kgreatie Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 (edited) Here I am, 2 weeks after being suddenly dumped by my boyfriend of almost year that I was crazy, head over heels in love with. I'm still crying every single day and I could still puke from how sad I am. We had the perfect relationship, the one everyone dreams of. We went out on dates, had fun, he bought me things, treated me like a princess, told me he loved me every day... until he said he was moving in a couple years. He didn't want to bring me and said he's not in love with me anymore and can't see us starting a life together. He never showed any signs that he felt that way. I'm completely and utterly devastated still. I thought he was my soul mate and he just dumps me and will never talk to me again. He said he loves me but hes not IN love with me. I asked him if he cheated and he said no, and I believe him because he had always been honest. I miss him so much. I'm so hurt that he could just throw all the memories away. Why me? I'm so sick of crying every single day. While I don't even know if he even misses me. When we returned our stuff we both cried alot. How could he suddenly not be in love with me anymore? He used to tell me all the time how in love with me he was. He doesn't know why he's not in love either. I don't know. But he said we're not getting back together and it completely ripped my heart out. I feel so worthless and awful and depressed. I needed him and he left me. 60% of the time I feel okay and know I'll move on eventually... but times like right now I feel like I'm drowning. Please help Edited March 6, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
LostConfused123 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I'm so sorry for your pain. I know at times it's overwhelming and seems like a miracle that the pain doesn't literally kill you. Keep coming here and posting. Many people have and are currently experiencing the same heartbreak. Are you going NC? Just wondering. Anyway, we are all here for you. Whoever you are and wherever you are, I'm sending you big hugs!!! you're not alone. Not even close.
OzHeartache Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 yeah worst feeling in the world but your not alone, we are all here because we are either going through it or been through it ...... hang in there and go hardcore No Contact (NC)........... its the only way but you will be ok, will make you tougher
LostConfused123 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Also wanted to say, the beginning of a break up is usually the most painful. The first 3 weeks (for me anyway) were pure HELL!!! I really thought I would either die or go crazy from the pain. Either way I didn't think I would come out of this and still be "okay" but I am. I mean I still have my days of sadness, sometimes even agony but they are MUCH fewer and farther between.
Author kgreatie Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 Are you going NC? Just wondering. Yes.. we are not my choice but he refuses to talk to me. Thank you for the support. It's really hard and I miss him so much. It makes me physically sick how sad I am about losing him and how much I miss everything we did 1
DrSanDiego Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I'm about a month post break up from what I thought was the love of my life. It isn't easy getting over the one you love but it does happen. What I did to keep my mind sane was to work out at the gym harder than I ever have in my life. It helped me sleep at night and not obsess over a failed relationship if I was totally physically tired. It worked for me. It also worked in shaping my body into something I've never seen or had before which in turn has brought on new attention from the opposite sex. I can't say I'm complaining. Be good to yourself. Get physically active even if you don't want to do it. In time Mr Wonderful, Mr Right will find you. The pain you feel now will make you stronger down the road. When the right guy finds you your life will change and all of this will be a distant memory. Hang in there, I PROMISE it will get better 2
LauBee20 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Here I am, 2 weeks after being suddenly dumped by my boyfriend of almost year that I was crazy, head over heels in love with. I'm still crying every single day and I could still puke from how sad I am. We had the perfect relationship, the one everyone dreams of. We went out on dates, had fun, he bought me things, treated me like a princess, told me he loved me every day... until he said he was moving in a couple years. He didn't want to bring me and said he's not in love with me anymore and can't see us starting a life together. He never showed any signs that he felt that way. I'm completely and utterly devastated still. I thought he was my soul mate and he just dumps me and will never talk to me again. He said he loves me but hes not IN love with me. I asked him if he cheated and he said no, and I believe him because he had always been honest. I miss him so much. I'm so hurt that he could just throw all the memories away. Why me? I'm so sick of crying every single day. While I don't even know if he even misses me. When we returned our stuff we both cried alot. How could he suddenly not be in love with me anymore? He used to tell me all the time how in love with me he was. He doesn't know why he's not in love either. I don't know. But he said we're not getting back together and it completely ripped my heart out. I feel so worthless and awful and depressed. I needed him and he left me. 60% of the time I feel okay and know I'll move on eventually... but times like right now I feel like I'm drowning. Please help If I could, I would hug you, and tell you I am going through almost the same thing. I have been crying everyday over him. We lived together and he moved out last Saturday. He came home from work after we had some issues over the weekend prior and said he was leaving. He got a haul already and it was done, no persuading him. And he did just that. I cried and cried and I'm still crying. I haven;t done NC yet, but I am determined to start tomorrow. Mornings are the worst for me though and I usually leave a tearful message between the hours of 6-7am, when I get up for work. Hang in there. I'm trying to as well. I'm here for you, we can lean on each other. 1
Sandy99 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I think the hardest ones to get over are the relationships that seemed perfect, everything was going right and then it just ends without much of an explanation. The easier ones to get over are the ones you can immediately find faults with. Try to focus on the good times from the relationship, as if this was a gift to you, but that something even better is waiting for you. That's really all you can do at this point. You're not going to feel good for a while and just accept that, but eventually you'll probably get some answers and closure, and you'll feel better. Good luck.
