Imported Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Have you already erected a shrine with all the pictures and information you have on her OP? I'm just kidding, good luck! Try to stay calm, toned down and positive when she doesn't behave the way you have imagined she would.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 This reminds me of when I first got on chat in the 90s and would get excited over conversations with smart men in the Physics room 3
Phantom888 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Best of luck bro! I'm happy for you! Keep us updated on your progress! 1
Copelandsanity Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Let us know how it goes, Big Bob (her nickname for you after the 1st date )
Author bobsmith76 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 !!!65 HOUR COUNTDOWN TO MY DATE!!! I HAVE A DATE FOR THURSDAY AT 6PM. I'M SO PSYCHED ABOUT THIS WHOLE THING!!! THIS IS MY FIRST FACE TO FACE DATE (I'VE DONE A FEW TELEPHONE DATES) IN TWO YEARS OR SO!!! I HAVE A REAL TOUGH TIME GETTING DATES BECAUSE ASPIRING PHILOSOPHER AS MY ANSWER FOR WHAT I DO IS NOT VERY ATTRACTIVE!!! I HAVE TO DEVELOP RULES FOR BEHAVIOR FOR DATING!!! MOST WOMEN SEEM TO LIKE TO TAKE IT SLOW, SO I WON'T BOTHER TRYING TO GET A KISS ON THE FIRST FEW DATES!!! 1. DON'T TALK TOO MUCH OR TRY TO WOW THEM WITH MY INTELLIGENCE 2. TRY TO CONNECT MORE ON AN EMOTIONAL LEVEL RATHER THAN AN INTELLECTUAL LEVEL. ok, I guess I can calm down with the caps 3. Cover up the fact that I have so much emotion invested in this. 4. Don't ask about dating history. 1
Author bobsmith76 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Well, sounds great!! Is she approaching expiration? That may work in your favor!!! She's 31 years old, but I have found that women who are 35 and thus are approaching expiration have sort of given up hope and are not all that desperate. We also have to be honest though that men also have an expiration, it's about 40 years old. So I'm approaching my expiration too.
MidwestUSA Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 She's 31 years old, but I have found that women who are 35 and thus are approaching expiration have sort of given up hope and are not all that desperate. We also have to be honest though that men also have an expiration, it's about 40 years old. So I'm approaching my expiration too. Well, I learned something new today! . Thanks! 1
Author bobsmith76 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 !!!48 HOURS TO MY DATE!!! someone ask where I'm taking her. I'm taking her to a coffee shop. You don't invest a lot these days in first dates because the odds of a first date resulting in marriage is just so low. 1
Raena Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Geez Bob.... now you've got me all excited for ya! Hope it goes well! Oh... and thanks for giving me something new to research. Holographic Universe... lovely!
ascendotum Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 !!!48 HOURS TO MY DATE!!! someone ask where I'm taking her. I'm taking her to a coffee shop. You don't invest a lot these days in first dates because the odds of a first date resulting in marriage is just so low. Hey look I can't knock the keep it cheap philosophy when it comes to OLD first dates, but this surprised me a little that you are getting chintzy here on this woman when you are so psyched about her. If there is one girl you can splurge a little on, then it should be this one, since holographic universe girls dont come along all that often. Don't get stuck into an interview style date and try to keep it lighthearted. If things seem to be going well, try and extend it for longer by going elsewhere. 1
pteromom Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 2. TRY TO CONNECT MORE ON AN EMOTIONAL LEVEL RATHER THAN AN INTELLECTUAL LEVEL. I agree with your rules, except for this one. The whole reason you like her is because she read a book you love, right? You already have an intellectual connection - it would be stupid not to explore that. Remember that the right woman for you will be on the same wavelength as you. You'll connect in whatever way is natural for you, and the emotion will follow when it is right. As far as wowing her with your intelligence, don't go into it with the intention of wowing her, but don't hide your intelligence or who you are either. Just make sure that you listen at least as much as you talk, and that you show interest in what she's saying. I am excited for you and hope it goes well.
pteromom Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 If things seem to be going well, try and extend it for longer by going elsewhere. Agreed! Have a plan in place for this!
waiting4u Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Careful there - online dating is a nightmare. Until you meet in person you really don't know - there's such a disconnect. That said, I think you can't ever really think to yourself that you've found the proverbial unicorn. It's setting yourself up for failure. One day at a time. Try and distract yourself so you don't think about it. That is, unless this is a troll post, which it really seems like. You really can't be that naive.
babycakees Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 !!!48 HOURS TO MY DATE!!! someone ask where I'm taking her. I'm taking her to a coffee shop. You don't invest a lot these days in first dates because the odds of a first date resulting in marriage is just so low. Let us know how it goes!!
Author bobsmith76 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 The whole reason you like her is because she read a book you love, right? You already have an intellectual connection - it would be stupid not to explore that. . I agree with you. I changed this rule before I went into the date. I decided to try to connect on an emotional as well as an intellectual level.
Author bobsmith76 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 My date didn't lead to true love. There isn't much that we have in common. She isn't an intellectual and she turned out to be Peruvian. I have nothing against foreigners but I prefer to marry an American woman. There isn't much that attracts me to her so it's better to not pretend. When I asked her if she was Spanish and she said yes I tried to hide the fact that I was let down, but I'm almost sure she sensed it. My participation in this thread is over.
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 My date didn't lead to true love. There isn't much that we have in common. She isn't an intellectual and she turned out to be Peruvian. I have nothing against foreigners but I prefer to marry an American woman. There isn't much that attracts me to her so it's better to not pretend. When I asked her if she was Spanish and she said yes I tried to hide the fact that I was let down, but I'm almost sure she sensed it. My participation in this thread is over. Bob I'm sorry that it didn't work out. Next time please don't get so excited because, as you see, it leads to huge disappointment. Never give up hope.
Assasda Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 My date didn't lead to true love. There isn't much that we have in common. She isn't an intellectual and she turned out to be Peruvian. I have nothing against foreigners but I prefer to marry an American woman. There isn't much that attracts me to her so it's better to not pretend. When I asked her if she was Spanish and she said yes I tried to hide the fact that I was let down, but I'm almost sure she sensed it. My participation in this thread is over. Awwwwwwwwww.... I thought this was the one, Sike,,, I knew it!. Better luck next time bro
napy666 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 JUst be careful and don't get your hopes up too high, don't wanna get hurt now do we?
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