ExposedBrick Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I have a third date coming. First date was at a bar on a Saturday. Second date was an art museum, to dinner, and bar on a Friday. Both dates resulted in me spending the night at her apartment, but just made out and spooned. We planned to meet on a weeknight but I'm not sure what to do. I'd like to just have her over to my place for a movie, but it seems so unoriginal. Any good ideas?
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Weeknight dates need to respect the fact that people have work or school in the morning. A movie in a theater would be OK. A movie at your house seems fine given the fact that you have spooned during sleepovers already.
Author ExposedBrick Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 I personally don't think movies are a good date because you're not engaged with each other. Sure you may have some comments here and there but the focus is on the movie and not creating/building attraction. I do like your idea of inviting her over to your place. However, I would skip the movie. How about you actually cooking her dinner? I think cooking dinner for her has many advantages which I won't go into details here. I'm sure you're smart enough to figure out why. What do you think about presenting options to her: such as going out vs. coming to my place?
TXGuy Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 What do you think about presenting options to her: such as going out vs. coming to my place? No. Don't be wishy washy by giving her options. Make a choice and own it. A good third date is to cook for her at your place. If you can't cook well, do something easy like steak or salmon with asparagus. If you can cook, then amp it up a bit. But still keep it reasonably simple, particularly on a weeknight. Make sure you have some dessert, even if it is just ice cream. Keep the portions small. Enough to satisfy hunger, but not so much that either of you would feel bloated which might interfere with the prospect of horizontal dancing. 2
Tayken Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Oh 3rd date...that is when the dirty happens. Dinner, movie and back to one person's place to close the deal Oh yeah
organizedchaos Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 What do you think about presenting options to her: such as going out vs. coming to my place? No, never. You must make the plans. Don't get so hung up on "third date means sex date". It's okay if that happens later. How about a sporting event? Got a pro team in town? Or bowling. Fun. Make it competitive. Loser cooks dinner for winner next date. Bingo, you just set up dinner at your place (you will let her win of course!)
Author ExposedBrick Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 No, never. You must make the plans. Don't get so hung up on "third date means sex date". It's okay if that happens later. How about a sporting event? Got a pro team in town? Or bowling. Fun. Make it competitive. Loser cooks dinner for winner next date. Bingo, you just set up dinner at your place (you will let her win of course!) She seems a little shy, so I thought an amateur comedy night might loosen things up, what do you all think?
babycakees Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I personally don't think movies are a good date because you're not engaged with each other. Sure you may have some comments here and there but the focus is on the movie and not creating/building attraction. I do like your idea of inviting her over to your place. However, I would skip the movie. How about you actually cooking her dinner? I think cooking dinner for her has many advantages which I won't go into details here. I'm sure you're smart enough to figure out why. I like this idea A LOT!
Art_Critic Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I think it might be time to show her some exposed brick ... kidding.. sort of.. Dinner at your place... a good third date, make sure you make something she loves
organizedchaos Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 She seems a little shy, so I thought an amateur comedy night might loosen things up, what do you all think? Sure, just don't sit anywhere near the front to avoid any interactions with the comic.
Author ExposedBrick Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Honestly, I'm a bit unsure of this women and the date will have to start later than I would like, so I'm not sure if cooking a dinner is practical on this particular weeknight. Although I think she is very physically attractive, I don't know if I want to give her the wrong impression by having sex with her.
Author ExposedBrick Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 In all honesty, you've been in bed spooning. If you want to further the relationship you have to take some initiative or you could end up being regulated to a lower position. It doesn't mean forcing her to do what she doesn't want to do. It's taking a strong lead. If you want to further the relationship you must cross this threshold. There's a limited window of time. As for dinner, you don't have to cook it. You can pick it up and have dinner at home. Success is not making excuses but finding solutions. Making the dinner seems like a good angle, should I move it to another night where I have the time?
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