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If you are a dumpee, don't give second chance to your ex. here is what i am learning.

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It has been 10 months she broke up with me. Told me to get out of her life. Kept my promise and moved on. She contacted 2.5 months later as a friend, then i was the one telling not to contact me again. She said okay, she will move on, etc. And 3 months later she contacted again. We met, hooked up. I offered her a relationship, she rejected.

 

I felt so bad again, still feeling.

 

Right now i am in my class, listening teacher, but all i am thinking is my ex having so much fun without me.

 

I saw a pic of her this morning. I saw that she went clubbing with her girls. She seem so much happy. That devastated me.

 

I have a date with a lovely girl this tuesday but my ex pisses me off and i am so jealous of her.

 

My mood is horrible right now and i have lessons 8 more hours. Damn.

 

I am 24 she is 20. She will be amazing when she is 23-24 and i will be an old fart 27-28. Feels bad. I feel like my clubbing times are gone etc. She is young i am old. I bet tons of guys hit on her last night. Even maybe she gave her number to a guy because she seemed online at 6.16 am.

 

Damn!!! Feeling horrible.

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It has been 10 months she broke up with me. Told me to get out of her life. Kept my promise and moved on. She contacted 2.5 months later as a friend, then i was the one telling not to contact me again. She said okay, she will move on, etc. And 3 months later she contacted again. We met, hooked up. I offered her a relationship, she rejected.

 

I felt so bad again, still feeling.

 

Right now i am in my class, listening teacher, but all i am thinking is my ex having so much fun without me.

 

I saw a pic of her this morning. I saw that she went clubbing with her girls. She seem so much happy. That devastated me.

 

I have a date with a lovely girl this tuesday but my ex pisses me off and i am so jealous of her.

 

My mood is horrible right now and i have lessons 8 more hours. Damn.

 

I am 24 she is 20. She will be amazing when she is 23-24 and i will be an old fart 27-28. Feels bad. I feel like my clubbing times are gone etc. She is young i am old. I bet tons of guys hit on her last night. Even maybe she gave her number to a guy because she seemed online at 6.16 am.

 

Damn!!! Feeling horrible.

 

Unfriend and BLOCK this woman immediately. Not only does it help you from seeing constant reminders of how she's moved on, it also prevents her from contacting you that way. Perhaps this won't stop you from missing her, but it'll damn sure stop this needless interation betweem you two which makes things worse.

 

Nevertheless, always remember, what people post on Facebook (or other social networks) does not necessarily reflect their actual current state of emotional affairs. I've posted pics on FB of me partying it up in Vegas, or smiling on a yacht in Lake Havasu, while simultaneously going though the worst depression of my life. No one looking at the photos of that chipper, bikini clad girl would know the truth. It doesn't change the fact that I wasn't happy.

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Your life is just beginning!!!! 28 is faaaaar from over the hill.

 

 

Just remember that you change as you get older. What was important now will not be a priority to you later. I use to live in nightclubs when I was younger. They bore me to tears now. I wouldn't step foot in one.

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Unfriend and BLOCK this woman immediately. Not only does it help you from seeing constant reminders of how she's moved on, it also prevents her from contacting you that way. Perhaps this won't stop you from missing her, but it'll damn sure stop this needless interation betweem you two which makes things worse.

 

Nevertheless, always remember, what people post on Facebook (or other social networks) does not necessarily reflect their actual current state of emotional affairs. I've posted pics on FB of me partying it up in Vegas, or smiling on a yacht in Lake Havasu, while simultaneously going though the worst depression of my life. No one looking at the photos of that chipper, bikini clad girl would know the truth. It doesn't change the fact that I wasn't happy.

 

I agree on social media dilussion but even though she might be sad or happy, nothing changes that she will love some other guy soon and treat him sooo good because she has been single like 10 months. I am sure she will sleep with him 3-4 times a day everyday.

 

Damn these sick thoughts.

 

She is not my friend on facebook. She didnt even post a pic of herself happy. I saw one of her best friend's instagram then her.

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Your life is just beginning!!!! 28 is faaaaar from over the hill.

 

 

Just remember that you change as you get older. What was important now will not be a priority to you later. I use to live in nightclubs when I was younger. They bore me to tears now. I wouldn't step foot in one.

 

She is 4 years younger than me and i always think that she will have better life than me because of it. She is very selfimprovement oriented and gives value to relationships. When she meets her next guy, i am sure she will stick to him for years.

 

I am just sad and pathetic.

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Damn, this is painful.

 

She dumped my ass off 10 months ago and told me to never contact her again. That hit me in the nuts and I've suffered 2-3 months with emotions. It sucked so bad. Then started flirting, hitting gym, got some made outs, hooks up and yeah I was fine. She hit a message 2.5 months later and talked friendly, I said she shouldn't contact me. 4 months later, she hit message again which was 1.5 months ago.

