My Girlfriend has changed!

[solitudemeh29]

Hello everyone im currently in a 1 yr long distance relationship weve only seen each other last december twice and lastly last may days before my bday. my relationship w/ my girlfriend was very smooth sailing and i really can feel her neediness on me during those times when im too busy working with my thesis she always there for me and i never also to fail to let her feel that even though how busy things get i' am always make time for her bec. as we know LDR was so hard you need to work things hand in hand w/ each other and you have to invest trust plus time whether if it's too busy or what my girlfriend and had a habit that every night we always stayed on the phone till we fell asleep.

 

She promised to me that after my graduation i she'll come here and stay in my house for 2days, but i was so shocked when she told me on nov. 22 that instead of goin here she'll be having first a vacation w/ some relatives but i never doubted her to be w/ them i said yes to her plan and she promised again that after that vacation she'll go straight here in my place so i was thrilled actually. but, 2 nights passed i never heard anything from her even a mere text or night time call that we used to have was never happened.

 

I txted her that how was she if anything happens to her preventing her for not letting me know anything, i received a reply another morning from her telling me that her plans of visiting my place was cancelled!! i was so disappointed shes not even sorry for everything and i know for a fact that shes not like that even simple things happened im always up to date. and then i told her that it's ok but then i can feel that somethings different, she replied thank you. in my mind i know theres somethings different but i still force my mind to justify all her decisions and actions.

 

I still chose to understand everything. another morning still didnt heard anything from her christmas came and new years still it's like she changed everything about her. ive waited every night for the calls that we used to do and im like awake till 3am still no calls from her if i call her it's busy most of the time or she always say i'm with my parents now don't call me ill call you but the i'll call you thing was never happened! there some instances i'll ask her if what made her changed she always scolded me to shut up and shes busy and im too OA (over acting).

 

She doesn't have time for me anymore i wanted to ask her if i done something that made her changed her but everytime i do she always cut the call and off her phone and believe it or not im the one who always says sorry made me feel so pathetic how could she hurt me like this?. ( busy for no particular reason but i still her waited for her for maybe just maybe could open up her eyes and realize that shes doin too much pain on my part. shes being so selfish and self centered. i don't know if shes avoiding me or what coz theres this one instances sunday afternoon it's her rest day and mine too so i called her she said how am i and she loves me soo much and then after 3mins while am talking she just said can i go out and watch movies w/ my cousins?

 

I am about to shouted her but i still composed myself not to do anything that made her upset on me instead i asked her in a nice way and pleaded her to stay w/ me even just for that day but in my surprised she told me ok but in a way that you really can feel that shes not happy with my request i ask i was so upset i coudn't stand listening on her voice it's like blaming me again. so i told her to go out w/ them but i hope shes happy w/ them and cut the call but i thought she'd call me back, she never call me back and even waited for like 6hrs staring for my phone just asking please just give me a txt that can wipe the upset away that i felt. honestly, i'm having now a hard time giving her my understandings my friends told me if theres a book of world record of being the longest patient ever live that would be me.

 

Maybe i just too much loved her and i know that shes not like that last week she finally told me why shes too busy and not havng time with me like before, her business was expanded thats why but i don't know if ill believe her. love without time would never survive! am not asking for much of her time, i only want her just sundays or just 30mins that could feed my neediness with her attention.

 

P.S. were on same sex relationship. but shes more on boyish. i dont know how. i always end up like im the one who always say sorry. maybe shes just too spoiled with me. (

Edited March 23, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[d0nnivain]

I don't know why you aren't a priority for her any more but you aren't. At this point she's taking advantage of your good nature & you are letting her.

 

It may be time to end this because you need to maintain your own self respect.

[solitudemeh29]

yeah i gave her too much for her to abused my kindness and guess thats really is my fault there! my work was affected on this drama already i even tried to talk lots of friends at first it's ok but when sadness came IMISSHER!! wanted to txt her but too scared to know, but one morning i received a call from her she was too sweet i told her that thanks bec. shes back but in my despair shes just too sweet bec. she want's me to give her money just to buy for aviator shades that's cause too much. i told her don't have money and all so there shes mad again so i guess thats it. woke up to reality that i will never be good enough for her, she told me that shes too envy w/ her friends because they can have anything what they wanted from their gf/bf. but why can't she have anything from me. and suddenly slept to his mouth the reason why she changed bec. i doesn't care what she needed she gave me financial support before when i was still in college. (

[CarismaLeoni]

You let her walk all over you.

 

She lost touch with you on purpose. She's lost interest in you.

Perhaps she was too afraid to be straight forward with you.

 

Nonetheless she's not into you any more and you shouldn't waste your time on her.

 

General advice for you would be not to seem needy and let the girl miss you a bit or reach out to you sometimes.

 

If you won't wait to let a girl show you her interest then you will seem like a needy guy. Girls don't like needy guys...they don't respect them.

 

Of course stay nice to women but just don't call and call again if they never reach out to you.

 

Hey you probably have a lot to offer and you should go for a girl who appreciates you.