youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Alright, There is this girl I find very cute and we have been introduced by parents a month ago. Our mutuals are our parents. Anyway, I've hit her a text that time saying "we should hang out" well, it was a lil longer than that and she agreed. But after that I expected her to contact me because she is student and have final exams. That didn't happen. An hour ago, I hit her a message from facebook. Here is the convo. Me: Ahoy stranger! Her: Hello:) Her: We said we will meet but somehow we couldn't. Me: And now is the right time... How about saturday evening? Her: I will be with my parents this weekend. Haven't seen them for 3 weeks :/ how about tuesday? Me: My gym and lessons schelude is very flexible. Let's certain the date on sunday. I want to see you before our exams starts. Her: Okay then, let's try to fix a meeting for weekday. See ya. Me: Deal. I am also working full time at an automotive company and she knows I am having my master degree. So, I am an engineer & student. She is student. This semester is her last semester. I am 24, she is 22. What do you think about the convo? Would there be any spesific reason she wants to meet weekday? So we would meet less or something? Or she wants tuesday so we can meet as soon as she comes back? What do you think ?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Alright, There is this girl I find very cute and we have been introduced by parents a month ago. Our mutuals are our parents. Anyway, I've hit her a text that time saying "we should hang out" well, it was a lil longer than that and she agreed. But after that I expected her to contact me because she is student and have final exams. That didn't happen. An hour ago, I hit her a message from facebook. Here is the convo. Me: Ahoy stranger! Her: Hello:) Her: We said we will meet but somehow we couldn't. Me: And now is the right time... How about saturday evening? Her: I will be with my parents this weekend. Haven't seen them for 3 weeks :/ how about tuesday? Me: My gym and lessons schelude is very flexible. Let's certain the date on sunday. I want to see you before our exams starts. Her: Okay then, let's try to fix a meeting for weekday. See ya. Me: Deal. I am also working full time at an automotive company and she knows I am having my master degree. So, I am an engineer & student. She is student. This semester is her last semester. I am 24, she is 22. What do you think about the convo? Would there be any spesific reason she wants to meet weekday? So we would meet less or something? Or she wants tuesday so we can meet as soon as she comes back? What do you think ? Is this the same girl from your previous thread? If so, good for you for finally getting in touch! By why did you say you're flexible, then that you'd confirm on Sunday? She offered an alternative for Tuesday and you didn't take it, but said you'd have to wait several days to know for sure. Is there a logical reason? (ex. a work schedule you don't have yet) Don't wait too long to confirm. If you want to see her, agree to meet on Tuesday. It sounds like she's honestly busy on Saturday.
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Is this the same girl from your previous thread? If so, good for you for finally getting in touch! By why did you say you're flexible, then that you'd confirm on Sunday? She offered an alternative for Tuesday and you didn't take it, but said you'd have to wait several days to know for sure. Is there a logical reason? (ex. a work schedule you don't have yet) Don't wait too long to confirm. If you want to see her, agree to meet on Tuesday. It sounds like she's honestly busy on Saturday. Oh, you remember that thread. Yes, this is the girl I was talking about. Said, what the heck and wrote her after hitting gym. The thing is, I don't know if I should call it a lesson and even probably most of you will say no it is wrong but I felt like I need to show myself that I have a life. Well, I don't need to show it actually because I do have a life. Working 8am to 6pm 5 days a week. Master degree classes 7pm-10pm thursday evenings, 10am-7pm saturdays. Also going to gym 3-4 times a week, studying a lot. But my last relationship taught me that if I say "yes, I am avalaible", people tend to use it. So, I said I need to check my schelude. I will go to gym sunday and monday, so yes, tuesday is perfect for me to meet her but I wanted to be cool. If I want to have a relationship, I shouldn't play any games. But if I don't play any games, girls using it against me because I am a nice guy enough. Did I do wrong?
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 If you can meet her on Tuesday then do it. Strike while it's hot because you have a limited time window before the attraction fades. Wish I can her saturday but she is not avalaible. But I am free tuesday, I want to meet her. Even I wrote her I want to see her before our exams get frustrating in convo. I really find her so cute.