LostConfused123 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Yes.. we are not my choice but he refuses to talk to me. Thank you for the support. It's really hard and I miss him so much. It makes me physically sick how sad I am about losing him and how much I miss everything we did Have you.blocked him? Facebook and all that? I only ask because it's one of the hardest but also the.most healing steps. Don't check his social media!!! ignorance is bliss. TRUST ME!!! keep posting and reading here. it's what saved (and still saves) me. We're here for you! ((HUGS!!)) 2
Author kgreatie Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 I think the hardest ones to get over are the relationships that seemed perfect, everything was going right and then it just ends without much of an explanation. The easier ones to get over are the ones you can immediately find faults with. Try to focus on the good times from the relationship, as if this was a gift to you, but that something even better is waiting for you. That's really all you can do at this point. You're not going to feel good for a while and just accept that, but eventually you'll probably get some answers and closure, and you'll feel better. Good luck. Thank you. It's been a few days after I posted this and I've been okay most of the time, but again.. I think about everything and can't help but to think I really lost my soul mate. I'm scared I won't make a connection like I did with him. If I could find something "better" that'd be a miracle, because I truly thought I had a perfect relationship. I'm still at a loss with my feelings
Author kgreatie Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 I think my biggest problem is always looking at his twitter and reddit... I can't help myself. Ugh
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 That sucks so much. My gf did the same exact thing to me. Never let me know that there was anything wrong till she suddenly dumped me. It's a horrible feeling. You have my sympathies. What you have to do is pretend that he is dead. Don't look at anything of his at all. Remove him from Facebook, twitter, everything. 1
Author kgreatie Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 That sucks so much. My gf did the same exact thing to me. Never let me know that there was anything wrong till she suddenly dumped me. It's a horrible feeling. You have my sympathies. What you have to do is pretend that he is dead. Don't look at anything of his at all. Remove him from Facebook, twitter, everything. It almost feels like he's dead, I had no idea he could be capable of being so heartless and could just leave me and almost not care. It hurts and I remember everything.
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 It almost feels like he's dead, I had no idea he could be capable of being so heartless and could just leave me and almost not care. It hurts and I remember everything. Unfortunately some people are just cowards. There is nothing you can do about them. All you can do now is focus on healing. The first step is to prevent yourself from seeing anything about them.
Author kgreatie Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Yes... another post. Kinda different this time. I've been feeling okay after this BU most of the time, occupying myself and being with friends all the time, and getting a new pet soon. 2 1/2 weeks later and I'm still in pain. But, there's still a problem. Will I ever be good enough? My best wasn't good enough for the guy that I was in love with...Will I ever make a connection like that again? Can I find something better? I don't know. I have anxiety attacks all the time. He appears in my dreams and I wake up sweating and in agony. I feel like he's already forgotten about me and just... doesn't care. It makes me sick to my stomach to even think of him with someone else. I'm scared I won't be able to meet someone like him again, for I thought he was my soul mate. I'm a huge believer in fate and soul mates... and I'm scared I lost mine. I feel like my luck has run out and I'm on my last rope sometimes. I just need some encouragement to keep me going
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 It's been almost 3 weeks since my awful break up and I can't stop looking at his twitter. I now am almost positive he was talking to someone else and it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. The thought of him with someone else rips me apart inside. I want to text him and tell him that I know.... but I know I shouldn't. I feel like crying and screaming and having a breakdown right now. How can he move on and I can't? Will I ever get over this? Im shaking and so sick to my stomach.
