He broke up with me, because I got angry that he ditched me for an ex

[LadyEyes]

Hi all,

 

Not posted on a forum about relationships so bare with me.

 

So long story short I was in a relationship with a guy for 18 months and we were madly in love, completely inseparable. However I don't get to see my guy very much as I'm currently living with an ex until the both of us can afford to move out and separate. We have our own rooms and we basically view each other as "roommates". I explained my situation to my new man who I've been with for a year and he was completely understanding, I'm honest about everything with him. So seeing my guy with a full time job is tough, but we do our very best to make it work.

 

I always see my guy, let's call him Fred every Monday for the whole day as that's a day we both have off work. Now Fred is best friends with his ex and I mean they're really close, more than I'm comfortable with. The reason why I can just about tolerate her is because she's married with a little girl and she lives a good 5 hours away. But she phones Fred, she visits Fred (with her husband), they stay at each others apartments etc...

 

Now I feel like I've been put second best to his ex. He's blown me off a couple of times to visit her and her husband. He has swore blind and explained there's no "romantic connection" there anymore and I should view her as a sister!? I don't. I don't like her, I feel she should be out of the picture now that she and Fred are no longer a couple.

 

We got in to a MASSIVE argument over text because he wants to arrange our Monday together to another day as his ex and her husband are coming down for a visit and he wants to see them. I was MEGA PEED OFF as we already had plans but clearly he'd rather be with his ex..... he doesn't see it like that. He thinks I'm putting him under the thumb and that I don't trust him. I do trust him but he's blowing me off for his ex! He's done this previously. I got my results back from college and no one made an effort to celebrate with me, not even my own family, but I thought Fred would make an effort as I worked so HARD. But no he decided to visit his ex instead.

 

We broke up over text, he said he hated me, that I can F off and "how dare I speak to him like that" etc.... so we're over.

 

Then he texts me today saying "I've never been in love before and I'm beginning to realise today that you don't fall out of love with someone over night x " Can someone tell me what this means? How should I interpret that?

 

I'm mega upset. He's friends with his ex because they were together many, many years and when they broke up they decided to put their romantic past behind them and remain best friends.

 

I'm so angry, upset and hurt. He blew me off for his ex...

 

 

I don't know what to do at all.

[Chi townD]

 

Then he texts me today saying "I've never been in love before and I'm beginning to realise today that you don't fall out of love with someone over night x " Can someone tell me what this means? How should I interpret that?

 

 

 

 

As an oxymoron, if he's never been in love before, then how would he know that you don't fall out of love with someone overnight.

 

 

Look, the point is, that he never made you a priority in his life. If he had a choice between spending a night in with you or going out to see his Ex, well...he's made that choice before, and unfortunately, it wasn't you.

 

 

I the way you write suggests that you would have been okay with an equal balance of him seeing you and seeing his friends. But, the scales were always tipped out of your favor. He didn't need to spend every waking minute with you, but he could have made an effort to spend some time with you. To show you a little kindness and consideration. to celebrate in your achievements.

 

 

You know it that deep down inside that if you feel like a third wheel inside your OWN relationship, then it's time to go. So, don't feel guilty about it. You know you deserve better than that.

[central]

Is the exes child his, or not? If his, then you may be out of line. If not, then I'd say he is.