c0nfused88 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 If a man asks you for your phone number under the auspice of "hanging out" sometime, are they usually asking you out? As a man, would you ever ask for a woman's phone number if you didn't have interest? (I guess I have assumed when men and women become friends it occurs in a different kind of way-- usually through mutual friends etc.) For this particular scenario, this is someone that attends functions that I also attend. I am actually in a relationship but I guess this man does not know that (if he is asking me out).
Author c0nfused88 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Yes. Interesting you posted this topic as I was thinking about this today after a woman gave her number to me last night out of the blue. A phone number is vital to open the lines of communication in this day and age. It's a direct line to reach someone privately through calls and texting. For guys we'll ask for it under any and all pretenses just to get it. He's interested and is looking for a way to communicate with you. So, it does show some level of interest as more than friends? A man wouldn't ask you for your number just in a friendship manner?
somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 If a man asks you for your phone number under the auspice of "hanging out" sometime, are they usually asking you out? As a man, would you ever ask for a woman's phone number if you didn't have interest? (I guess I have assumed when men and women become friends it occurs in a different kind of way-- usually through mutual friends etc.) For this particular scenario, this is someone that attends functions that I also attend. I am actually in a relationship but I guess this man does not know that (if he is asking me out). Using "Hanging out" is usually a more casual way of asking for a date. It's purposely ambiguous. Some guys believe a girl is more likely to say yes to a hang out than a date. No I would never ask for a girls phone number if i wasn't interested in her. I also have no interest in making female friends, but other guys may be different. Basically, if I get a girls number and want to hang out with her, it means that I'm interested.
Author c0nfused88 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Alright, so if you have asked for a woman's number to "hang out" and she gave it and you have small talked chatted... and the woman is in a relationship... how would you want her to tell you this? Would you want her to just randomly say "you know I have a boyfriend", or would you want her to only bring it up if you asked to hangout or somehow casually mention it?
somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Alright, so if you have asked for a woman's number to "hang out" and she gave it and you have small talked chatted... and the woman is in a relationship... how would you want her to tell you this? Would you want her to just randomly say "you know I have a boyfriend", or would you want her to only bring it up if you asked to hangout or somehow casually mention it? Ah, now that is quite the pickle. That is why I prefer to figure out a girls relationship status before I go for the number. As for what the girl should do. If you have a boyfriend and a guy you just meet asks for your number and it's not about school or business, politely decline and say, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." The same for if a guy wants to hang out with you. There is a 99.9% chance that new guys you meet are not interested in being your friend. The guy may try to pretend that he just wanted to be your friend, do not believe him unless he is gay.
Author c0nfused88 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Ah, now that is quite the pickle. That is why I prefer to figure out a girls relationship status before I go for the number. As for what the girl should do. If you have a boyfriend and a guy you just meet asks for your number and it's not about school or business, politely decline and say, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." The same for if a guy wants to hang out with you. There is a 99.9% chance that new guys you meet are not interested in being your friend. The guy may try to pretend that he just wanted to be your friend, do not believe him unless he is gay. And.. if I already gave the number? When do I bring this up?
somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 And.. if I already gave the number? When do I bring this up? Then just wait till he wants to hang out with you. If he does, then tell him something like, "Is it OK if I bring my boyfriend?" Or you can straight up decline him. "I'm sorry I have a boyfriend and I don't think it's a good idea." Using the first one may actually turn out pretty good if he has a girlfriend and all of you can do the thing together and make new friends.
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