SSMF Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Dated girl for about 4 months from September to December. I started to become needy in December and we ended up fighting for a couple weeks. She said the connection was not as strong as it used to be. We broke up in January and we talked for a couple weeks until I ultimately said I can't talk to you anymore. Her mom is going through cancer and shes the type type to keep busy to keep her mind off things. We ended things on goods terms with us saying we both care for each other and one day I hope we can talk. Fast Forward 2 months later, I texted her and all she had to say was thats sweet a day later. These were our texts me- How are you doing? hows your mom, I hope shes getting better her- She just had treatment and shes going for a scan next week so fingers crossed! Hows yours? me-shes doing alright, staying positive. I hope everything goes well for your mom, you and your family. a day later her- thanks same goes for you My question is obviously it was stupid of me to break no contact, but why the coldness when we ended things on good terms. Maybe i'm over analyzing but I feel she has met someone. Im 23 and shes 21, she never had a boyfriend before.
Stay Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Wrong sub forum for this post but I'll answer it anyways, if you're ok with friends then sure, do whatever you want. If you feel like you're not going to be hurt by staying in contact with her then do it, if not then don't talk to her because you're only hurting yourself.
Author SSMF Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Sorry I know I posted this in the wrong part of the forums. I can't be friends, but its just strange to me acting cold. She even ignored my question when I asked hows she doing.
Stay Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Sorry I know I posted this in the wrong part of the forums. I can't be friends, but its just strange to me acting cold. She even ignored my question when I asked hows she doing. Why is it strange to act cold? You don't act cold, you just don't contact her.. If she texts you and asks something she reply, don't be overly enthusiastic or anything. Just talk like normal adults, you don't really have to check up on her and make sure she's ok or anything.. She's not your problem anymore. You have your own life and she has a BF that will worry about the stuff you're doing. You don't want to be a guy she can turn to emotionally without being the guy physically so don't let it get there. Go out and do some things, hang out with friends, meet new people and forget about her.
mangetout Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It sounds like she has already met someone or is moving on. If she was upset over the breakup she would have told you how she felt. But she avoided the question
Author SSMF Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 For me it seems weird, avoiding the question and just responding every 10 hours. If she found someone else good for her, but abrupt responses and being cold when we never did that before I went No Contact. I'm going to leave it alone if she reaches out she reaches out, I was polite and genuine.
Stay Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 For me it seems weird, avoiding the question and just responding every 10 hours. If she found someone else good for her, but abrupt responses and being cold when we never did that before I went No Contact. I'm going to leave it alone if she reaches out she reaches out, I was polite and genuine. Just don't even talk to her anymore because it's bothering you much more than it should that you have to come here to talk about it. Move on and be better, go out and have some fun.
Assasda Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 YOU are still NEEDY - Call a spade a spade. Leave her alone and see other women 1
Author SSMF Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 I am needy, I need a good kick in the ass. Funny thing is before her being in a relationship was the last thing I wanted. They always get you when your at the peak of your game. Women can just sense the neediness
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