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pickflicker Established Member

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How can sex get better with age?

 

I hope I don't destroy the rules of this forum and I don't get banned because I really love hanging out here when I feel down but...

 

Seriously? Sex get better by age? How about erectyle disfunction? How about less sensitive penis? How about stamina? How about getting tired quickly?

 

Look, if you're healthy, sex will get better with age and experience. Erectile dysfunction at 80 - yeah, sure. Erectile dysfunction in your 40s? Only if there's something wrong with your health.

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No, just as with your penis, it will be without feeling at all. That is why people at that age are more laid-back.

 

35 here.

 

So, the more people age, the more they enjoy sex, but your penis feels less as you said.

 

From that, what I see is, sex only get more enjoyable for women, not men.

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So, the more people age, the more they enjoy sex, but your penis feels less as you said.

 

From that, what I see is, sex only get more enjoyable for women, not men.

 

NO! He's being facetious.

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How can sex get better with age?

 

I hope I don't destroy the rules of this forum and I don't get banned because I really love hanging out here when I feel down but...

 

Seriously? Sex get better by age? How about erectyle disfunction? How about less sensitive penis? How about stamina? How about getting tired quickly?

 

How about you haven't a clue what you're talking about and should just stop now. Really? You've got so much to learn.

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NO! He's being facetious.

 

english is not my mother tongue. Thanks for the heads up.

 

The more we talk about these sex topic the more jealous I feel towards my ex. One day she will be 30 and has a bf and she will try new things with him and satisfy him in every way he could possibly imagine.

 

Ah brain. WTF !

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I think the OP is suffering.

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Or getting off. (On experience)

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pickflicker Established Member

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english is not my mother tongue. Thanks for the heads up.

 

The more we talk about these sex topic the more jealous I feel towards my ex. One day she will be 30 and has a bf and she will try new things with him and satisfy him in every way he could possibly imagine.

 

Ah brain. WTF !

 

You're 24, trust me, despite what detractors say, things get better after 30. You stop caring what f*ckwits think, and the person you want to be is drawn in much sharper focus.

 

Just relax. There will be other girls.

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I think the OP is suffering.

 

If I become indifference of the idea of she will be having sex with other dude, I will be free. I am suffering.

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You're 24, trust me, despite what detractors say, things get better after 30. You stop caring what f*ckwits think, and the person you want to be is drawn in much sharper focus.

 

Just relax. There will be other girls.

 

Right now I really don't care if there are other girls. I am meeting new one tomorrow but as I said, the idea of ex will have sex with someone else and enjoy it so much is freaking me out.

 

Damn, okay. I think I should just do my best to go cold turkey on her.

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Yes you are and you will. Stop tormenting yourself friend. Early days.

 

 

If I become indifference of the idea of she will be having sex with other dude, I will be free. I am suffering.
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Yes you are and you will. Stop tormenting yourself friend. Early days.

 

I think I am masochist.

 

Why?

 

Somehow I keep tormenting myself and I kind of enjoy this pain. Maybe I don't enjoy it but it gives extra push into my life and make me a better person.

 

I meet an awesome girl, we click great, have awesome time, start being couple and then bom! I treat her bad while thinking like "I don't deserve her, she will leave me". That is why I lost my ex. I was treating her bad by being jealous and saying bad things like she will cheat on me etc. Then she left me.

 

I just feel like I deserve no happiness or good thing. I am working for an american automotive company, as an engineer, I feel like I doN't deserve this job. But I actually did because I studied hard at college and passes 5 interviews to get this job.

 

I always have pain in my life, and tormenting myself and I am never happy.

 

Okay, if I sum it up. It is basically like this..

 

If I really want something. I get it. But when I get it, I get bored at it very quickly and want something other or better. Like my ex, she contacted me after months, we hooked up and I felt like winner and didn't want her. But then she didn't want me, and she is a challenge for me again. Attracted to her!

 

I am working at an awesome company. Now I am looking for a better one.

 

Never happy with what I have. Always want something different and better. Also it doesn't even have to be better. It should be different. That is enough for me.

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Not everyone is out to get you. You are trying maybe to hard? Just let things happen? If you constantly think your GF will cheat in you, how can you relax? Trust her. You really have no option but to trust the one you are with and you should. You can be whatever you want friend. If you got the `great` job it is because you were best for it!

