How to approach being someone's gf

[carly1976]

I posted a few days ago my ex moved on quite quickly and he's now posting on fb he is in a relationship with someone else only after a month of breaking up with me. I was devastated and i feel I went through all the feelings and overanalization i needed to go through. The truth is, I know we weren't gonna work out and now it is sinking in and I am slowly accepting all of it and learning to move on. It is still hard because i loved him and he was the perfect type of person I want for a relationship,but he wasn't able or willing to give me that type of relationship and I knew that from the start. I know that I am supposed to turn a switch to off and move on and bblablabla, but I am a girl and this is my timing… to recover from a break up and I am ok with that. I still remember the good and not so good times and because I loved him so much I need to deal with it and take my time to move on. I know he really really liked me, which helps, and I am now learning to appreciate the fact he is with someone else who probably will fit him better. I feel that from the beginning of our relationship I wasnt sure enough of what I wanted out of it and that tinted everything else. I want to be ready next time, I want a boyfriend, but how do you approach that? do you meet someone and if you like him you let the relationship take its own course and see where it goes, or do you express the fact that I want a real relationship early on? or do you just act like a girlfriend even though it wasnt discussed (see with my ex that its what happened with his current gf, they liked each other and then after two weeks she posted the "relationship tag: on fb and he just accepted it). See...I am always unsure of the relationship until he "tags" it but is that the best way to act or should I be more forward and say it up front? or act like it up front? I need advice because I want my next crush or relationship to work out, to be clear from the start, not causal and confusing...I know it really depends on two people but I wanna know how I should act...advice please