amtz Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Hello fellow LS members I have always used this great forum to find support in what I call "love terrible times". I have been more of reader rather than a poster or at least I'm not good in typing long threats since I find answers or relate to other's present or past experiences. Today I would like to give back to this great community and pass on my well learned lesson in this wheel of fortune. I'm heterosexual 27 year old male don't abuse drugs nor have alcohol issues ex-member of the honorable US Air Force PJ TEAM and currently hold a well paying job. I have never dealt with any psychological emotion from PTS or such. Why do I make it clear? So that I can confirm you all how well I'm connected to reality in my present and avoid any misjudgments. TO THE PONIT! For the past 1.6 year and so I have been in great and bad relationship.. The goods were heaven on earth the bads were hell! Out of the blue back in Nov 2012 she called it a quits after she I told her that my work schedule would change do to holiday season... With nothing more to say I had bad days and fu*cked up days... I cried and asked god tons of questions, talked to friends over and over again and everything seemed that pointed in the same direction. "Time heels everything" they said... I carried on with my life and actually dated a sophisticated girl, she was awesome with my family and friends, not like the ex but God I missed her and truly wanted her back! Two months in the break-up I finally put myself together and saw more light coming inside the tunnel Well guess what?? Out of the blue the ex texted me saying "how good it felt to see me at least from the distance." She told me she saw me pass her table at a local bar, one thing took us to another and by the end of the day we were having dinner later on having sex and getting back together.. OHH HOW GOOD IS LIFE!! Everyone told to get rid of her and to stay on track with my current plans.. "You look better alone she only harms you etc." Friends & family gave the back etc. I broke the girl's heart I was currently seeing in the process and I lament myself for that, she didn't deserve it! Within a week of being with her, the true colors came out! She demanded attention 24/7 without considering that I had a job, it was a must I had to say her after work regardless if I was tired or had things to do. I recall being late 15 or 20 minutes to pick her to attend a mutual friends b-day bash... Well all hell broke loose! How dare could I be late to pick her up (this being the first week of getting back together). This past Sunday seemed a pretty calm day... WELL I WAS MISTAKEN YET AGAIN! We had a proper lunch afterwards she made plans to meet with friends at a near by lake. I came along. As soon as we got there she started drinking one after another, she was having a great time dancing salsa and having a great time with her friends, I was more sober than water and had simply was more of an expatiator rather than being part of it. FINALY the night arrived and while driving home she asked if I would sleep over at her place. I agreed but, I needed to pick something up at a friends house, to my surprise my buddy was having a bbq and had a projector hooked up with a karaokee machine.. We were there for little less than 20 minutes when miss perfect went insane! She started singing to my face a song with "beaner in the lyrics" me having Mexican roots... She then sang a song with "puto" (Mexican word for biatch) and shouted my name right or before that word appeared on the screen. Had enough! I told her it's time to go home! And drove to her place without saying a single word.. As soon as we got there she started insulting me and I simply told her that we would talk next day when she sobers up. Her insults didn't stop and I snapped I pulled her and told her to calm the F CK UP!! She punched me several times and I managed to pull out of her vehicle and that was it! And I went back to my friends house to calm down, she came back like if nothing happened and started to tell everyone that I abused her physically I told her in a calm manner to stop! She then called a friend of her and told that person the same story, I then walked away decided to leave and she than said that the person that needed to leave was her, she more than drunk and tried to stop her... I told her to stay and sleep over her intoxication that she might cause an accident. This went on for more than 20 minutes till she got to her car and drove like crazy!! Half an our past by and a neighbor knocked on my friends door telling us that the girl who drove like crazy crashed!! To make a story short nothing bad happened I managed to cut a deal with the affected person and avoid insurance and cops. Next morning I get a call from her telling me that it was all my fault.. That if I stayed at her place everything would be different! She crashed because I let her drive, and I let her drive because I don't give to scents for her! She broke me down all over again.. I cried all day yesterday.. I find myself asking God one more time why?? Turns out to be the victim became the bad guy. Now I understand why things are over!! I'm not saying it can get messy for everyone. If you get your EX back by all means be happy!! COULDN'T BE HAPPIER FOR YOU! If you don't it's not the end of the world! Past behavior turns to be present behavior always! lesson learned.... Thanks for reading I strongly believe that I dodged a bullet!
Zahara Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 OP, you dodged a missile. A f'n missile I tell you. Please make yourself a promise that you will never revisit that again.
Mariposa10 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Sounds like a nightmare! She'll probably reach out again, so don't give in, please!! Btw, I know which song you're talking about!! I hope many people read your thread!
SammySammy Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Exes are exes for a reason. Nothing like taking them back to remind you why they were an ex in the first place. 1
dragon_fly_7 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Wow what a mess. Sorry to hear it went bad that day but do remember exes are your exes for a reason. Definitely go complete NC with her.
Author amtz Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Thank you all for your kind words and support! Today I scheduled an appointment with the psychologist to evaluate the situation and for my well being... In my unprofessional opinion and shared 1.6 years of my life a BPD partner.
Author amtz Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 sounds like fun and closure It sounds fun since you are reading.. Go through ***** like that is NO FUN AT ALL! I literally had to put up with a drunken chucky from child's play that acted like one of the "Three Stooges" while sobering up. MOST LIKELY BPD
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