 

 

I think I am masochist.

 

Why?

 

Somehow I keep tormenting myself and I kind of enjoy this pain. Maybe I don't enjoy it but it gives extra push into my life and make me a better person.

 

I meet an awesome girl, we click great, have awesome time, start being couple and then bom! I treat her bad while thinking like "I don't deserve her, she will leave me". That is why I lost my ex. I was treating her bad by being jealous and saying bad things like she will cheat on me etc. Then she left me.

 

I just feel like I deserve no happiness or good thing. I am working for an american automotive company, as an engineer, I feel like I doN't deserve this job. But I actually did because I studied hard at college and passes 5 interviews to get this job.

 

I always have pain in my life, and tormenting myself and I am never happy.

 

Okay, if I sum it up. It is basically like this..

 

If I really want something. I get it. But when I get it, I get bored at it very quickly and want something other or better. Like my ex, she contacted me after months, we hooked up and I felt like winner and didn't want her. But then she didn't want me, and she is a challenge for me again. Attracted to her!

 

I am working at an awesome company. Now I am looking for a better one.

 

Never happy with what I have. Always want something different and better. Also it doesn't even have to be better. It should be different. That is enough for me.

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I think I am masochist.

 

Why?

 

Somehow I keep tormenting myself and I kind of enjoy this pain. Maybe I don't enjoy it but it gives extra push into my life and make me a better person.

 

I meet an awesome girl, we click great, have awesome time, start being couple and then bom! I treat her bad while thinking like "I don't deserve her, she will leave me". That is why I lost my ex. I was treating her bad by being jealous and saying bad things like she will cheat on me etc. Then she left me.

 

I just feel like I deserve no happiness or good thing. I am working for an american automotive company, as an engineer, I feel like I doN't deserve this job. But I actually did because I studied hard at college and passes 5 interviews to get this job.

 

I always have pain in my life, and tormenting myself and I am never happy.

 

Okay, if I sum it up. It is basically like this..

 

If I really want something. I get it. But when I get it, I get bored at it very quickly and want something other or better. Like my ex, she contacted me after months, we hooked up and I felt like winner and didn't want her. But then she didn't want me, and she is a challenge for me again. Attracted to her!

 

I am working at an awesome company. Now I am looking for a better one.

 

Never happy with what I have. Always want something different and better. Also it doesn't even have to be better. It should be different. That is enough for me.

 

This is all about your ego and not about the girl. You said it yourself. You need to stop your destructive thought patterns because you are your own worse enemy.

 

You need to question why you do this to yourself. It's only you alone who is making yourself unhappy. You do have the choice to make yourself happier.

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pickflicker Established Member

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Not everyone is out to get you. You are trying maybe to hard? Just let things happen? If you constantly think your GF will cheat in you, how can you relax? Trust her. You really have no option but to trust the one you are with and you should. You can be whatever you want friend. If you got the `great` job it is because you were best for it!

 

Jealousy will bend you into an emotional pretzel, you're right. Relationships are built on the faith that the other person respects us as much as we respect them. If they don't, and they break our trust, fine, one deals with it. But you can't prepare for it - you just have to love fearlessly. Or be single!

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Fearlessly will see you through OP.

 

 

Jealousy will bend you into an emotional pretzel, you're right. Relationships are built on the faith that the other person respects us as much as we respect them. If they don't, and they break our trust, fine, one deals with it. But you can't prepare for it - you just have to love fearlessly. Or be single!
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We are not stealing this thread, just waiting for you to come back OP.

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We are not stealing this thread, just waiting for you to come back OP.

 

I dont want to share here but my mind is working so evil right now about my ex that if you would know, you would tell me to see shrink asap.

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How can sex get better with age?

 

I hope I don't destroy the rules of this forum and I don't get banned because I really love hanging out here when I feel down but...

 

Seriously? Sex get better by age? How about erectyle disfunction? How about less sensitive penis? How about stamina? How about getting tired quickly?

 

Dude, you watch too much Discovery Channel or something. I mean, I don't know where you are getting these ideas, but they are so off-base it's comical. Hell, it's easier to pick up girls in their 20s when you are 30-something than it is when you are 20-something.

