Lifegoezon Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Still thinking about him too much. Unlike many here I have no interest in contacting him directly and there is no forgiving what he did to make me dump him. Reconciliation is not an option for me and anyway he's shown no interest in that. So why am I still fretting about him? I still miss him and what I thought we had together. 8 weeks on and with no hope of reconciliation I'm still thinking about him even though I don't want to. I've filled my time and made things to look forward to. I know he was rubbish to me and I don't want a rematch. So why can't I switch him off? Fed up with it. 1
iDrumKing Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 So why can't I switch him off? Fed up with it. Because there is no switch. You have to take it day by day.
LostConfused123 Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I know how you feel. I'm a little over 4 months BU and NC. I still think of the weasel! I'm sick of it too. Just keep pushing forward. I am in a much better place than I was a couple months ago. You'll get there ((hugs,!!)) 1
nic05 Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 It's hard to switch off when someone was in your life, because usually they were involved in all your plans and things you enjoy doing. I've had to change my outlook on life entirely... I'm still figuring out what I want and who I am again. Keep busy. Try and remember what you enjoyed doing on your own or with friends, then immerse yourself in it
Raena Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 I'm at the 4 almost 5 month mark myself and I still find myself thinking of him now and again. It happens. You had a life together. You are going to think of him. But... as time goes by, it will hurt less and you will think of him less. It's happening for me already. I have no desire to get back with mine either and have no choice but to have limited contact with him so that makes it slightly harder... BUT... you know he's not the one for you so eventually you will replace all those thoughts with thoughts of something else. Maybe a hobby, or work or new friends... or something else entirely. It will happen.... keep on keeping on and you'll get through it!
melell Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 OP it just takes time.. simple as that. Your mentality will make this a much easier, and quicker process for you.
hudson701 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 It's because you still love him and there's no 'off' switch for that unfortunately. 1
chir Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I thought I'm the only one who feel this way. . i broke up with him because we are not compatible , we have no future.. I wanted him back hope he will come back telling me he loves me and will fight for a future, our future. But i know he will not. I regretted almost immediately and begged him to take me back He said I tested his limit and he is so traumatised by me. I don't want our old relationship back. I wan a new one with him. Both of us better and ready tog. That's why I have no intention to contact him even though I miss him so badly. I wish I can go into acceptance stage soon. One moment I'm well one moment I'm crying. There is nothing I can do. I miss u soo much. Y is it so easy to let me go.
Woodox Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I know how you feel, I spent a year thinking about one of my ex's and couldn't make myself stop. All I can say is it does lessen with time, when you find someone new they may help you to re-focus your thoughts on them. I still think about one of my ex's and its been three years now, not everyday but I'm OK about it because I have come to terms with everything. She was a massive part of my life whether short or long, good or bad these people can make a big impact. Just keep living your life and things will get better.
oracle Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Its normal. They are doing the same, so don't feel bad. The sh*tty part is that getting close to new people brings the EX into focus for me
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