nadinefleur Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) So out of all the guys I've ever dated, I always feel unsure after the first date, I always feel like I grow to like a guy.. maybe after the 3rd or 4th date is when I realise I like him, and am willing to kiss him.. Is this normal? So about a month ago I was dating a guy who I really liked, we ended up sleeping together for him to then disappear on me. I was really upset by it, but decided I needed to move on. Tonight I went on a date with a new guy, and even though I feel like I get on better with the new guy (we had a lot more to talk about - not sure if it's because my previous guy was shy) I was still left thinking of my old guy... and had a sudden urge to just call him to talk to him I don't know if this is a case of wanting what you can't have... but I also get a sense that this new guy is less experienced, and my old guy was more experienced, so was a bit more confident in 'courting' me.. I'm going to give the new guy a chance, if he asks me out again I will see him... but right now I am only thinking about my previous guy and missing him A LOT. I know I can't have him back, he hasn't contacted me for a month now, so I doubt I will hear from him again.. but is it possible this new guy will help me forget my old guy? Edited March 12, 2014 by nadinefleur
whitneyblue Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Sounds like the first one isnt into you, and you're not really into the second one... move along from both...lol
Assasda Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Why not contact the old guy. Go out and have fun again. Sounds like the new guy just talk too much. The old guy just responds to your emotions. hahaha those are re ones that always gets the girls. Anyway, call up the old guy, go have a drink, go to the museum or something
Author nadinefleur Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Why not contact the old guy. Go out and have fun again. Sounds like the new guy just talk too much. The old guy just responds to your emotions. hahaha those are re ones that always gets the girls. Anyway, call up the old guy, go have a drink, go to the museum or something I definitely felt more passion and attraction for my old guy... but I think I will lose all dignity if I contact him... You see, after we started having sex, he started to take longer to contact me, I called him out on it... he said he wanted to take things slow, I agreed, but then he never replied... and that was a month ago. The ball is in his court now! :S
Assasda Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I definitely felt more passion and attraction for my old guy... but I think I will lose all dignity if I contact him... You see, after we started having sex, he started to take longer to contact me, I called him out on it... he said he wanted to take things slow, I agreed, but then he never replied... and that was a month ago. The ball is in his court now! :S Ugh... thats a rough one. You know, I'd like to say go no contact, but I think that you may have just gotten too serious with him after you guys had sex, and you just came on too strong. I think you can still Text "I'd still like to go out with you sometime" And then just leave it at that, until he responds. Everybody deserves to get with that person that their heart goes *beatbeat* for
Michael91 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I'm going to give the new guy a chance, if he asks me out again I will see him... but right now I am only thinking about my previous guy and missing him A LOT. My first though is how old are you that you so quickly hop into bed with a guy. My second thought is how very unfair to the new guy to be led on by a woman carrying a torch for her prior boyfriend.
Author nadinefleur Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) My first though is how old are you that you so quickly hop into bed with a guy. My second thought is how very unfair to the new guy to be led on by a woman carrying a torch for her prior boyfriend. I slept with my previous guy after 2-3 months of dating so I don't think it was that quick.... I thought I was over it, but going on a date with a new guy since the last guy disappeared, made me miss the last guy. I don't know if I am just comparing them and if thats normal, or if its because I have feelings for the previous guy still. Thing is, it took me to the 3rd date to like my previous guy Edited March 12, 2014 by nadinefleur
Author nadinefleur Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Ugh... thats a rough one. You know, I'd like to say go no contact, but I think that you may have just gotten too serious with him after you guys had sex, and you just came on too strong. I think you can still Text "I'd still like to go out with you sometime" And then just leave it at that, until he responds. Everybody deserves to get with that person that their heart goes *beatbeat* for But doesn't that just scream desperation and craziness, if I ask him out 1 month after I told him I wanted to go slow too and then I never heard from again? He's probably dating someone else now, or probably was not interested in me. Or if I came on too strong and scared him off then doesn't that mean I've scared him off for good?
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