jennifermariecole Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Around this time last year, I had a relationship end with someone who was avoidant and pretty much emotionally abused me for months. We've just started to get spring sunshine here in London and whenever it's sunny I wake up with a feeling of dread in my stomach and feel really depressed. Do I have some kind of SAD? What is going on? Has anyone else experienced this?
Haydn Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Yes i have experienced this. I think when the sun shines, head for a park and have a good look around. Emotional abuse can leave us feeling pretty worthless. Enjoy the sun. Try Kyoto Gardens. Around this time last year, I had a relationship end with someone who was avoidant and pretty much emotionally abused me for months. We've just started to get spring sunshine here in London and whenever it's sunny I wake up with a feeling of dread in my stomach and feel really depressed. Do I have some kind of SAD? What is going on? Has anyone else experienced this?
Author jennifermariecole Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Thanks that really helps to know I'm not crazy! And that is really great advice. Thank you... Those of us who have been through the wars need to stick together
Zahara Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I used to feel that way because it was a reminder that I couldn't spend a beautiful day with my ex and that maybe he was spending the glorious day outside with a new person. I hated sunny, beautiful days. Not sure if it was related to SAD.
BC1980 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I feel this way at times. If reminds me of how we used to go to the botanical gardens in the spring and how much I loved to plan the types of flowers I wanted in the yard. I think a changing season also simply signifies the passing of time, which can be hard to bear. It's also hard to feel so crappy but have it beautiful outside. You feel robbed of the ability to enjoy it the way you should.
guest572 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Yes it's almost a year since I met the ex and the change in season brings back feelings stronger. Maybe its like when we associate smells and colours with certain memories etc. 1
Author jennifermariecole Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Gosh that's all very true - never realised how many reasons there could be behind it! It's definitely to do with the passing of time. I know he's out there dating again while I've been licking my wounds and trying to understand how I let myself get into this situation for what seems like a long, long time. And I think I just associate sunshine with feeling absolutely broken. Which is a shame. The first time we split it was just before Xmas and I associated everything Christmassy with crying. But managed to get over it by making new memories this Xmas that has just passed, thankfully. Hopefully I can do the same this summer...
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