I dated someone who was very attractive and good in bed, but had zero personality. It got to the point where I couldn't even bring myself to have sex with him because his personality was turning me off so much. So, I'd choose personality because sex with someone I don't like as a person is going to end up being awful, whereas sex with someone I love and enjoy being around will be much better, no matter what they do or don't do in bed.
Shepp Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Argh jeez! That's so hard! If you've seen that friends episode where joey cant choose between sex and food? That's what your asking me to do here! err so if I want both, then it comes down to which I couldn't do with out..........I love sex...but I couldn't spend any length of time with someone with no sense of humour, I just couldn't - 48hrs and we'd be broken up so I guess, when I think about it like that, the humour is the most important! Bottom line is , sex would make me happy while we were having it the rest of the time if she wasn't hilarious, I'd be miserable. (plus, I think you should be able to have a laugh during sex so I don't know if i'd even find sex with someone dull that amazing! 1
Got it Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I don't think it's a cheat. Sex can be learned. Personality is pretty much immutable. Besides, anyone with a good sense of humor would be good at sex! <--- Now that's a cheat! Umm no, sex cannot always be learned. Let's not fool people. Trust me! The OP question is a very hard one because I have had funny but awful sex and the funny can disappear. I have had great sex but also great humor and not sure how great the sex can be if the personality is missing. To me they are really intermingled. Not sure, might say just throw both away and keep looking.
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