Gaeta Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I was legally married for 15 years and divorced ....but my ex-husband died last summer so I don't have an ex-husband anymore. Do I remain a divorcé? or that makes me single? but I am not single as people interpret single as never been married, I am not really a widow either. What am I?
KathyM Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 You are a divorcee. This question actually came up in one of my classes, and the answer is, you are a divorcee. If you were married to your ex at the time of his death, you would have been a widow. You are not designated as a single, since you had been previously married. Single would mean never been married before.
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Legally: you're divorced. You've got the piece of paper to prove it. Your ex-spouse dying does not mean the marriage didn't happen.
Chocolat Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Agree with the above; you are divorced. You could add a comment in your description that your ex has passed if what you want to signify is that there is no chance of reconciliation or drama.
MidwestUSA Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I'm going with Hot, forty something cougar. Roar! 2
Author Gaeta Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Anyone of you Catholic and would know if I can now remarry in Church or I am forever considered a sinner!(being sarcastic here)
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 You could add a comment in your description that your ex has passed Yeah cos that's a fun, interesting, exciting thing to write on an ADVERTISEMENT for yourself, isn't it No, leave that info for like the 10th date. It's not relevant to any potential new men you meet. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I wouldn't mention anything about the ex-husband taking a dirt nap in your profile. It's 2014 and It's OLD, not everyone needs to know your personal business in your profile, if they ask about the past you can absolutely mention it and the situation, but I would go with Single status otherwise, if you go with divorce it might make it seem recent, in which if it is that's understandable. If things progress when you do meet someone and it's anything potentially serious then I'd mention your divorce. But you don't need to be an open-book in your OLD profile IMO, that doesn't mean it should be something to hide I would just wait till I was having a conversation with that person at the least.
Chocolat Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Yeah cos that's a fun, interesting, exciting thing to write on an ADVERTISEMENT for yourself, isn't it :D:D Touché!
Michael91 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I was legally married for 15 years and divorced ....but my ex-husband died last summer so I don't have an ex-husband anymore. Do I remain a divorcé? or that makes me single? but I am not single as people interpret single as never been married, I am not really a widow either. What am I? You can claim to be widowed or divorced; whichever you choose. My recommendation is to tell people the man you were married to died which is the truth and let them draw their own conclusions.
MidwestUSA Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Anyone of you Catholic and would know if I can now remarry in Church or I am forever considered a sinner!(being sarcastic here) I'm guessing the church would say you committed the son of divorce first, so no, they wouldn't remarry you. But maybe they've relaxed their standards in recent years? I don't know. As a lapsed Catholic, I avoided it by getting remarried in a nondenominational quickie, which cost me a bottle of Patron.
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 The Catholic church would not have recognized your divorce anyway, so you'd be a widow according to them. 1
Author Gaeta Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 The Catholic church would not have recognized your divorce anyway, so you'd be a widow according to them. I think you are right, as per the Catholic Church we were still married even with those divorce papers.
Chocolat Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I think you are right, as per the Catholic Church we were still married even with those divorce papers. So then you're a widow!
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 The Catholic Church is OK with divorce, or at least more OK with it then most people think. What the Catholic Church doesn't abide is remarriage or sex outside of marriage. I would ask your priest if you can now remarry considering the person the Catholic Church considers to be your spouse for life is now dead. I would think so since their vows only require until death do you part. In light of the death you are free to remarry. Anyway, in your profile I'd put divorced. If you put widowed some people might think you are still pining for your deceased husband who was taken from you against your will. A divorce signals a choice on your part (to some extent).
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