Zahara Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I do have him blocked and deleted... but I can still see everything. It's really hard to get over someone you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with and it ended so suddenly and harshly. It really kills me and I want him to miss me, or something, but he doesn't.. and it sucks Then deactivate your account or delete it.
forgetmenot75 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 The reason you're sick on your stomach is because you still stalk his twitter
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Here you go: How to block twitter. 3 methods. Windows 8, Windows 7 i have a mac :/
iDrumKing Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Just don't do it. I went through the whole begging and crying portion of the break up. It was pressing the restart button every single time I did. Would I like to call her up and tell her that I would do anything in the world to make it work? YEAH. Would I get hit in the face with rejection, end up crying, and start from square 1 again? ABSOLUTELY. Keeping myself from contacting her has been one of the HARDEST things in my life. I grew up pretty spoiled and always wanted things my way. After being in college for a few years, I had to break that mold. This I know will make me a stronger person and it can make you one too if you start NC.
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Then deactivate your account or delete it. not really an option. id rather just block his twitter from my web browser.
forgetmenot75 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 i have a mac :/ Look the decision is inside you. If you want to be ok then stop stalking him.
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Just don't do it. I went through the whole begging and crying portion of the break up. It was pressing the restart button every single time I did. Would I like to call her up and tell her that I would do anything in the world to make it work? YEAH. Would I get hit in the face with rejection, end up crying, and start from square 1 again? ABSOLUTELY. Keeping myself from contacting her has been one of the HARDEST things in my life. I grew up pretty spoiled and always wanted things my way. After being in college for a few years, I had to break that mold. This I know will make me a stronger person and it can make you one too if you start NC. Yes, I feel like you and I both have a very similar situation. I know some day I'll stop caring all together... the anxiety attacks I've been having lately just get the best of me
pickflicker Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 i have a mac :/ Then Google Mac instructions. 1
iDrumKing Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Yes, I feel like you and I both have a very similar situation. I know some day I'll stop caring all together... the anxiety attacks I've been having lately just get the best of me Hey I got your back. I had SEVERAL panic attacks after my BU. I had to go to the doctor and was prescribed medication to keep me calm. I couldn't do my school work or be at work because I physically couldn't. I've only been in 2 real relationships (including my BU 1.5 months ago) My first break up was hard. I was the one doing the breaking up, but it was during a fight, so by no means was I ready to really BU. I instantly became the dumpee when I begged for forgiveness. She never did. It took me a while to get over it. It hurt a lot, not as much as my previous relationship because we were closer and dated for two years. But nonetheless, I got over it. Now looking back, I'm glad I did step away. I have no more feelings for her. I will get to that point again. It took time.
pickflicker Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 How To Block Websites on Your Mac Using Terminal | The Macintosh Weblog http://www.howtogeek.com/forum/topic/tutorialhow-to-block-websites-on-mac-browsers
realfriends Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 For macs, go to Go => Go To Folder => /etc => hosts => bring it to your desktop => type in 127.0.0.1 website name => but it back into your folder and it should ask for you password
Author kgreatie Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 (edited) I'm laying here in bed, crying and 3 seconds away from picking up the phone and texting my ex that I still love him and miss him. I want him back so badly. The doom and gloom mindset is back. I think about all the good memories and I don't know if time could ever fix how I feel. I'm so sick of feeling miserable and empty. No matter how hard I try, moving on seems impossible. I think about him all the time. No matter how much time I spend at the gym, with friends, meditating, doing positive thinking... nothing helps. I feel so empty all the time. How could I ever find someone else who made me as happy as he did? I feel so devastated that he seems like he could leave me and everything we had behind without even looking back. He gave up on me and I've never felt so useless and worthless and sad in my life. My best wasn't good enough for him and I don't know if I'll ever be good enough for anyone Edited March 19, 2014 by kgreatie
gotsohosed Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Boy do I know what you mean. I have not told my wife that I am going for a divorce yet, infidelity for over a year with several men. She has been out of town and when I woke up in bed this morning I had those exact feeling. My skin was crawling. I know we are not the first people to go through this but how do they do it. The hour by hour and day to day. I never know what to do with myself. I am paralyzed. I am in a Starbucks late at night right now and 2 people are laughing their heads off. I am jealous. It has been a long time since I laughed. So, you are not alone. I have not even started the process yet and I fear when I do it will get even worse and I will cave and want to undo it. But how can anyone live with an untrusting partner who travels a lot. That does not sound very good either.
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 The trick is to stop those thoughts before they snowball. 'Snowballing' is a thing and you can search it here. I believe TaraMaiden has posted about it several times. It's all about re-directing those thoughts as soon as they surface. I literally shout 'STOP' in my head and that seems to work
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 He gave up on me and I've never felt so useless and worthless and sad in my life. My best wasn't good enough for him and I don't know if I'll ever be good enough for anyone Just realize this is your shattered self-esteem and self-worth speaking. They will heal and you will feel better... You ARE good enough and you deserve to find someone who recognizes and appreciates that. Screw him. His loss!!! 1
iDrumKing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 How could I ever find someone else who made me as happy as he did? You sure about that? I mean held walked out on you. What kind of love is that? kgreatie, if you go back on some of the posts I've made, I was in THE EXACT same position as you. Looking at the phone? I've been there and sometimes I still do that. Yesterday actually. But once you rationally think about it, you can stop yourself. Predicting the future is impossible, but you have to assume that he will hate you for contacting him. There is no point. Please just keep posting her and DO NOT CONTACT HIM.
