stephen48 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Ive noticed that the girl i am seeing is really not to great in the conversation department. She texts me every day with the usual good morning or hey without fail. Id say she starts the conversation 98% of the time. But after she starts it she cant seem to keep it going for the life of her. I literally have to do all of the work or it just gets bad. She seems to want to talk but when she replies its always short answers and never anything really to add to conversation. For giggles i tried responding as she does to see if she could carry the conversation and it was a train wreck. After asking "whats up" it would be a couple texts back and forth leading back to her asking "whats up" again. Rinse wash repeat. Anyone else have experience with a girl like this? Ive started spacing out our conversations more to accommodate for this. other then that im not sure what to do
TheKook Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 A girl whom I recently dated was like this over text. She was kind of 50/50. Sometimes she'd be good once you got her on the right topic, but besides that she was pretty boring to text. She'd even start a lot of the conversations too but would just ask really typical stuff like "How did you sleep?". I just chalked it up as her not being a good texter or not really caring... I never really figured her out. You might have to try and talk about something that will encourage her to talk which can be hard. She might just not be that into texting which is also fine. Why not give calling her a try? She may also just be getting used to you still and doesn't feel 100% comfortable talking to you. Could be a lot of things.
movingbackwards Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Ive noticed that the girl i am seeing is really not to great in the conversation department. She texts me every day with the usual good morning or hey without fail. Id say she starts the conversation 98% of the time. But after she starts it she cant seem to keep it going for the life of her. I literally have to do all of the work or it just gets bad. She seems to want to talk but when she replies its always short answers and never anything really to add to conversation. For giggles i tried responding as she does to see if she could carry the conversation and it was a train wreck. After asking "whats up" it would be a couple texts back and forth leading back to her asking "whats up" again. Rinse wash repeat. Anyone else have experience with a girl like this? Ive started spacing out our conversations more to accommodate for this. other then that im not sure what to do Are you talking solely over text here? Speak to her in person. Save your material for a meet up. There is no reason to text a girl alllll day long and for her to use her thumbs to tell you what she's up to. That's pretty lame. Use texts to tell her you're coming over...
Standard-Fare Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I don't understand why many feel the need to carry on pointless, no-where chats through text. I also think it can end up causing a lot of problems and miscommunications in relationships. In your case, the forced back-and-forth is making you see your girlfriend in a bad light. Why not say something like, "Hey, gotta be honest, I'm not the best at keeping up with constant text conversations. It's not personal to you -- I just don't find it the best communication style. Why don't we save texting for when we have a specific purpose?" And encourage her to just call you if she wants more of a "chat." I'm sure that sounds blunt but you could find your own softer way to phrase it.
WLFL Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Speaking from experience, I really can't stand one or two-worded messages like "Hey" or "Whats up". Bland and uninteresting. Conversations never last long started that way. If I were you, I'd start the conversation myself with a funny story, maybe something that happened at work/college. Give her something that provokes her to talk.
jen_r Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Ugh, are you my bf? He's a constant texter and texts me about random, pointless crap all day long. I've gotten to the point where I don't respond at all or just give him short answers. Conversations through text are annoying. I like "Hey good morning babe, have a good day" and then texting hours later at lunch to say a few words or something. I initiate texts too, but that doesn't mean I wanna be talking all damn day lol.
Stay Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I keep texts to fun non-sense conversations or meeting up. I don't want to know what their favorite animal or food is over text if I'm going to see them. I want to lightly flirt and just have fun, make them smile and that's it. I don't want to or need to text all day or everyday either because now there's nothing to talk about when we do see each other.
Assasda Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Ive noticed that the girl i am seeing is really not to great in the conversation department. She texts me every day with the usual good morning or hey without fail. Id say she starts the conversation 98% of the time. But after she starts it she cant seem to keep it going for the life of her. I literally have to do all of the work or it just gets bad. She seems to want to talk but when she replies its always short answers and never anything really to add to conversation. For giggles i tried responding as she does to see if she could carry the conversation and it was a train wreck. After asking "whats up" it would be a couple texts back and forth leading back to her asking "whats up" again. Rinse wash repeat. Anyone else have experience with a girl like this? Ive started spacing out our conversations more to accommodate for this. other then that im not sure what to do Sounds like this girl likes you. Sounds like she's also not very smart. Try talking to her about stuff she has opinions about. Ask her what she thinks of Justin Bieber, or Ask her if she likes keeping up with the kardashians, and just let her talk your ear off without any interuption. She definitely is smitten with you though, if you didnt know before
Standard-Fare Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 On the broader topic of "texting and dating": Gotta admit I find it really emasculating when grown men behave like teenage girls via text. Excessive/unwarranted use of "LOL"s; lame, insubstantial conversational prodders; etc etc. Unfortunately it's an inescapable reality for kids today, and that's just part of their dating world. But for anyone over, say... 25(?) right now: You have a choice. And it's a matter of integrity.
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