matteb89 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Hey everyone, I am new to the forums. My ex broke up with me a little over 2 months ago. I've remained in No Contact since the day after. I still want to contact him, and he does cross my mind every day, quite often. He immediately (the same day) began a new relationship with someone he had met just a couple of days prior to breaking up with me. So he knew this person for 2 days, I'm positive of this. Anyways.... evidently, over the past two months, his life has been pretty miserable. Of course it started out "perfect" in the new relationship. He was already little, but has lost lots of weight and looks awful. Is on lots of different meds. Has dropped out of school. Quit his job. And right now... is doing nothing productive at all. He moved in with his new significant other, and that lasted 3 weeks, because he got the new prospect in trouble. He's supposedly moving back in with him in a couple weeks... his sig/other has since, lost his job, and is in potential trouble with the law. However, my ex is getting things from the new person, like a new cell phone, gas money etc. which i feel like is what keeps him interested. One of his neighbors, is an older lady who is a mutual friend of ours. Although she avoids him at all costs, he's pretty avid about trying to see her. And so, sometimes he does get to talk to her. I asked her to keep my updated, and she does. He still talks about me to her every time she sees him, gets upset when he hears about something good in my life, especially when he found out I had been dating other people.... He would sit in his car and watch me and my friends, to see what was going on.... since the breakup, I've graduated with my BS and have moved to a much larger city (tampa, but just temporarily), as opposed to the one he lives in (population 2500). He's wanted to contact me, and she told him not to. So, he's wanted to contact my friends, and she's told him its a waste of time. I know she's looking out for me, but I'm confused. Why is he still concerned with me and my life? Does he believe that I'm going to be a back-up plan incase the new thing doesnt work? Are these signs of dumper's regret?
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