Author kgreatie Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Just realize this is your shattered self-esteem and self-worth speaking. They will heal and you will feel better... You ARE good enough and you deserve to find someone who recognizes and appreciates that. Screw him. His loss!!! Thanks I hope he realizes someday no one could ever love him as much as I did and he lost someone significant. Maybe he hasn't realized it yet but I hope he does soon, and when he does maybe I'll finally be happy without him
iDrumKing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Maybe he hasn't realized it yet but I hope he does soon, and when he does maybe I'll finally be happy without him Don't wish that. Because as long as you "want" for him to feel a certain way such as regret, you won't be able to progress. You gotta just forgive him, forget him, and move on from him.
Strength in Healing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Sad to see people beat themselves up. I felt the same though, and still do in ways. You are worth more than you would ever believe at this point. I know your first thought is "he (or they) don't even know me"... well, here's the facts -- the fact you care so much, so deeply, means you have a good heart and a good mind. For that ALONE you are a catch -- everything else is a bonus. The guy who ditched you clearly didn't know what he was missing, and it's obviously not your loss to lose someone who is so selfish and blind. You have been granted a blessing, not cursed.. 4
Author kgreatie Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 You sure about that? I mean held walked out on you. What kind of love is that? kgreatie, if you go back on some of the posts I've made, I was in THE EXACT same position as you. Looking at the phone? I've been there and sometimes I still do that. Yesterday actually. But once you rationally think about it, you can stop yourself. Predicting the future is impossible, but you have to assume that he will hate you for contacting him. There is no point. Please just keep posting her and DO NOT CONTACT HIM. Prior to when he suddenly dumped me, he always made me happy... I never saw it coming. I've read a few of your posts and we do have a similar situation, and I like knowing someone knows how I feel. It's just so hard to let go
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Thanks I hope he realizes someday no one could ever love him as much as I did and he lost someone significant. Maybe he hasn't realized it yet but I hope he does soon, and when he does maybe I'll finally be happy without him I think all dumpees, myself included, have this 'fanatsy'. Truth is, it's probably never going to happen. Dumpers are very good at rationalizing, justifying their actions and villainizing the dumpee. My ex went from being unable to spend time away from me, to being unable to be around me. Like a switch. In her mind, all the things I did for her mean nothing and I'm just some a-hole on the street who she couldn't give 2 sh*ts about... Very hard to accept that
iDrumKing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Prior to when he suddenly dumped me, he always made me happy... I never saw it coming. I've read a few of your posts and we do have a similar situation, and I like knowing someone knows how I feel. It's just so hard to let go We feel the exact same way. No different indeed. My ex GF of 2 years dumped me out of the blue, no warning no nothing, cold hearted and over the phone. I was completely blindsided because the week prior we were planing trips for the summer. So did I have any hunch of a BU arising? Nope... I chased her begging and trying to rationally talk to her but she wasn't having it. Trust me I don't want to let go either. The 2 years we spent together allowed me to grow with her. Now I'm in the position to make her a memory. That's hard. But it's something you gotta do. Easier said than done. 1
Author kgreatie Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Sad to see people beat themselves up. I felt the same though, and still do in ways. You are worth more than you would ever believe at this point. I know your first thought is "he (or they) don't even know me"... well, here's the facts -- the fact you care so much, so deeply, means you have a good heart and a good mind. For that ALONE you are a catch -- everything else is a bonus. The guy who ditched you clearly didn't know what he was missing, and it's obviously not your loss to lose someone who is so selfish and blind. You have been granted a blessing, not cursed.. Thanks that makes me feel better. Can't thank you enough for this message
iDrumKing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I think all dumpees, myself included, have this 'fanatsy'. Truth is, it's probably never going to happen. Dumpers are very good at rationalizing, justifying their actions and villainizing the dumpee. Very good point. When I was a freshmen in college I had to dump my gf of 1 year. If I can recall my "dumper mindset" I was set on the decision. I was out and I stayed out. Any form of contact I received from my ex was ignored. I rationalized, justified, and convinced myself to leave.
Author kgreatie Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Very good point. When I was a freshmen in college I had to dump my gf of 1 year. If I can recall my "dumper mindset" I was set on the decision. I was out and I stayed out. Any form of contact I received from my ex was ignored. I rationalized, justified, and convinced myself to leave. I wish I could simply summarize why I feel that way, because breaking up was something neither of us wanted to do but had to be done. He told me he still loves me and always will, I guess it just comes down to the fact he couldn't handle a serious relationship. Even though a year in... you'd think the relationship was "serious"... I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else, but living without him is something that must happen now
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