 

We met. Because I was totally over her. Didn't give a damn. I was like the first time when I met her 1.5 years ago. Funny, relaxed, not a single **** was given. Then we hooked up.

 

After that I proposed her a relationship and she rejected. I guess it was because I've hooked up couple of girls in our break up and that disturbed her. Because she hasn't been with anyone. Or it was because she didn't feel a damn thing. Anyway, this thread is not about her, it is about a dumpee and how dumpee feels after second break up.

 

He feels awful guys. And I don't know but pain seem tougher right now. I am angry to myself because I let her in my life again and she dumped me twice. Low self-esteem now. I was so angry that I told her not to ever contact me again. She didn't even replied that message. She is gone from my life forever now.

 

4 weeks NC. I have a date tomorrow with a gorgoeus girl. I have no energy but I will meet. I am not expecting anything. Just to chill.

 

I wish I listened misc and didn't let her in my life. Lesson learned. Ex is ex. Don't take him/her back because same senario will repeat itself or even it won't, your relationship will be weird as ****.

 

I wonder if this jealousy towards my ex and pain will pass away. This is so disturbing. I feel like writing her so baaaad things but it will only look me pathetic and she will laugh it off.

 

I just can't focus on myself. All I think is, "did she bang a guy yet? when will she? what positions she will do it? how long? is he going to be so handsome?" etc.

 

So sick thoughts in my brain. Nonstop.

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Are we not all guilty of not wanting our ex's but at the same time not wanting anyone else to have them?

 

It's makes me feel ill if I think about my ex with someone else but I know that she will at some point, she may have already.

 

My point is I don't know and that really is the best way to play this.

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So she hooked up to know she could still have you i guess?

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Are we not all guilty of not wanting our ex's but at the same time not wanting anyone else to have them?

 

It's makes me feel ill if I think about my ex with someone else but I know that she will at some point, she may have already.

 

My point is I don't know and that really is the best way to play this.

 

Am i the only one feeling so intense and creating things in my mind about her that she will have sex.with someone? That thought gives me goosebump all over my body and make me all cold, cant move, cant think. It hurts with butterflies in stomach.

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So she hooked up to know she could still have you i guess?

 

I dont know. I was very cool actually. Havent show her.neediness or desperation at all because when i first met her after her.contact, even after having sex, i was still cool like "yea whatever". This was not an act. I was over her and i felt nothing when i was with her.

 

After she said she doesnt want relationship feelings started to come up and bothered me.

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Am i the only one feeling so intense and creating things in my mind about her that she will have sex.with someone? That thought gives me goosebump all over my body and make me all cold, cant move, cant think. It hurts with butterflies in stomach.

 

Nope, We all have these feelings, they will pass

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Nope, We all have these feelings, they will pass

Indeed. I have my first girlfriend from a decade ago on Facebook. She has a baby since a few months. If I see those pictures I am happy for her and her man, and really happy that little child is not mine :p I keep my fingers crossed for her man and child. She went mental when with me and vanished like smoke.

 

By the way, I wish I was 28.

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Old fart at 28?!?!?!

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Old fart at 28?!?!?!

 

Yea, no? Society expect you to get married and you are under that pressure, young girls find you old. That is what i imagine when i am 28.

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Yea, no? Society expect you to get married and you are under that pressure, young girls find you old. That is what i imagine when i am 28.

 

Then you are delusional. I'm 42 and still in my prime.

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Yea, no? Society expect you to get married and you are under that pressure, young girls find you old. That is what i imagine when i am 28.

 

HAHA that is so far from the truth man. If you want to marry some immature 20 year olds who have no grasp on life and end in divorce soon after, then be my guest. By your logic, we should just pack it up and retire before 40.

 

You are overthinking WAY too much right now. Dont blame you I guess, but its your own worst enemy. If you were over the relationship beforehand, and then you are upset that she said no to a new relationship AFTER the fact of sleeping together, then you are just suffering from a hurt ego. You are way more upset that she said no to you again rather than just her. It will pass, but moping around about it wont do anything. 24 is REALLY young. Christ, you've only been able to see an R-rated movie for six years lol. More relationships will happen and you will find someone who is WAY better than your ex.

 

You'll be fine. BLOCK HER FROM SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!!!!!!

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HAHA that is so far from the truth man. If you want to marry some immature 20 year olds who have no grasp on life and end in divorce soon after, then be my guest. By your logic, we should just pack it up and retire before 40.

 

You are overthinking WAY too much right now. Dont blame you I guess, but its your own worst enemy. If you were over the relationship beforehand, and then you are upset that she said no to a new relationship AFTER the fact of sleeping together, then you are just suffering from a hurt ego. You are way more upset that she said no to you again rather than just her. It will pass, but moping around about it wont do anything. 24 is REALLY young. Christ, you've only been able to see an R-rated movie for six years lol. More relationships will happen and you will find someone who is WAY better than your ex.

