stressedgirl Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 So I've been dating this guy for about 2 months. After only a couple of weeks he said he really really likes me and asked me to be his girlfriend. We get on really well, although there have been some awkward moments - I basically tried to sleep with him when drunk but he said he wanted to take things slow and really get to know each other (which I was fine with), but then it was a bit awkward to be physical with each other. Anyway, last week we spent the whole weekend together just watching movies and cuddling at his place, and I thought things were going really well. But then I met up with him last night and he said we became official bf/gf too fast (which I agreed with) and he doesn't feel the same way any more and wants to slow things down. I asked if this means we're still dating or just friends, and he said he 'still wants to get to know me'. I'm fine with it being more casual, but the problem is he once said he doesn't see any difference between the terms 'girlfriend' and 'dating' (that he considers it the same thing) - so do you think there's still a romantic element to this relationship or is this over? (he also text me today pretty early to ask what I'm up to). Really appreciate any help!
Saurren Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Respect his choice and maybe he'll come around and make it official in 2 or 3 months. I'm a guy and I wouldn't want to be official until 3 or 4 months into dating. Sex is not included in the 3 or 4 months of dating.
lolablue17 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Why dont you talk to him about it? it seems that he knows how to express himself. Dont cooperate too much with his silly 'slowing down' crap. Tell him that you like him very much and you choose him, not somebody else, and you want to be his GF, and he should stop forcing his stupid technical tempo, cut the bull****. "Do you want me? yes or no!"
Author stressedgirl Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 But do you think he's freaking out about commitment and I should give him space to figure it out? Or should I ask him to talk now?
lolablue17 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 If he's freaking out with your needs and desires, so be it. Dont minimize yourself to he's needs only.
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