Author lakerman34 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 I don't know what's worse, OP. You going out a second time with this chick after she disrespects you on your first date (or meeting or whatever) or the fact that you went out again just so you could bang her. Where is your dignity, sir? She left you to go see another guy? HOLY ****ING ****! A lot more complicated than that.
bubbaganoosh Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 What is it with people being drawn to dysfunctional men/ women like a moth to a light. Don't you know that getting involved with someone like this your shouldering her problems. You say you don't want a serious relationship with her but the way your acting says something totally different. The girl has problems and the outcome will be that she will drag you down with her so IMO move on and find a girl that doesn't carry around a box car full of baggage. You'll be doing yourself a favor. 1
snowflakes88 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 She's the very definition of an empath that can't let go. I'd say you two have that in common.
Author lakerman34 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 (edited) I got rid of her, guys. Already said that. She just sent me a text telling me that she called the other guy and ended it with him, and now she's missing class (the only one she's good in -- thank goodness) to go on a drive and blast music because she has a lot on her mind. I just responded, "I'm thinking a lot too." Fact is, she did tell me that she felt better around me, and I know they weren't just words. I know it was very genuine. BUT, bottom line, sleeping with another guy only days after me (which she says was "if anything, I'm disrespecting myself, not you. It's my body") was, I felt, VERY disrespectful to me, and I told her the fact that she has a POF account is so very deceiving because there is another guy. I don't know if I trust her that she got rid of this guy. I guess it doesn't really matter. Edited March 10, 2014 by lakerman34
ExpatInItaly Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 You'll thank yourself later that you walked away from this mess, OP. I promise you. For interest's sake, there are a couple more gaps in her story. She led you to believe this other man was extremely forceful and implied she felt she had no choice but to go over and see him. Now she's apparently ended it with him, just like that? I don't think so. She's either still seeing this man and telling you what she thinks you want to hear, or he was never as forceful as she made him out to be and was more than willing to along with his desires. I think it's probably a combination of both. Also, she says sleeping with him was disrespectful only to herself and not to you. This indicates that you two were not on the same page whatsoever, and she'd probably give herself license to do it again when she wants. Bottom line, as you know now, is that she is unstable. I don't doubt she felt better around you, but those words don't mean a lot. They don't mean she's going to help herself. They don't mean she's going to stop having sex with other men. They don't mean she won't flip-flop a million times and repeat this self-destructive push/pull. You made a very wise and healthy choice for yourself by nexting her. She isn't someone who can offer you what you're looking for.
ktya Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I picked up this girl long before online dating by cold call. Brought her to my house, casual sex (my first casual encounter), she woke up in thr morning picked cherries from my tree, washed them and fed them to me in bed. It was wonderful. I contacted her for another hookup and went to her house (parents house actually). Before we could get much going on some dudes called, she got all dressed, they picked us up and dropped me off at home. Kept her in the SUV of course. Older dudes (i was 19 she was 15 they must have been in their 30s). I was left feeling like WTF. Saw her a few weeks later, well after one of my friends told me this wild story of having a threesome with her and her friend (he didnt know about my encounter). The friend was there. She tried to kiss me and i pushed her away. Her mom still loves me. Says i somehow fixed their little tramp daughter because she really toned it down after that. Shes now been happily married for 20 years. You might have done some good
Emilia Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I got rid of her, guys. Already said that. She just sent me a text telling me that she called the other guy and ended it with him, and now she's missing class (the only one she's good in -- thank goodness) to go on a drive and blast music because she has a lot on her mind. I just responded, "I'm thinking a lot too." Fact is, she did tell me that she felt better around me, and I know they weren't just words. I know it was very genuine. BUT, bottom line, sleeping with another guy only days after me (which she says was "if anything, I'm disrespecting myself, not you. It's my body") was, I felt, VERY disrespectful to me, and I told her the fact that she has a POF account is so very deceiving because there is another guy. I don't know if I trust her that she got rid of this guy. I guess it doesn't really matter. No it doesn't matter! Stay strong OP. The other guy isn't the main issue, her underlying problems are. She is unstable, the two of you don't have a future unless you want to be in a relationship with someone needy, clingy, unpredictable, a bad partner who will make your life a misery. Do not keep responding. Walk away. 1
Author lakerman34 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 I'd say you two have that in common. Unfortunately (but, in some ways, fortunately), you're right.
Author lakerman34 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 I picked up this girl long before online dating by cold call. Brought her to my house, casual sex (my first casual encounter), she woke up in thr morning picked cherries from my tree, washed them and fed them to me in bed. It was wonderful. I contacted her for another hookup and went to her house (parents house actually). Before we could get much going on some dudes called, she got all dressed, they picked us up and dropped me off at home. Kept her in the SUV of course. Older dudes (i was 19 she was 15 they must have been in their 30s). I was left feeling like WTF. Saw her a few weeks later, well after one of my friends told me this wild story of having a threesome with her and her friend (he didnt know about my encounter). The friend was there. She tried to kiss me and i pushed her away. Her mom still loves me. Says i somehow fixed their little tramp daughter because she really toned it down after that. Shes now been happily married for 20 years. You might have done some good I think I did. If she REALLY got rid of this ******* that she was seeing (as she claimed she did) I did do some good.....but she may just replace him with some other *******. 1
TigerLilly78 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I see and thanks for clearing things up OP I respect your honesty and upfrontness with her. So you told her your not really looking for a relationship but you wanted to be exclusive bed buddies? Forgive me there for lack of a better term.. but yeah maybe cause you did tell her you weren't looking for anything serious that's why she didn't treat it as such? who knows..It sounds like you have removed her from your life all together now maybe that's the easiest way.. She dose sound like she has some issues but then again who doesn't in this day and age..Now tbh I dont see how tho if you two were not serious how it matters who the other sleeps with..maybe im just playing devils advocate there I dunno. And as ive said men do that kinda thing on a reg basis. But that said at the end of the day its up to you to decide what your comfortable with and not..To me in a way it kinda sounds like even tho you thought you were in reality you two were not on the same wave length. I will say I don't like the obsession she has with the other dirt bag tho that's def not healthey..
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