pickflicker Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It's been almost 3 weeks since my awful break up and I can't stop looking at his twitter. I now am almost positive he was talking to someone else and it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. The thought of him with someone else rips me apart inside. I want to text him and tell him that I know.... but I know I shouldn't. I feel like crying and screaming and having a breakdown right now. How can he move on and I can't? Will I ever get over this? Im shaking and so sick to my stomach. Stop looking at his Twitter, for starters. You're not in NC if you're looking at his Twitter.
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Stop looking at his Twitter, for starters. You're not in NC if you're looking at his Twitter. I don't know how to stop. It's almost like an impulse, and I know it only hurts me. I feel like I'm self destructing
pickflicker Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I don't know how to stop. It's almost like an impulse, and I know it only hurts me. I feel like I'm self destructing That's the only answer there is. You have to stop looking at his Twitter. You can't begin to heal unless you remove all triggers. 1
realfriends Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It's been almost 3 weeks since my awful break up and I can't stop looking at his twitter. I now am almost positive he was talking to someone else and it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. The thought of him with someone else rips me apart inside. I want to text him and tell him that I know.... but I know I shouldn't. I feel like crying and screaming and having a breakdown right now. How can he move on and I can't? Will I ever get over this? Im shaking and so sick to my stomach. You are not in NC and thats your problem. NC means no social media as well. I know its easier said than done, but you MUST delete and block twitter and all other forms of social media where you can keep updates on him. Im telling you, once I stuck to blocking twitter, instagram, and all of her friends on Facebook, things got a lot easier. Things however will not get easier if you don't go into full contact ( I practically stalked my ex the first month on social media and it made me sick to my stomach). Trust me, its not worth it.
Zahara Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I don't know how to stop. It's almost like an impulse, and I know it only hurts me. I feel like I'm self destructing Stop acting on impulse. When you feel it, take a step back, spend a few minutes rationally talking yourself out of it and through it. There is no need to act on it because there is nothing on Twitter, FB, Instagram, etc. that's going to change the situation you're in...so what's the point in checking? It's not going to make it better but only worse. So what's the return? You could see nothing or you could see him with his new girlfriend and nothing changes the fact that you're where you are. There is no I don't know how to stop. Delete him, block him.
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Stop acting on impulse. When you feel it, take a step back, spend a few minutes rationally talking yourself out of it and through it. There is no need to act on it because there is nothing on Twitter, FB, Instagram, etc. that's going to change the situation you're in...so what's the point in checking? It's not going to make it better but only worse. So what's the return? You could see nothing or you could see him with his new girlfriend and nothing changes the fact that you're where you are. There is no I don't know how to stop. Delete him, block him. I do have him blocked and deleted... but I can still see everything. It's really hard to get over someone you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with and it ended so suddenly and harshly. It really kills me and I want him to miss me, or something, but he doesn't.. and it sucks
realfriends Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I do have him blocked and deleted... but I can still see everything. It's really hard to get over someone you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with and it ended so suddenly and harshly. It really kills me and I want him to miss me, or something, but he doesn't.. and it sucks Well than you need to block twitter as a whole. No need to make excuses if you want to heal. And we all understand the pain you are going through. We have all gone through it at some time and thats why we are here.
Author kgreatie Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Well than you need to block twitter as a whole. No need to make excuses if you want to heal. And we all understand the pain you are going through. We have all gone through it at some time and thats why we are here. is there a way to block a specific page, like his twitter? I have no idea how to block websites or anything haha. I've been doing okay with this breakup until yesterday, where I had a huge breakdown. I've been dealing with really, really bad anxiety attacks almost constantly for the past 2 days and it seems like I'm back tracking on all the progress I've made
pickflicker Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Here you go: How to block twitter. 3 methods. Windows 8, Windows 7
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