someonespecial Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I have been talking to this guy for about two weeks. We went on our first date over the weekend. He was very nice and the date went well. We have spoken every day since the date. However, last night when we spoke he kept saying he REALLY REALLY LIKES me. This kind of scares me. Am I reading too much into it or is he trying to imply something. He barely knows me.
Copelandsanity Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 He certainly wants to have sex with you soon 1
Purepony Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 You are both crazy! Hes crazy because he really likes you so fast And you're crazy because you're on the phone with them all the time what do you guys talk about!?
Michael91 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I have been talking to this guy for about two weeks. We went on our first date over the weekend. He was very nice and the date went well. We have spoken every day since the date. However, last night when we spoke he kept saying he REALLY REALLY LIKES me. This kind of scares me. Am I reading too much into it or is he trying to imply something. He barely knows me. That is not unusual, especially nowadays where (unlike the past due wars and high death rates for boys and young men) there are considerably more single young men than single young women and where young men must also compete with older, more experienced, and successful men. Therefore, most young men find it difficult to meet and date equally attractive girls and their numerous rejections results in them being overly anxious so they come on too strong far too fast which of course is a turn-off to girls resulting in more rejections and greater anxiety and even desperation. If you can understand this, you can judge his worth as a possible boyfriend on his overall characteristics and disregard his pushing things too quickly. I realize that you want a guy to like you without thinking you are the living end but that in itself shouldn't disqualify him. 2
Author someonespecial Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Pure pony: you seem like an ass We are not young, we are both in our thirties and we talk about every day stuff. I just kind of felt like he was jumping in all of a sudden wanting a relationship. I think he is a nice guy and am flattered he likes me but it was just the way he said it that made me concerned. Michael 91. Well put.
ThatMan Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 It's okay to trust your own intuition, especially if you feel concerned.
Assasda Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I have been talking to this guy for about two weeks. We went on our first date over the weekend. He was very nice and the date went well. We have spoken every day since the date. However, last night when we spoke he kept saying he REALLY REALLY LIKES me. This kind of scares me. Am I reading too much into it or is he trying to imply something. He barely knows me. He's the one's that crazy, because he doesnt know you. You have a right ti feel weirded out. Its kinda like he wants something from you. You have a total natural reaction. Maybe he doesnt know when to come on strong
waiting4u Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 This sounds just fine to me. If he starts to bug you, just tell him to cool it. I just wish people could be honest about their feelings - but apparently they can't because it's not proper decorum. 2
Assasda Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 This sounds just fine to me. If he starts to bug you, just tell him to cool it. I just wish people could be honest about their feelings - but apparently they can't because it's not proper decorum. Its like a stranger, that you barely know, telling you they really really like you. Its creapy. think about it
Raena Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Yeah, only meeting face to face once and he's professing how much he likes you? That's a bit strange. You did say you were talking everyday though, maybe he's getting a good vibe from you and doesn't realize how off putting his comments are. It's really all about how YOU are feeling towards him though. Professing that kind of interest up front and this early seems like a bit much for you... as in, it doesn't sound like you are all that into him just yet. Are you getting a good feeling about him otherwise?
Author someonespecial Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 He is nice but Im not sure I like him in that way. He is a little nerdy which is kind of unattractive to me. I more into manly men. But he is nice. I may go on a second date to see what happens.
Author someonespecial Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Will do JakeBrown. We are going out Friday. I hope all goes well.
deathandtaxes Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 He is nice but Im not sure I like him in that way. He is a little nerdy which is kind of unattractive to me. I more into manly men. But he is nice. I may go on a second date to see what happens. Do him a favor and don't go out again. He's only going to become more needy after your next date. And if you're really not feeling it, you're not helping him any. 1
Stay Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Do him a favor and don't go out again. He's only going to become more needy after your next date. And if you're really not feeling it, you're not helping him any. This is somewhat true, just be careful. Give it a try and if he does become a bit too clingy for you, tell him to slow down.
Phantom888 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I have been talking to this guy for about two weeks. We went on our first date over the weekend. He was very nice and the date went well. We have spoken every day since the date. However, last night when we spoke he kept saying he REALLY REALLY LIKES me. This kind of scares me. Am I reading too much into it or is he trying to imply something. He barely knows me. Just so you know, I fell in love with my fiancee on the 1st date. We are both in our late 30s. We had been talking for a couple of weeks before that. Our 1st phone conversation lasted 3 hours! I never thought I could fall in love so quickly, but it was literally love at first sight. Then that 1st evening we kissed, and I knew we had intense sexual chemistry. So it's not crazy to like someone so much over short period of time. If it's the right person you just know it, without having to wait. Hard to explain, but when you meet your perfect match, all the rules go out the window.
Phantom888 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Yeah, only meeting face to face once and he's professing how much he likes you? That's a bit strange. You did say you were talking everyday though, maybe he's getting a good vibe from you and doesn't realize how off putting his comments are. It's really all about how YOU are feeling towards him though. Professing that kind of interest up front and this early seems like a bit much for you... as in, it doesn't sound like you are all that into him just yet. Are you getting a good feeling about him otherwise? I told my fiancee I loved her on our 2nd date. I knew she was THE ONE, and I could not contain my feelings any longer. I have never professed my love to any woman since my last serious relationship 2 years prior. I don't fall in love easily. But my fiancee was so perfect for me, I couldn't imagine ever loving anyone else. I told her, and she was surprised, but not turned off. We made love all night that night, and have been together ever since. 1
Author someonespecial Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 We went out on our second date. We had our first kiss. I didnt feel the connection but didn't say anything. When I got home he called and said he was falling for me. I had to tell him that even though he is a great guy there was no connection for me. He was happy I told the truth rather than ignoring him until he got the point. 1
ThatMan Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 You certainly did the right thing by being forthcoming.
StanMusial Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 He is nice but Im not sure I like him in that way. He is a little nerdy which is kind of unattractive to me. I more into manly men. But he is nice. I may go on a second date to see what happens. Neither one of you are crazy. You just don't like him.
Leigh 87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Guys, it is totally normal to really really like certain people that you go on a mere one date with. Not everyone needs to multi date or wait a month or more to figure out if they may want a relationship. Sometimes two people meet and they are both just Really into each . My bf and I were really into each other from date one. My friends and her guy also REALLY liked each other after just ONE meeting...... And then there are people like Phantom 220. Do you honestly think that he is delusional? That he's simply not aware of his feelings? That he has some kind of problem whereby he doesn't have an accurate understanding of how he feels about women? Phantom me and my friend are not unable to gauge our feelings. We all really REALLY liked our partners on the first date. This is not some unusual phenomenon. The people who think it's creepy probably haven't found a guy who was really into them from date one. 2
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