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Dude, you watch too much Discovery Channel or something. I mean, I don't know where you are getting these ideas, but they are so off-base it's comical. Hell, it's easier to pick up girls in their 20s when you are 30-something than it is when you are 20-something.

 

How is that even possible if you are not rich or extremely.social?

 

Forgive my ignorance. Just learning these things make me happy and energetic.

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Dude, you watch too much Discovery Channel or something. I mean, I don't know where you are getting these ideas, but they are so off-base it's comical. Hell, it's easier to pick up girls in their 20s when you are 30-something than it is when you are 20-something.

 

Yep. I signed up for a dating site after I was dumped, and to my surprise, many young women look for older men than me (I'm 27). I would say, generally speaking, that a 20 year old women is looking for men between 25 and 35. And no, these are not gold diggers.

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See a shrink.

 

I dont want to share here but my mind is working so evil right now about my ex that if you would know, you would tell me to see shrink asap.
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How is that even possible if you are not rich or extremely.social?

 

Forgive my ignorance. Just learning these things make me happy and energetic.

 

Because the maturity level of many 20-something men, is a turnoff for 20-something women. I prefer same age or older. I hated dating in my 20s, the men were idiots. In my 30s, it is much better! More mature men, considerate, kind, sexy, stimulating...etc

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How is that even possible if you are not rich or extremely.social?

 

Forgive my ignorance. Just learning these things make me happy and energetic.

 

Here are some reasons

 

1) 30-somethings are more mature and more comfortable in their own skin, therefore make a better first impression. Women like men that are more mature, that are willing to lead them, that are comfortable with who they are.

2) 30-somethings have typically experienced more in life and have more money, so they give more security than younger guys. Women like security.

3) 30-somethings usually are in relatively good shape when in comparison to their 20-something counterparts, if not better in some cases because they have to work for it more.

4) Men tend to age better than women (no offense to the women on here), therefore a lot of them keep their youthful looks longer. Hell, i'm in my mid-30s and I still get carded occasionally when I buy alcohol and most people think i'm in my mid-to-late 20s. And I'm not even in that great of shape (though I've lost 10 pounds in the past six weeks or so, so I'm getting there).

 

I'm sure people can add more to this list. And that's not to say that you can't have fun or attract women in your 20s, but being in your 30s and single ain't bad. Hell, I went on one of my best hot streaks as a single guy right after my 30th birthday with a women of a variety of ages (19 :p to upper 30s). Heck, I had a 17-year-old (maybe 18, I don't know) come up to me at the gym a few weeks back wanting my number and flirting heavily with me. I had to say "No, I'm old enough to be your father" but yeah, it was an ego boost.

 

So get this stupid crap out of your head; not only is it off-base, but it can come off as insulting.

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Here are some reasons

 

1) 30-somethings are more mature and more comfortable in their own skin, therefore make a better first impression. Women like men that are more mature, that are willing to lead them, that are comfortable with who they are.

2) 30-somethings have typically experienced more in life and have more money, so they give more security than younger guys. Women like security.

3) 30-somethings usually are in relatively good shape when in comparison to their 20-something counterparts, if not better in some cases because they have to work for it more.

4) Men tend to age better than women (no offense to the women on here), therefore a lot of them keep their youthful looks longer. Hell, i'm in my mid-30s and I still get carded occasionally when I buy alcohol and most people think i'm in my mid-to-late 20s. And I'm not even in that great of shape (though I've lost 10 pounds in the past six weeks or so, so I'm getting there).

 

I'm sure people can add more to this list. And that's not to say that you can't have fun or attract women in your 20s, but being in your 30s and single ain't bad. Hell, I went on one of my best hot streaks as a single guy right after my 30th birthday with a women of a variety of ages (19 :p to upper 30s). Heck, I had a 17-year-old (maybe 18, I don't know) come up to me at the gym a few weeks back wanting my number and flirting heavily with me. I had to say "No, I'm old enough to be your father" but yeah, it was an ego boost.

 

So get this stupid crap out of your head; not only is it off-base, but it can come off as insulting.

 

That was awesome.

 

I am sure my 20 year old ex.will date 25-30 year old guy.now. And know what? I will use this pain as a motivational fuel for my 30s. Thank you.

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