 

You'll be fine. BLOCK HER FROM SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!!!!!!

 

You have to be 18 to vote. You have to be 21 to drink.

 

I think there should be a law that you have to be at least 30 to get married. Enjoy your 20's. No one is really ready for a life commitment nor knows what they really want in a life partner during their 20's. IMHO.

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Yea, no? Society expect you to get married and you are under that pressure, young girls find you old. That is what i imagine when i am 28.

 

31 here, and awesome. Unmarried. Screw society - I do what I want!

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Then you are delusional. I'm 42 and still in my prime.

 

Oh, I hope I haven't offended you. I have no idea what is waiting for me in future so, that was my opinion.

 

Just curiosity. How is sex at 42? Still enjoying it and find it desirable? Or is it a dead feeling?

 

Also if you have a gf at 42 and lose her, would you still feel as bad as when you were 24?

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Oh, I hope I haven't offended you. I have no idea what is waiting for me in future so, that was my opinion.

 

Just curiosity. How is sex at 42? Still enjoying it and find it desirable? Or is it a dead feeling?

 

Also if you have a gf at 42 and lose her, would you still feel as bad as when you were 24?

 

Dude...sex gets better with age. You're making it sound like organizedchaos needs a seniors card! :laugh:

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HAHA that is so far from the truth man. If you want to marry some immature 20 year olds who have no grasp on life and end in divorce soon after, then be my guest. By your logic, we should just pack it up and retire before 40.

 

You are overthinking WAY too much right now. Dont blame you I guess, but its your own worst enemy. If you were over the relationship beforehand, and then you are upset that she said no to a new relationship AFTER the fact of sleeping together, then you are just suffering from a hurt ego. You are way more upset that she said no to you again rather than just her. It will pass, but moping around about it wont do anything. 24 is REALLY young. Christ, you've only been able to see an R-rated movie for six years lol. More relationships will happen and you will find someone who is WAY better than your ex.

 

You'll be fine. BLOCK HER FROM SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!!!!!!

 

That was freaking awesome. You jsut wrote me.

 

That is not my "love" talking. This is my ego as you said. I am just angry to myself because I gave her the joy of "dumping" me and also angry for her selfishness. That is it. And yea, I am always overthinking everything. That is like fighting an evil in my head all the time.

 

Also really, it hurts to think of her with someone. Hope this changes by time.

 

I have a date with a wonderful girl tomorrow. She is so cute, sexy, funny and energetic. Better version of my ex.

 

Why I am obsessed with society? I am really not thinking of marrying? Sex & relationships & women are at the center of my universe and I believe that they will always stay like that. So, if I get married, I'd %99 cheat on my wife. Don't want that. Single forever.

 

I am glad that here is a lot of 30s 40s males and they are perfectly still happy and in their prime. I am more positive for my future now.

 

I always compare my ex with me. And she is 4 years younger than me, so I am jealous of her youth too. It is like I will be old and she will always be young and happy and awesome.

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Dude...sex gets better with age. You're making it sound like organizedchaos needs a seniors card! :laugh:

 

How can sex get better with age?

 

I hope I don't destroy the rules of this forum and I don't get banned because I really love hanging out here when I feel down but...

 

Seriously? Sex get better by age? How about erectyle disfunction? How about less sensitive penis? How about stamina? How about getting tired quickly?

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32 here, daughter at 25. (Still got it, just)

 

Oh, I hope I haven't offended you. I have no idea what is waiting for me in future so, that was my opinion.

 

Just curiosity. How is sex at 42? Still enjoying it and find it desirable? Or is it a dead feeling?

 

Also if you have a gf at 42 and lose her, would you still feel as bad as when you were 24?

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How can sex get better with age?

 

I hope I don't destroy the rules of this forum and I don't get banned because I really love hanging out here when I feel down but...

 

Seriously? Sex get better by age? How about erectyle disfunction? How about less sensitive penis? How about stamina? How about getting tired quickly?

 

I don't know whether to take you seriously or not. Yes, sex gets better with age, like a fine wine. Sex becomes more emotionally tied to the one you're with. I could go on and on, but trust me dude, making love as you grow older is much more satisfying now then when I was in my 20s. In general, young guys are less likely to tend to their partners needs and can be selfish. Older men care more about their partner and are willing to please. Older women experiment more and are more comfortable with their bodies. Making love is in the mind.. not just physical. It comes with maturity.

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Also if you have a gf at 42 and lose her, would you still feel as bad as when you were 24?

No, just as with your penis, it will be without feeling at all. That is why people at that age are more laid-back.

 

35 here.

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