Firehead94 Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 So we met the other day throug h a mutual friend. You can see from this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/464797-going-out-3-girls-tonight-so-nervous (not long so pls read if it may help you answering this thread) And we are already getting along so much. Weve been texting 24/7 after that day and my other friend keeps saying we look so good together and we should start dating. And next week we are going on a date 2 times, one on monday and one on wednesday. When is it ok to ask her out? I dont want to make this look rushing. but I dont want to keep holding back either. Whens a good time?
ctxinfl Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 As soon as possible. The longer you wait the better the chance she'll meet someone else and move on.
iDrumKing Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 As soon as possible. The longer you wait the better the chance she'll meet someone else and move on. I have to disagree. Dude the dating game isn't a race. When you are "talking" to a potential partner, you have to take your time. This time is crucial to get the vibe of things. It's the time where you poke into her head a little and see if you like or dislike things you hear. You leaner about things you really like, and red flags that you gotta decide if you want to pass or take a chance on.
Author Firehead94 Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 ok so when should i ask her out then? We already like everything about each other. Whats like the maximum limit till I ask her out? days? weeks? months?
ctxinfl Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I have to disagree. Dude the dating game isn't a race. When you are "talking" to a potential partner, you have to take your time. This time is crucial to get the vibe of things. It's the time where you poke into her head a little and see if you like or dislike things you hear. You leaner about things you really like, and red flags that you gotta decide if you want to pass or take a chance on. We can disagree. That's fine. Though the longer a person ponders on whether to ask someone out the better the odds the person they want will be scooped up by someone else. And he already knows the girl enough to want to ask her out. So why wait? 1
ctxinfl Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 ok so when should i ask her out then? We already like everything about each other. Whats like the maximum limit till I ask her out? days? weeks? months? If you are interested in her and she is interested in you then ask her out immediately. As in now.
soccerrprp Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 If there is mutual attraction, ask ASAP. The worst that can happen is that she tells you that she is not interested (now), but at least she knows you're interested and you made your move and you can decide to move on.
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I'm confused. If you are going out with her 2x next week you are already dating her. If you are trying to ask when is a good time to ask her to be exclusive, that depends. If you feel it fine. Personally I'd feel crowded & pressured if that conversation happened within the 1st month but I'm odd & like more space than most.
babycakees Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 So we met the other day throug h a mutual friend. You can see from this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/464797-going-out-3-girls-tonight-so-nervous (not long so pls read if it may help you answering this thread) And we are already getting along so much. Weve been texting 24/7 after that day and my other friend keeps saying we look so good together and we should start dating. And next week we are going on a date 2 times, one on monday and one on wednesday. When is it ok to ask her out? I dont want to make this look rushing. but I dont want to keep holding back either. Whens a good time? Do you mean to be exclusive or bf/gf? Cause you are already dating her if you have two dates set up next week. If you want to be her bf, then you might want to slow it down just a little. Go out with her a few times and see what kind of vibe you are getting. Plus if you ask this girl to be your girlfriend before you ever go on one date, she might get creeped out of scared off. Tread lightly...
Author Firehead94 Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 Oh im sorry, yea I meant exclusive. Like asking her to be my gf. Im turning 20 in a couple weeks and i never had a gf before so i want my first one while im in my 10s! so should i ask her next week?
Chocolat Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Oh im sorry, yea I meant exclusive. Like asking her to be my gf. Im turning 20 in a couple weeks and i never had a gf before so i want my first one while im in my 10s! so should i ask her next week? Huh? You ask someone to be your gf based on how you feel about them and the future of your r/s, not because you want a gf while you are still in your teens (assuming this is what you mean by your "10s"). 1
ctxinfl Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 OK, so you two are already dating. The whole exclusive thing is hard to say. Most people say to wait a few months. I've seen others say wait as long as six months. I couldn't wait that long. I'd say two months is probably about right. With that said, I don't think there is any particular time line for this sort of thing. My relationship went exclusive after a week. Is that normal? No, though we got along incredibly well from day one. There are others I've seen in which I didn't feel that immediate connection in which case I would have waited longer. If you feel a very tight connection with her and she does with you then ask. If you two are having sex then I'd say it is something you should talk about.
babycakees Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Oh im sorry, yea I meant exclusive. Like asking her to be my gf. Im turning 20 in a couple weeks and i never had a gf before so i want my first one while im in my 10s! so should i ask her next week? You need to slow it down! You are going to scare this girl off!
devilish innocent Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Do it in a few weeks. That gives you time to know each other and be sure. More than that is not necessary if everything is going well.
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