MidwestUSA Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Yes, yes, yes. Don't play it cool. Meet her Tuesday, she sounds very interested! NO game playing! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Oh, you remember that thread. Yes, this is the girl I was talking about. Said, what the heck and wrote her after hitting gym. The thing is, I don't know if I should call it a lesson and even probably most of you will say no it is wrong but I felt like I need to show myself that I have a life. Well, I don't need to show it actually because I do have a life. Working 8am to 6pm 5 days a week. Master degree classes 7pm-10pm thursday evenings, 10am-7pm saturdays. Also going to gym 3-4 times a week, studying a lot. But my last relationship taught me that if I say "yes, I am avalaible", people tend to use it. So, I said I need to check my schelude. I will go to gym sunday and monday, so yes, tuesday is perfect for me to meet her but I wanted to be cool. If I want to have a relationship, I shouldn't play any games. But if I don't play any games, girls using it against me because I am a nice guy enough. Did I do wrong? Le sigh. Yes, OP, you played this one wrong too. You've already not made a dang move for several weeks. Don't let your ego get in the way of this, or you will be back here wondering why she went ahead and made plans for Tuesday night by the time you got around to confirming. Just take the girl out, for gawd's sake!! Your game-playing didn't work the last time around. Enough. Get back to her tomorrow and tell her Tuesday would be great!!
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 If you really like her and want to move this along further, then you HAVE to find some time to meet her. Depending on the levels of attraction, the window of time is important. Wait too long and attraction level drops. The issue is not knowing how long you have. Your safest bet is to meet her ASAP. Once you meet her for the "first" date, then can you continue to keep the attraction level up. I'm a super busy guy myself but if there's a hot girl I want to meet up with, I will find the time. It doesn't have to be anything special. You can meet up for coffee or a quick cocktail. Getting that first date is key because messaging over any medium doesn't accomplish much UNTIL you meet with her in person. Messaging is a tool, use it appropriately. Here is the thing. Ofcourse I will find time for her. Even though I had to go to gym in my schelude, I could skip that because I really liked her and she seem like a very cool & chill girl. I just wanted to seem a lil busy, so I don't seem needy like "oh I am avalaible that day for you too, I am always avalaible for you, let's meet!!!". I just wanted to be a lil cool. But yes, I want to meet her asap and looking forward to meet her tuesday. I am planning to write her "I am avalaible tuesday", tomorrow or friday evening, not wait sunday. What do you think?
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Le sigh. Yes, OP, you played this one wrong too. You've already not made a dang move for several weeks. Don't let your ego get in the way of this, or you will be back here wondering why she went ahead and made plans for Tuesday night by the time you got around to confirming. Just take the girl out, for gawd's sake!! Your game-playing didn't work the last time around. Enough. Get back to her tomorrow and tell her Tuesday would be great!! Alright, I will write her tomorrow evening that "we are meeting tuesday, I'll be there near 8.30pm" etc. And then no contact till tuesday right? No need for chit chat till face-to-face meeting. Unnecessary. Ah, I hate these text games. Wish, tomorrow is tuesday and I could hug her and spin her around and make her surprised.
MidwestUSA Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Alright, I will write her tomorrow evening that "we are meeting tuesday, I'll be there near 8.30pm" etc. And then no contact till tuesday right? No need for chit chat till face-to-face meeting. Unnecessary. Ah, I hate these text games. Wish, tomorrow is tuesday and I could hug her and spin her around and make her surprised. Only you know if you want to chit chat between now and then. If she texts you tho, don't ignore her. It wouldn't kill you to let her know you're thinking about her and excited about Tuesday.
