Ryan R. Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 There's a trend I'm noticing with all of my friends who get girls. They tend to veer more on the "cocky" side of things. All of them I'd say are cocky but they lie on a spectrum of "yeah I know I'm the best thing since sliced bread" to irrational self-confidence. I'd be cocky too because I know that it works but I have nothing to be cocky about. I'm not good looking. I don't have a lot of money. I don't get girls. Women say they don't like cockiness but this is exactly what they fall for. I went out with my friends yesterday and they acted cocky and had girls all over them. So I have to ask guys who use cockiness, what is the best strategy for this to use?
ThaWholigan Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 I have cocky friends who get laid too. Here's the thing you have to understand about cocky guys: They know their demographic. A lot of girls like that sh*t, sure. But the guys in question surround themselves with social networks that house these girls in abundance. My little brother is a very outwardly cocky extrovert. Granted, he's rather short and balding, but he's popular and has never had problems getting girls at all. And even he has said to me "there are girls I meet where that cocky sh*t just doesn't pop, whatsoever!". And I've seen it with my friends too. The reason why it seems like they do so well, is that they naturally intuit the women who respond to their - for lack of a better term - game. If you are not a naturally cocky guy, then that demographic is not for you. I'm guessing you're a college kid or just out of college, so you're fairly young. Chances are, you are caught up in that demographic. It can suck ass, admittedly. I was never a ladies guy at all at your age, and that was precisely because the super-confident, cocky demeanor wasn't something I saw in myself. You say you have nothing to be cocky about, well what is it that you actually like about yourself or that you feel is a positive? And what kind of girl are you actually looking to attract?
thefooloftheyear Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 (Hand to forehead)......friggin' kids... TFY 1
Targetlock Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 i don't mind cockiness but full on arrogance is annoying. I'm not cocky and that is not who i am or what i want to be. you just got to be yourself, because that is who you are best at being, you just got to play to your own strengths. 1
peruano99 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Here is an advice OP, be yourself. Don't change just because a girl would like you more, be true to yourself, be confident, approach woman if you'd like, but do not follow the crowd. Be Unique.
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Cocky is bad. Self confident is great however. If you continue to mope around going oh woe is me, I'm not good looking; I'm not rich; I have nothing going for me . . . you will not get a girlfriend because if you don't like yourself there is no reason for another person to like you either. Try to find something about yourself that you like. Focus on your good qualities & lead with them. FWIW, you are probably better looking than you think you are.
Author Ryan R. Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 I have cocky friends who get laid too. Here's the thing you have to understand about cocky guys: They know their demographic. A lot of girls like that sh*t, sure. But the guys in question surround themselves with social networks that house these girls in abundance. My little brother is a very outwardly cocky extrovert. Granted, he's rather short and balding, but he's popular and has never had problems getting girls at all. And even he has said to me "there are girls I meet where that cocky sh*t just doesn't pop, whatsoever!". And I've seen it with my friends too. The reason why it seems like they do so well, is that they naturally intuit the women who respond to their - for lack of a better term - game. If you are not a naturally cocky guy, then that demographic is not for you. I'm guessing you're a college kid or just out of college, so you're fairly young. Chances are, you are caught up in that demographic. It can suck ass, admittedly. I was never a ladies guy at all at your age, and that was precisely because the super-confident, cocky demeanor wasn't something I saw in myself. You say you have nothing to be cocky about, well what is it that you actually like about yourself or that you feel is a positive? And what kind of girl are you actually looking to attract? Thanks for the advice. I'm trying to attract a girl I find attractive, just a normal girl I guess. It seems like all of them go for this, though.
ThaWholigan Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I'm trying to attract a girl I find attractive, just a normal girl I guess. It seems like all of them go for this, though. Well, fortunately they don't. It doesn't seem like it now, but if you expand your horizons a little bit, you'll find them. Also, it will help if you aren't down on yourself.
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