youcanever Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Finally i have met this girl and went on a first date. It was not a usual date though. Very new interesting date. What i mean by that is, i take girls to drink something and talk have fun mostly but because of some political acts in our country it was an emotional and against government wise day so we went to a gathering walking around street, yelling against government, yell at police etc. It was pretty interesting first date, then near 10pm we went to a cafe and had coffee and then her 2 male friends came and we had great conversation and fun. I hugged her first time i saw her, offered her to put her arm between my arm while at that.gathering so "she wouşdnt get lost". Her friends liked me a lot, even told they would love to see me again. I believe she liked me too but not too much in a bf wise maybe. I slept only 4 hours before date night and worked from 8am to 6pm, also as i said we walked, yelled 3 hours. So i was pretty exhausted, so i couldnt give me %100 to her. We will not meet at least 1 week. What should i do meanwhile? Tell her i liked her and i want her as my gf, or NC for 1 week so we think about each other a lil? What should. be my move? I am very interested in her. I'd lpve some advice.
mangetout Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I would send her a text and ask her how her week is going. Don't be heavy and mention GF at this stage. Just say you enjoyed her company and you are looking forward to meeting up again. Keep things light and fun for now but definitely send her a text every now and then.
Chi townD Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Last thing you want to do is be NC for a week. Because, if you do that and she was interested, by the end of the week she won't be anymore. 1
Author youcanever Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Last thing you want to do is be NC for a week. Because, if you do that and she was interested, by the end of the week she won't be anymore. Alright but i will meet her next saturday, 10 days later. Should i write her every 1-2 days? And hey, i am the one sends message first all the time. How long does it go? It would be nice if she writes time to time. How long should i stand for it?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Ugh no no no. Text her every day to build a rapport (unless she is clearly not receptive). Call her couple of times too. While you play "Mr Cool" some other guy is getting a chance to woo her. Guys need to realize that in the initial dating stages it's pretty much "out of sight, out of mind". 1
Author youcanever Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Ugh no no no. Text her every day to build a rapport (unless she is clearly not receptive). Call her couple of times too. While you play "Mr Cool" some other guy is getting a chance to woo her. Guys need to realize that in the initial dating stages it's pretty much "out of sight, out of mind". It feels bad to be the one who initiates contact all the time. If she never initiates does it mean she is not interested? And doesnt it make me look needy&desperate if i write her every day?
Chi townD Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I agree with Sunshine. But, don't text her multiple times a day. Just once or twice to let her know you're thinking about her. If she texts you a little more than that in response, then roll with it. But, yeah. Just keep it simple and light. I mean, you're telling me that she's agreed to meet with you on Saturday; so, in my book that shows me that she has some interest.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 It feels bad to be the one who initiates contact all the time. If she never initiates does it mean she is not interested? And doesnt it make me look needy&desperate if i write her every day? As long as you don't write multiple texts without response, no, it doesn't look desperate. As for initiating, I prefer to let the guy do all of it at the start. If I am interested, I will be warm and receptive in response. In all my relationships, the guy was in touch every day from date 1.
Author youcanever Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 As long as you don't write multiple texts without response, no, it doesn't look desperate. As for initiating, I prefer to let the guy do all of it at the start. If I am interested, I will be warm and receptive in response. In all my relationships, the guy was in touch every day from date 1. Alright, i will go with that. Btw we havent set a second date yet, she has exam on monday so i wont see her this week, i told her i definitaly want to see her.next saturday and told her to clear her saturday evening schelude. She didnt say yes or no but she was warm and said "we will do that drinking and have.fun evening as we promised babe ;)" Liked this response though.
Author youcanever Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Okay, it has been 2 days I haven't write anything. I should write but what? Can you please give me some advices.
Author youcanever Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Send the non-sequitur text! what do you mean?
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 It's like a random, hopefully funny text you sent that really doesnt mean anything or follow logic. Useful for making contact! I would incorporate the whole anti-government or protest thing into it.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 "Did i ever tell you how beautiful your pepper-sprayed eyes look?"
Author youcanever Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 "Did i ever tell you how beautiful your pepper-sprayed eyes look?" Perfect idea! loved that. Have any other lines? I'd like to hear.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Perfect idea! loved that. Have any other lines? I'd like to hear. meh.. I dunno that line's not that great or funny but I'm just trying to give an example. "When we finally get arrested for our political dissent I hope our cages are next to each other. Wouldn't that be romantic?"
Author youcanever Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 meh.. I dunno that line's not that great or funny but I'm just trying to give an example. "When we finally get arrested for our political dissent I hope our cages are next to each other. Wouldn't that be romantic?" Man, you are creative. I've sent the line you wrote first. When she replies, I will write the second one you wrote. Good stuff.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Man, you are creative. I've sent the line you wrote first. When she replies, I will write the second one you wrote. Good stuff. but now.. try to come up with one on your own! Don't wanna have to rely on outside help all the time, ya know? Might come back to bite you in the ass. You can do it. Just play around with ideas.
Author youcanever Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 but now.. try to come up with one on your own! Don't wanna have to rely on outside help all the time, ya know? Might come back to bite you in the ass. You can do it. Just play around with ideas. To be honest I am kind of witty as you are but work and studies dried up my brain and can't be funny instead of serious now on. Mostly nervous lately because she is one of the nice things came into my life lately and don't want to lose her. Just need some push and now on I can go on. THanks for great lines man. I'll let you know about the reply and ofcourse, I'll go on wittiness myself. Apreciated.
Author youcanever Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 but now.. try to come up with one on your own! Don't wanna have to rely on outside help all the time, ya know? Might come back to bite you in the ass. You can do it. Just play around with ideas. Yea, I used one of your lines and couple of mines. It was a cute convo. I'm gonna see her on her bd on monday, she liked it I guess. Also set the date 2 for same week. Good stuff. Thanks man.
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