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Only you know if you want to chit chat between now and then. If she texts you tho, don't ignore her. It wouldn't kill you to let her know you're thinking about her and excited about Tuesday. I feel like I was a lil rude saying "oh let me check my schelude and let's make it certain on sunday". DAMN OP! Also it is not like a candle light date. We would go to a pub or a nice place and drink something and have good time. That's all. I doubt that she would write but if she writes, ofcourse I'd reply. Also I'd be happy if she writes. Actually I want to write her a lot too but I don't want to be pushy.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Alright, I will write her tomorrow evening that "we are meeting tuesday, I'll be there near 8.30pm" etc. And then no contact till tuesday right? No need for chit chat till face-to-face meeting. Unnecessary. Ah, I hate these text games. Wish, tomorrow is tuesday and I could hug her and spin her around and make her surprised. Honestly, that would seem weird to me. If a guy asked me out and I heard zero from him until the date night, I would assume he's not overly eager. Don't play it too cool - show the girl you're a little bit excited. This is not a bad thing, I promise! You don't need to bombard her with messages but don't shoot yourself in the foot by pretending you're too cool or busy for it. That's not a wise game to play. Some other could show more interest in the meantime and then you'll have really missed the boat. If you hadn't taken our previous advice, you'd still be wondering why this girl hasn't contacted you after you asked her out! Where on earth did you learn your dating "rules"?! Good grief, man!
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Honestly, that would seem weird to me. If a guy asked me out and I heard zero from him until the date night, I would assume he's not overly eager. Don't play it too cool - show the girl you're a little bit excited. This is not a bad thing, I promise! You don't need to bombard her with messages but don't shoot yourself in the foot by pretending you're too cool or busy for it. That's not a wise game to play. Some other could show more interest in the meantime and then you'll have really missed the boat. If you hadn't taken our previous advice, you'd still be wondering why this girl hasn't contacted you after you asked her out! Where on earth did you learn your dating "rules"?! Good grief, man! From my ex who shattered my heart and didn't give a damn about me? I always made the plans in that relationship and she was the only one saying yes or no, I had no saying. I don't want this one to be that way too. Alright, here is what I think. I don't want to overthink this but I will write her friday evening that Tuesday is great. And also write something cute on sunday like I am looking forward to see her tuesday.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 ]From my ex who shattered my heart and didn't give a damn about me? [/b] I always made the plans in that relationship and she was the only one saying yes or no, I had no saying. I don't want this one to be that way too. Alright, here is what I think. I don't want to overthink this but I will write her friday evening that Tuesday is great. And also write something cute on sunday like I am looking forward to see her tuesday. Big mistake if you're modeling your current approach on that. It is already not working, or you wouldn't have come here in the first place. Just because some things didn't work in a previous relationship does not mean you should do the polar opposite in a new one. Any way, your latest plan to contact her on Friday is fine. (I would suggest tomorrow, but I digress) A little contact over the weekend would be a good way to built up some excitement and anticipation.
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Big mistake if you're modeling your current approach on that. It is already not working, or you wouldn't have come here in the first place. Just because some things didn't work in a previous relationship does not mean you should do the polar opposite in a new one. Any way, your latest plan to contact her on Friday is fine. (I would suggest tomorrow, but I digress) A little contact over the weekend would be a good way to built up some excitement and anticipation. I really appreciate your advices. Yes, i will write her friday and also i am planning to write her sunday that "to be honest i am looking forward to meet you on tuesday evening."
MidwestUSA Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Any way, your latest plan to contact her on Friday is fine. (I would suggest tomorrow, but I digress) A little contact over the weekend would be a good way to built up some excitement and anticipation. Absolutely! I would suggest tomorrow as well, but..... In any case, if she really likes you, she's be tickled to hear you'd say that thing about hugging her and spinning her around.
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Absolutely! I would suggest tomorrow as well, but..... In any case, if she really likes you, she's be tickled to hear you'd say that thing about hugging her and spinning her around. Okay i will write her tomorow. I even want to write her now but it would be weird. Btw i am not planning to write her that. I am planning to do her that when i first meet her. That move is kind of my routine. If i am in high energy (which i am mostly when i meet a girl excites me) i always hug them and lift them on air. They love it. No exception.
Author youcanever Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Absolutely! I would suggest tomorrow as well, but..... In any case, if she really likes you, she's be tickled to hear you'd say that thing about hugging her and spinning her around. What the heck, i sent her a text now. Remember? No games! Here is the text. "I've certained my lesson dates, tuesday seems superb! Now it is time to exchange numbers. (my number)"
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