ShiningMoon Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) I met a guy last year (we're both 24) and we talked for about a month before we went on a first date. After that, he kept rescheduling our second date until I cut him off completely. He rescheduled three times and I was tired of it. Fast forward, 6 months later, he comes back with a heartfelt apology and told me he wanted a second shot. He begged for this second chance. I decided to give it another shot. We went on two amazing dates. He was all over me (literally), kissing me all the time (and a bit more than that), holding my hand, wrapping his arm around me shoulder, kissing me cheek, complimenting me and all. He wanted us to spend the night together but I declined. He said it was fine. Next thing I know, he stopped answering my texts after this second date. I wished him a Happy Birthday on Friday, he never bothered responding. I'm very upset, and hurt. I feel like a fool. I want to send him a "shame on you" email but I just don't have the strength to. I'm tired and I feel used. Will he ever regret treating me like this? I was so stupid and naïve. I wonder how he'd feel like if someone were to ever treat his sister this way. Edited March 9, 2014 by ShiningMoon
HappyLove Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Sorry you went through this. I've done the same and given someone a second chance only to learn they are the same creep. Don't feel bad it's just a lesson learned for you. This guy is a creep and just wanted to use you for sex. Be proud of yourself that you didn't fall for it. He was hard up for a date so he came crawling back. I advise you to go NC, and even if he does come crawling back again hold firm to NC and leave him where you left him! You sending him a shame on you email only empowers him and makes you feel worse especially when he'll just ignore you again. We all go through this, you learn from things like this no need to feel bad. 2
TXGuy Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 No, he won't regret it because he feels he did nothing wrong. 3
Author ShiningMoon Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 No, he won't regret it because he feels he did nothing wrong. Is it unreasonable for me to believe he was a bit of a pig then?
TXGuy Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Is it unreasonable for me to believe he was a bit of a pig then? You can believe whatever you want. It won't change a thing.
mr_dave Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Is it unreasonable for me to believe he was a bit of a pig then? Not at all, he has behaved like one! 1
Woggle Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Men and women for that matter tend to regret things when it backfires on them. Even then many play the victim role and this is both genders. 1
newmoon Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 sounds like perhaps he had a better thing going with someone else and when it ended he came back around to you. it happens. don't feel bad about yourself, but certainly don't talk with him again. it's best to just cut people like that right off.
MidwestUSA Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 He regrets that he didn't get you into bed on that second date. Don't give him the ego stroke of a shame on you email; it shows that you're still giving him time in your head. 1
Stay Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 You dodged a bullet, if you want a relationship find a better guy. If what you want is something casual and FWB then go for him because that's pretty much all this guy wants. 1
melell Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 If this was malicious then he must hold a perspective where he considers this kind of thing morally acceptable. Even in future, on meeting someone and falling madly in love, the chances of that perspective hanging around for him are pretty high. I have known people like this, and even in committed relationships things fall apart as a result of that mentality. It really isn't worth thinking about it. There are much nicer people out there.
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